Do relationships last longer if you are friends first? (Poll Included)?

[Gemstone2411]

Just wondering what other people's opinions are on it. Feel free to express it :)

Yes, they last longer

Nope

Depends

A total of 51 votes were cast: 24 girls and 27 guys. See detailed results

[AnayaWilliams]

I think so, I would say relationships lasts longer if you guys start off as being friends first and get to know each other and share some things in common. That's what thing I regret when I met my first love. I didn't get to know him is a friend and plus we were young so I just jumped and thought why not? It lasted for about 5 years year and then ended, it was a lot of commitment issues and communication, arguing, etc. He didn't know what the heck a relationship was or how to even do his part.

[Account]

I think so, but I may be biased. The majority of people I know who were friends for a pretty long time before they started dating are still together, while others are not.
Same example with me and my boyfriend. We were friends for around 6 or 7 years before we started dating.

[arrasando]

It depends
I know some relationships where the guy and girl were friends and they ended shortly. I think this is because they probably were at last or on the rebound. I have also seen long-term relationships where they started off as friends and they are still together.

[Gemstone2411]

From what I've observed, couple who are friends first either last a long time or a short time thinking 'we were better off as friends'

[arrasando]

*lust not last

[Gemstone2411]

Nope, I definitely meant last.

[arrasando]

I was correcting myself

[Gemstone2411]

Ahh sorry xD

[arrasando]

Yea 😒

[tyber1]

The current disparity in votes (3 for yes: all males, 2 for idk/no: all females) should give you a pretty good perspective into why there aren't more friend-first couples.

[tyber1]

Nevermind I guess, the results changed.

[Gemstone2411]

I think girls are more afraid of becoming more than friends with guys and that's why they 'friend-zone' them. I was the same as them! Me and my current boyfriend have been together for 2 years and we were best friends for the last 5 years :)

[tyber1]

It doesn't make sense to me. To me, the more you know someone the more you can be sure that you are compatible. Plus, dating strangers or acquaintances is probably less safe when you really think about it. You only know what they have shown you, they could be putting up a front to get you in bed or a relationship. Less likely if you are friends first. Women need to see it less as what they can lose but what they can gain.

[camcam85]

They last longer but when it's over it usually involves not being involved in each others lives anymore, even as friends.

[GoldenSunshine]

It depends, but I think there's a higher chance that they will last longer because you already know the person well (both good and bad sides) and have a deeper understanding than if you started off by dating.

[JackKerouac77]

Every relationship I've ever been in has ended up with us being friends first.

Both lasted 2+ years.

[Josh3235]

I feel like it helps because you already know pretty much everything about them. You both understand each other better so that helps you get along and makes the relationship last longer.

[NZDSTR]

Without a doubt. You actually know what the person is like before hand and enjoy their company. Way better than entering a relationship with a stranger.

[bDizzie]

Nope.
Guys who are in the friend zone don't ever escape so the relationship would not last longer.

[Gemstone2411]

I once put my current boyfriend in the friend-zone. It is possible.

[bDizzie]

Then was he truly friend zoned? Friend zone means you'll date a rock before you consider him.

[Gemstone2411]

There was a time where I didn't find him attractive at all. Then well... Alcohol makes crazy things happen.

[delrey]

I don't want to be friendzoned so no. How can you be friends with a girl without her friendzoning you? Then you'll never get to be in a relationship with her.

[Themoonlitsky]

I think so, because you know each other well before you even become a couple. So you know who you're getting into a relationship with.

[QueenofSilentFoxes]

Nope. Mine only lasted three months. We were friends for three years before we dated.

[Gemstone2411]

Maybe you just weren't good friends before?

[Gemstone2411]

Not meaning to offend though! :)

[QueenofSilentFoxes]

Ouch. We were great friends. He was my best guy friend.

[Gemstone2411]

Fair enough :)

[QueenofSilentFoxes]

The relationship fell apart because of communication issues.

But I still like him and I think he still likes me.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

No good to jump in any relationship i rather be friends for while before committing

[pavlove]

I will NEVER do it again because if the relationship ends you also lose someone who can be a really good lifelong friend so best keep the two separate unless you are sure they are the one.

[SnowHearth]

It depends, it may vary