Is allowing/sitting on someones lap while in a relationship disrespectful?

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jamesgoldman · Accepted Answer

Yeah... I've had it happen twice

The first time was a waitress where I worked, we were both single and she was flirting that I didn't pick up because I was oblivious until things escalated a few weeks later

The second was a house party for my brother's 17th birthday when a younger girl spent a good portion of the evening making passes at me, even with a bottle of bourbon in my system I'm not a nonce so rebuffed her but she still sat in my lap as I shared a joint with her and several other partygoers then had a cigar and she smoked a cigarette before she left me alone to drink some of the vodka on offer (yeah I drank a bottle of Beam and hit up some Smirnoff)

mak16 · Accepted Answer

First of all, i am sry i selected no by mistake!!! It should be yes.
Well, my ans is a "BIG YES" i mean how could be someone sitting on someone's lap while in a relationship with someone!!!
It is a disrespect & it also shows that u have zero value of that person whom you are in relationship with!!!

But, on other side, i think it depends to whom you are allowing to sit or to whom you are sitting on it... Like if its a family member or any cousin etc... Then it'll fine otherwise if he/she is outsider & u are doing just to jealous him/her then it could bring u in a big trouble!!!

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

In a committed monogomous relationship anyone other than your partner sitting in your lap or anyone other than you sitting in your partner's lap, YES... Totally disrespectful and something that should be off limits..
Unless of course it's a small child (your child, niece, nephew, etc.)
That kind of physical contact, display of affection should be for/towards your partner and your partner only and they shouldn't be doing that with
either... I definitely wouldn't put up with someone sitting on my partners lap anymore than I'd sit on anyone else's

Maysexy · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on your relationship. If you both like each other, this action is very flirting and it's ok. If you have a partner, it may not be great. Or you are in a good relationship and will not affect each other. (Cougr. net

Harris_sresht · Answer

Its disrespectful if the one getting or giving is completely unrelated. Like doing it with friends and stuff is just harmless. Doing that to anyone less than friends and more than acquaintances, thats disrespectful to the partner. Like hell. Are ya trying to flirt? With friends its understandable that its just a just gesture. Anywhere else its a problem. Its not only disrespect its also downgrading. Like feelings of possessiveness is common in a relationship. So is the feeling of "im good enough ", those feels get take major damage when someone act out differently and end up in flitting suggestive positions with others.
Please refrain from doing so unless its a common thing you do.
Like really? Do you need to do it? isn't it optional to not do it too? Y not that option?

Swe_Elin · Answer

Every man and woman are free individuals, disrespect comes from social structures of peoples regards to themselves and their reputation. If someone sits in a lap while in a relationship, and that hurts your self esteem that much - let go of the control behaviour.

argyle · Answer

Doesn't it depend on "WHY" one is sitting in the lap of another? I mean, if one is sitting on the lap of a department store Santa, that's one thing, but if we're talking about sitting in the lap of another with a penis buried in a vagine, well that's something else.

I_Am_Sazerac · Answer

Could I get some details? Are you allowing someone who's not your partner on your lap? If so then yes it is disrespectful. It's different if it's a family member or your own child but no other potential temptation that isn't your partner should be on your lap.

If you aren't in a relationship, then it doesn't matter unless you are trying to be with someone.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Nah if I'm in a relationship then no one aside from my girl is sitting on my lap, her or like my little nieces or nephews, stuff like that.

And I wouldn't be cool with her sitting on another dudes lap either.

DocT1977 · Answer

I would consider that to be pretty suspect. I can deal with hugging. Sitting on someone else's lap would seem pretty suspect. At this point, I would have to reconsider the integrity of said relationship if this were to happen.

MAC1983 · Answer

I think it is only disrespectful if there is a flirting or even more sexual aspect involved, or the person doesn't say anything about it. But I have no real-world idea, really. Never happened to me.

Kaneki05 · Answer

98% of the time. 1% depends on if life long friend that is very much platonic. other 1% is for girls who like to tease there partner, like sitting on another guy's lap to provoke a more dominant jealous sex (which is a thing some girls do).

Paolaa988 · Answer

Um yeah the guy im dating isn't gonna have girls on his lap like wtf when he's mine, he's mine.😒

Cherokeehp · Answer

I’d punch my boyfriend in the throat if I caught another woman in his lap.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

No one sits on my man's lap but me. If a bitch tries it, I will fuck her up.

JackSmy · Answer

Did he get hard when she sat on his lap? If not, don't make big drama, and leave it be, he prefers you!

triff · Answer

All types of affection should be acceptable Sitting on ones lap and looking as cute as you are I would have honoured

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If you were my girl it would be fine to sit on my lap so it's not disrespectful  now if you have a guy in your life and sat on my lap than that would be disrespectful  to your guy?

Thatasianlove16 · Answer

If it’s not a child or an obvious joke it’s disrespectful

Avicenna · Answer

Very disrespectful. No one has any business doing that with anyone but a boyfriend or girlfriend if they're in a relationship

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Definitely 1000%. If a girl sat on my boyfriends lap id knock her head off instantly.

worldscolide · Answer

I would not be ok with my wife doing that.. Its not appropriate in a committed relationship.

SandandWaves · Answer

I never had a guy that didn't like it when I sat on him

Zhisad · Answer

I'm only allowing small babies and toddlers on my lap or small animals lol.

tae_ie · Answer

Are you sitting on someone’s lap or letting someone sit on your partners lap.

Shevach · Answer

Not neccessarily, if u sit in a lap of a girl no, and if u sit in a lap of some guy, just make sure ur not too close to junk, bcs otherwise it might turn into sex or someone might get the wrong idea

AFellowWeeb · Answer

oh my goodness, u guys are fkng weirdos, why can't u sit on/having ur partner sit on ur lap? hell, i had even MALE friends sitting on my lap and vice versa

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I suppose it depends. I have lifelong female friends that sit on my lap sometimes. I think nothing of it. If some random did it, yes, that would be an issue.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

I voted no cuz I thought you meant to sit on your SO's lap  My answer is yes and I'd throw her down the curb if she did that lel

Joey_Tribbiani_ · Answer

Is that your picture? The one you‘ve kept on your profile ! If thats really you.. Damnn... Such a cutie♥️

Dchrls78104 · Answer

If my girlfriend were to sit in another guy's lap, yes; it would be extremely disrespectful.

ColHathi · Answer

It sounds a bit inappropriate, yes, but it depends ofc.

SnakeEyes18 · Answer

How would it be disrespectful? Unless your really strict about etiquette maybe lol but I always thought it was a cute couple thing

Walrus_au · Answer

I'm gonna go with a big ol' NO on that one, under the assumption that everyone involved is consenting.

TallAnon · Answer

Other, I guess? It depends, but I mean, no one sat on my lap for years, so how often does that really happen, lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I wouldn’t want anyone sitting on his lap apart from family.

NightOwl8801 · Answer

Unless it is a kid that is related then no that is off limits

In_Trance · Answer

Is it ok if your boyfriend has someone sitting on his lap?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes, if they're neither your partner nor Santa Claus.

_Troian_ · Answer

It is disrespectful, I'd like to bang that girl who sat on my lap.

Jerre · Answer

I love girls to sit on my lap. I get a hardon and they love rubbing it with their butt.

Guardian45 · Answer

My lady can sit on my lap and it is NOT disrespectful.

scooogy · Answer

She'd have to be farterella to have a reason to sit on my lap then.

Anonymous · Answer

im not gonna argue with a girl sitting on my lap lol... unless she's sitting on my balls then id tell her to get the f off

Mia-Wallace · Answer

It's disrespectful for me and I wouldn't do it.

Meangurl · Answer

Yes I think it’s so disrespectful

Lynx122 · Answer

Yes that's a pretty intimate thing.

serious · Answer

Of course it is, without doubt.

chriscdi · Answer

depends whos lap you are sitting on

Massageman · Answer

As long as no one else is there

Unit1 · Answer

Yeah, it's the first step towards cheating.

Wise4myage · Answer

Its acceptable if its only for a few seconds.

UrBrotherCain · Answer

it is, I see it as flirting.

clampfan101 · Answer

Probably. I would definitely be jealous.

FCDALLASFAN · Answer

Would you be mad if a girl sat on your man's lap?

pocketman · Answer

What about 6 feet social distancing

Agem123 · Answer

Would you tell your boyfriend about it? Lol

iFarted · Answer

For some it's okay for most it's disrespectful.

kikino · Answer

Yes it disrespectful

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Yes if my girl did that I'd fuckin lose it

flashgrandad · Answer

Very disrespectful and embarrassing for everyone.

Anonymous · Answer

if he’s hot go right ahead girl

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

of course

Agape93 · Answer

On its own, nope

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