Moving in with my boyfriend who is in the Navy- please help I need advice!

[luna-]

I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months and he's the most serious I have ever been. I am going to be 20 years old in a couple of months. I have known him for 5 years also

So my boyfriend is joining the navy, which is the best for him because he has no family and insurance of any kind. So he says he chose it to make a better life for "us". So he is going to boot camp and all and won't be done till I finish my second year of college. When he gets stationed it can be in San diego or Virginia. He wants me to move in with him and transfer schools. (im in art school)

My options are:

-- have him go to san diego which is really far away from ohio, go to art school there, maybe get married early so we get benefits from the navy. And they have lots of jobs for artist and a great school. expensive

--Have him go to Virginia and transfer there, which has a smaller and not as good art school as san diego or the one I'm at now. and less jobs for my field

but be closer to Ohio so I can see family

--Or do long distance to finish my last 2 years of college and risk the relationship. I still have to chose which location still though

Help please I need so advice and guidance this is life changing and I'm a little scared

[lyn123]

well I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years now.. he has been in the navy for a little over a year now.. he is in San Diego.. but he left for his 1st deployment about 2 weeks ago :( right now we are doing the long distance relationship.. it is hard but you get used to it.. my advice is to wait.. also you have to be married to live together.. also he has to live on the ship for the first year or until after his first deployment which is like 2 years.. or something like that.. it also depends on their ranking.. its a very confusing process..like once my boyfriend gets back in april we are planning on getting married and I'm going to transfer schools and stuff.. but I had to wait and I'm still waiting..

but I think your last option is the best its going to take about 2 years for him to finally get things situated.. even though your risking the relationship you should still do what is best for you..also he might not be stationed at his 1st choice.. they let you chooose but its not always the way.. it all depends on the ship.. so if you want to be with him you really don't have a choice.. you go where he goes.

well I hope I helped.. good luck with boot camp and A school..oh yeah and I think once he gets to boot camp you all will have a better idea of what you two want to do.. believe me.. they come out of there a changed man.. a better changed man.. and you will get a little taste of what it is like with the long distance relationship.. you have plenty of time to decide what you wanna do..

good luck!

[luna-]

We'll I'm staying here we've been fighting a bit. I think its because I'm stressed he's leaving and the relationship is never for certain because you never know =( hopefully it works I do love him

how much do they change after camp? and in what ways

[lyn123]

He got a lot more serious about our relationship and about life in general. they just learn and realize a lot of things that they didn't have time to reflect on. my boyfriend & I had a hard time tool the months before he was going to leave, but when that last month we had together came around he never left my side. it was hard for us cause we have been together for so long already that we were even scared to know what would happen if we were apart, but its really made our relationship stronger..