Is it rude/disrespectful to rest your legs on your boyfriend's lap?

[Anonymous]

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I love to rest my legs on him when we're watching movies or just cuddling. He never portrayed any discomfort before until recently. According to him, he never said anything before in order to protect my feelings. But recently he said that my legs were heavy and it's actually disrespectful. Am I to be blamed here? Is it really is rude? Personally I think it's romantic and cute to cuddle and rest my legs on him while we're sitting.

[Codysmith95]

Disrespectful? Is he gay? Bahaha I LOVED when my girl used to do that to me! It was a close feeling that you can't really describe, only experience. That being said, the only way it would be really uncomfortable would be if you had your full weight on his junk, but disrespectful? That's just odd, sorry haha.

This definitely sounds like something you need to bring up with him. Ask him why he felt it was disrespectful and why he didn't like it. Maybe he had different preferences, but that'd be awfully rare. I apologize if he made you feel uncomfortable about yourself, don't be. Take it from me, us guys go CRAZY for these types of things, contact like this especially when it's cuddle time.

Hope this helped! :)

[Mesonfielde]

Only if you put your shoes on my pants. I would be prickly about that. I guess you should reorganize the weight distribution a bit better so it doesn't cause him trouble.

[seasugar]

Most couples find such things as a way of bonding. If he finds your legs are heavy and it's uncomfortable then maybe turn around and lean against him instead. As for it being disrespectful, never heard of such. Could he have such a low self esteem (not judging him) that instead of him seeing it as a closeness thing he's looking at it as being only good enough to be at your feet?

[sarawelsh122]

From a girls perspective when my boyfriend use to put his legs on my lap I got really angry at him after awhile cause it's a "doormat" feeling. Like why not cuddle with me instead of resting your feet on me. It sounds weird but it feels like a "your beneath me" type of feeling. However resting your head on his legs or his lap I'm certain he wouldn't give you a reaction like that

[findingdreamland]

If you do it like in a disrespectful way, like with a dirty shoes or something like that. Yeah maybe. But just because of your weight of legs, you are not disrespectful at all. He is exaggerating. Between partners people act without asking because of sincerity. Is he one of the perfectionist, who wants things on his way? If it is, he might prefer being asked beforehand.

[Kyndra]

Mine loves it, he always asks for it himself. And honestly I've never met a guy who doesn't like that. And saying ''It's disrespectful'' is disrespectful, he could just say that he wasn't comfortable and offer another position.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he really feels the weight of your legs. Its not an usual concern. But some people do think that as a disrespectful thing. As for me, I would love that and massage her legs maybe, and maybe she can gimme a footjob if we are in the mood.

[FallenRangerz]

I don't find it disrespectful, when my ex did that to me I practically enjoyed it and just kept rubbing her legs while her feet were on me, regardless if they were heavy or not.

[Weirdstuff]

I understand if it's uncomfortable, but I find it weird that he finds it disrespectful, but it's not a big deal if you respect him by stop doing it (which I guess you have already done)

[MaskofInsanity]

I can't fathom how it could be disrespectful. Maybe uncomfortable, but thats about it. Weird.

[CommieDearest]

I probably wouldn't think anything about doing that, but if he doesn't like it, don't do it.

He really should have spoken up sooner.

[Stuff_and_stuff]

What? How in the world is it disrespectful? I mean unless you're in public or something. If you're alone then I don't see how it is rude or anything!

[d3f3cted]

i dont think so, girls always do it and i like it. its like a connection.

[meatballs21]

If I'm on the couch with a girl I am comfortable with and she doesn't, I'll actively encourage her to put them up there!

As for him, well, that's fucked up yo.

[AleDeEurope]

Not disrespectful at all, it's the opposite. I really like it because it means she's comfortable with me.

[OnceUponADream143]

I don't think it's rude or disrespectful. lol. I don't know why he said that. maybe ask him why he thinks that?

[Klaatu51]

Personally i'd find it torturing, because my legs are skinny and weak

[zorro8888]

Did you skip leg day bro XD

[Klaatu51]

@zorro888 what's this?

[Klaatu51]

@zorro8888

[chocolatedragon]

Leg day is the day people workout their legs.

[zorro8888]

What he said ^^

[Klaatu51]

@chocolatedragon i don't work out in general LOL

[rjroy3]

No it's not. He could have just told you beforehand if he was uncomfortable.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Hell tell him stop whining and appreciate i think it's sexy for girl to stretch her legs on my lap

[SakuraChii]

No it's not, as long as you don't have your shoes on and he's ok with it.

[nickstaa]

No, your bf is just a dickhead, sorry to be disrespectful lol.

[bubble_tea]

I think his rose-coloured glasses are slowly coming off... :/

[jakeofalltrades]

I don't think so, I like it when my girl does that, maybe he said that because his legs fell asleep and he was getting uncomfortable. that would be the only time I don't like it

[Matt_Wreede]

That's not disrespectful at all haha. That's really weird that he would say that

[smile4sunshine]

I don't think it is rude. Maybe he is uncomfortable and wanted to find a way to say it nicely that he is uncomfortable with you resting your legs on his.

[Anonymous]

It's not disrespectful unless you're very overweight and it causes him actual physical pain.

[xomuhh]

I don't think it's disrespectful at all. I do this with my guy friend I've been knowing for 7 years and he doesn't care at all.

[Anonymous]

Wow.. If my boyfriend said that, I would dump him. Disrespectful? Who the hell does he think he is.. Fucking asshole

[Anonymous]

For me i would find it painful BUT I have a lower back injury that's why it would be painful for me

[hearteyes]

I do that all the time. Not rude at all.

[Anonymous]

Only if he minds that.. Otherwise why would it be?