Is allowing/sitting on someones lap while in a relationship disrespectful?

[Billie_]

Yes

No

Other (Comment)

Updates

+1 y

Update: I was asking this as some girl sat on my boyfriends lap and he argued that they are friends and its normal. Thats why I am asking!

[jamesgoldman]

Yeah... I've had it happen twice

The first time was a waitress where I worked, we were both single and she was flirting that I didn't pick up because I was oblivious until things escalated a few weeks later

The second was a house party for my brother's 17th birthday when a younger girl spent a good portion of the evening making passes at me, even with a bottle of bourbon in my system I'm not a nonce so rebuffed her but she still sat in my lap as I shared a joint with her and several other partygoers then had a cigar and she smoked a cigarette before she left me alone to drink some of the vodka on offer (yeah I drank a bottle of Beam and hit up some Smirnoff)

[Billie_]

I'm talking about while you are in a relationship, if another girl wanted to sit on your lap would that be appropriate.

[jamesgoldman]

No excluding a lack of chairs

[mak16]

First of all, i am sry i selected no by mistake!!! It should be yes.
Well, my ans is a "BIG YES" i mean how could be someone sitting on someone's lap while in a relationship with someone!!!
It is a disrespect & it also shows that u have zero value of that person whom you are in relationship with!!!

But, on other side, i think it depends to whom you are allowing to sit or to whom you are sitting on it... Like if its a family member or any cousin etc... Then it'll fine otherwise if he/she is outsider & u are doing just to jealous him/her then it could bring u in a big trouble!!!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

In a committed monogomous relationship anyone other than your partner sitting in your lap or anyone other than you sitting in your partner's lap, YES... Totally disrespectful and something that should be off limits..
Unless of course it's a small child (your child, niece, nephew, etc.)
That kind of physical contact, display of affection should be for/towards your partner and your partner only and they shouldn't be doing that with
either... I definitely wouldn't put up with someone sitting on my partners lap anymore than I'd sit on anyone else's

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Per your update: No that's not normal or okay? So then ask your boyfriend if he's okay you sitting on other guys laps.. Or better yet, just do it and see if he thinks it's okay then... But why do I feel like he would have a problem with it 🤔🤔

[Maysexy]

I think it depends on your relationship. If you both like each other, this action is very flirting and it's ok. If you have a partner, it may not be great. Or you are in a good relationship and will not affect each other. (Cougr. net

[Harris_sresht]

Its disrespectful if the one getting or giving is completely unrelated. Like doing it with friends and stuff is just harmless. Doing that to anyone less than friends and more than acquaintances, thats disrespectful to the partner. Like hell. Are ya trying to flirt? With friends its understandable that its just a just gesture. Anywhere else its a problem. Its not only disrespect its also downgrading. Like feelings of possessiveness is common in a relationship. So is the feeling of "im good enough ", those feels get take major damage when someone act out differently and end up in flitting suggestive positions with others.
Please refrain from doing so unless its a common thing you do.
Like really? Do you need to do it? isn't it optional to not do it too? Y not that option?

[Swe_Elin]

Every man and woman are free individuals, disrespect comes from social structures of peoples regards to themselves and their reputation. If someone sits in a lap while in a relationship, and that hurts your self esteem that much - let go of the control behaviour.

[argyle]

Doesn't it depend on "WHY" one is sitting in the lap of another? I mean, if one is sitting on the lap of a department store Santa, that's one thing, but if we're talking about sitting in the lap of another with a penis buried in a vagine, well that's something else.

[I_Am_Sazerac]

Could I get some details? Are you allowing someone who's not your partner on your lap? If so then yes it is disrespectful. It's different if it's a family member or your own child but no other potential temptation that isn't your partner should be on your lap.

If you aren't in a relationship, then it doesn't matter unless you are trying to be with someone.

[Phoenix98]

Nah if I'm in a relationship then no one aside from my girl is sitting on my lap, her or like my little nieces or nephews, stuff like that.

And I wouldn't be cool with her sitting on another dudes lap either.

[DocT1977]

I would consider that to be pretty suspect. I can deal with hugging. Sitting on someone else's lap would seem pretty suspect. At this point, I would have to reconsider the integrity of said relationship if this were to happen.

[MAC1983]

I think it is only disrespectful if there is a flirting or even more sexual aspect involved, or the person doesn't say anything about it.

But I have no real-world idea, really. Never happened to me.

[Kaneki05]

98% of the time. 1% depends on if life long friend that is very much platonic. other 1% is for girls who like to tease there partner, like sitting on another guy's lap to provoke a more dominant jealous sex (which is a thing some girls do).

[Paolaa988]

Um yeah the guy im dating isn't gonna have girls on his lap like wtf when he's mine, he's mine.😒

[Cherokeehp]

I’d punch my boyfriend in the throat if I caught another woman in his lap.

[jspl90]

Nice violence🙄you must be a keeper

[Cherokeehp]

@jspl90 It was an exaggeration. But I am certainly a keeper. Cheating is simply unacceptable.

[kikino]

Straight to the throat. Damn girl. Like the spirit, oh that reminds me, I need to buy a throat guard.

[Cherokeehp]

@kikino I was being a bit dramatic, but cheating is unacceptable.

[kikino]

Haha. ok but I have seen similar things when cheaters are caught. And that shit is funny, terrifying, and an accurate response.
Throat punch if you must. 😂

[lanadelrey25]

No one sits on my man's lap but me. If a bitch tries it, I will fuck her up.

[AFellowWeeb]

no one's stealing your santa claus

[lanadelrey25]

@AFellowWeeb mmmkay?

[JackSmy]

Did he get hard when she sat on his lap? If not, don't make big drama, and leave it be, he prefers you!

[triff]

All types of affection should be acceptable Sitting on ones lap and looking as cute as you are I would have honoured

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If you were my girl it would be fine to sit on my lap so it's not disrespectful
now if you have a guy in your life and sat on my lap than that would be disrespectful
to your guy?

[Thatasianlove16]

If it’s not a child or an obvious joke it’s disrespectful

[Avicenna]

Very disrespectful. No one has any business doing that with anyone but a boyfriend or girlfriend if they're in a relationship

[Puppystarfish23]

Definitely 1000%. If a girl sat on my boyfriends lap id knock her head off instantly.

[worldscolide]

I would not be ok with my wife doing that.. Its not appropriate in a committed relationship.

[SandandWaves]

I never had a guy that didn't like it when I sat on him

[SandandWaves]

just seen your update. i understand that, nah, she shouldn't have done that to him.

[Zhisad]

I'm only allowing small babies and toddlers on my lap or small animals lol.