My bf wants to be a NAVY SEAL?

[Anonymous]

About a month ago I asked you GAGERS which I should go to college or the air force (I chose to go to college and then enlist as an officer), but anyway, I also said how my bf wanted to enlist in the Navy. At the time he wasn't too sure what he wanted to do yet, at least I didn't think he was since he never mentioned it, but either way I told him I would support him. Recently, I noticed that he started doing extra workouts though and I didn't think too much of it at first, but he then increased his workouts again until he was doing it every day of the week for at least 6 hrs. I decided to ask him why he was working out so much and started playfully asking if it was for me haha he laughed and said it was partly for me but mostly to stay in shape for when he enlists. At this time I figured it would be a good time to ask what exactly he wanted to do, and he said I want to be a Navy Seal. I didn't know how, to respond, and I had to leave anyway, so I just said that I want to talk about it later. I've heard stories and have known people who became SEALS and I'm worried but I know that's what he really wants to do. I need help here!! (Really really sorry about the length and the little story but I thought it would be easier to lay it all out flat.)

[Anonymous]

Well my husband is one, and my friend is a marine scout sniper, my uncle was army special forces.
It take commitment. All I can say is he can't have another option, if failure is an option to him, if he even has a backup, he won't make it. The guys who make it... It was their only shot, their only chance. They gave it all. Also if he goes to buds tell him. Pick three guys on his boat crew, and you guys don't leave each others side, you guys don't give a shit about no one else but you four. Help your three and that's it. Especially in the beginning, you will fail trying to help others, you spend too much energy and have nothing left yourself. Have your three brothers, the rest aren't your brothers until you're seals.
My guy tried to be all for one one for all his first round in buds and got rolled and had to do it again, he worked so hard to help everyone and it messed him up, he hit so sick. Second time, he picked his guys, they are all seals now. they urged eachother one, worked out with eachother studied with eachother.
Also side note for you- DO NOT GET PREGNANT DURING BUDS! The stress will ruin you. He doesn't have time for family especially during the earlier phases

[Asker]

Thank you so much for the honesty and hopefully I won't have to worry about pregnancy

[Opinion Owner]

I've just heard about it making the guys freak and not be able to focus enough. It's a hard road. And for your own emotional stability, get hobbies and make your career your focus. Otherwise you'll have nothing when he's gone. I'm currently job hunting, so when he's away it's so boring. :P

[Asker]

I definitely will thank you again for all the advice

[Asker]

Tell your husband thank you for his service

[Autumn_stone]

If he does choose to go into the navy all you can do is support him and his decision. he'll need all the support he can get and if you are planning on staying together being strong for him and for the relationship is the only thing that will help you get through this. i'm currently going through the same thing, my fiance just joined the marines. its hard but if your strong you'll get through it :)

[Asker]

Thank you so much I'll try my best and tell your husband thank you for his service

[Weirdstuff]

well, if he's gonna be in any part of the militairy he'll be traveling a lot, so that part won't change for you in the future. isn't like REALLY difficult to get in the SEALS? odds are small he'll pass, but i admire his perseverance...

[Asker]

yeah its extremely difficult and I wouldn't want him to be too upset

[Ubetiburn]

US NAVY SEALS. That is an ambitious goal. Kind of like Sniper training or Force One Recon (USMC). If you (he) makes it past the vetting process, the educational, physical and mental stress cause a majority of the candidates to 'ring the bell'. If not that, then injuries or not having enough heart causes them to ring the bell. It is tough and grueling. Hell to be sure.

If he goes in thinking he is going to be a SEAL and have not thought up an alternative option, I feel for him. Also it is not going to happen right off the bat. Most are in for at least 3-4 years before getting a chance to apply for BUDS training. Their MOS and any additional training the get or sign up for should also be things that would help him out in missions if he was a true SEAL.

I wish him the best of luck. The last time that I checked the "failure" rate for BUDS was higher then 80%. It called the "Elite" or "Best of the best" for a reason.

[Asker]

I know another reason I was worried was because if he did fail (and I'm not saying he will) I know he has a backup plan but he told me yesterday that he's wanted this for so long

[Ubetiburn]

How does he handle rejection or failure? Also being in the service and married to another service member is hard and that is even being in the same service together if you are lucky enough to get a posting in the same place as the spouse.

[Asker]

I know about the whole spouse being married to another spouse in the military but he handles rejection pretty good and failure as well its not like he would show it if he failed

[DanAG]

If I understand right, he's not even in the navy yet. He's a looong way from becoming a SEAL. The odds of him becoming a SEAL are pretty darn slim. So I don't see any need to worry, it's just talk at this point. Working out doesn't mean a thing at this point. Besides, what the SEALs do might be less dangerous than what a lot of other people in the military do.

[Asker]

Everything you said is true but he, when he does enlist, does qualify as a SEAL even his recruiter (a former SEAL himself) says he could become a SEAL easily I'm just worried for him but I've decided to focus on the good

[DanAG]

You just have to trust in his training, which is very very good. If/when he becomes a SEAL would be sometime in the future. There might not even be any wars going on then.

There's really not much you can do about it though. Worrying doesn't accomplish much. One way to think of it, if you were able to talk him out of it, then he probably didn't have what it takes in the first place.

[Asker]

I guess so well thanks for your comment

[DIzzlegamespro]

tell him what you think about it and stick with him what he is doing is an honourable thing and what you are doing is amazing and honourable and i hope it goes well for you both and hope college goes well and hope you both stay safe

[Asker]

thanks for the comment I definitely will

[Anonymous]

A man is going to do what a man has to do, but he is going to need your support. Just like how you would want his support, he wants yours.

[Asker]

I understand that and I will support him fully when he does enlist, but I'm just worried like any girlfriend would be.

[Opinion Owner]

What has worrying done for you, but stress you out?

[Asker]

you're right I need to focus on the positives

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, like having a hunky boyfriend that is a Navy seal... Not to bring up all the bragging rights, but that is a pretty great accomplishment. Plus... etsy :) https://www.etsy.com/search?q=navy%20girlfriend

[Asker]

lol yessss!!!

[Anonymous]

Well it takes a while to become one and it isn't easy. I don't think being in the armed forces these days is a sound moral decision but it is his to make.

[Asker]

I can see where you're coming from thanks for the comment

[Opinion Owner]

You are welcome. Be safe and take care

[Asker]

You too thanks again

[jmmmfi]

Navy seals are the fuckin shit!

[Asker]

lol I like this comment

[Anonymous]

So did he ever become a Navy Seal?