Once a cheater, always a cheater? Can he change?

[grits94]

Me and my ex (also child's father) broke up because I knew he was cheating so I couldn't trust him and that caused arguments all the time. Even though I was completely faithful and did any and everything he wanted. I never had cold hard proof but I knew I wasn't crazy for thinking it. I recently found out he has another girlfriend, and I have proof this time he really is a cheater. I want to confront him and make him feel horrible because every girl he has ever been with he has cheated on but no one could ever provery any because he's sneaky. He needs to know he isn't as sneaky and trustworthy as he thinks and he needs to stop hurting women. How should I teach him a lesson with my proof of his cheating on his new girlfriend?

[AnayaWilliams]

You can't change a person especially a cheater, if he wants to "change" he will "change" on his own. You need to move on with your life serious, he isn't going to change and you just have to except that. I had an ex who cheated on me but I've learned to never take back a cheater or even stay in contact with them. He is your ex, just move on and let him be. If he wants to cheat on girls that is on him, let him be.

[Anonymous]

He already knows all of that and you telling him won't confirm anything for him. Let him go if he cheats on everyone, you won't change him from cheating on you. Move on for yoursel and your child miss... you have been very strong.

[butterfly713]

If he is your ex now is none of your business anymore. That's a good thing for you. It's not your problem now, let someone else deal with that and you just can find a boy toy or focus on the kids ideally.

[grits94]

He cheated on her with me

[vet31bSoldier]

Honestly, since he your *ex*, I think it is none of your business what he does now, as long as it isn't affecting you, which it isnt.

You sound like you are an immature young woman, and you really need to move on.

(go ahead, comment back and tell me im wrong, and how)

[grits94]

It affects me if he cheated on his girlfriend with me

[grits94]

Let me clarify a little extra detail. He swore he didn't have a girlfriend and we slept together and he was talking about wanting to be qith me again and everything else and then I found out he was dating the same girl he cheated on me with. She needs to know and he needs to learn to stop hurting people because it hurts me to know I basically helped him cheat and it's hurting her because she's the one being degraded by him cheating.

[vet31bSoldier]

LOL ty for the clarification bc wow... ya... without the clarification... ya... lol

Ok that is a little different. Personally, though, you were kinda stupid for fuckin him again after he cheated on you

[grits94]

Yeah it wasn't the smartest decision but it happened. Now I just want to confront him. I know it may not change him but since he'll know that everyone else will know he's a cheater and how bad he's hurting people maybe it might wake him up a little. I just don't know exactly how to confront him because I can't make him too mad since we do have a kid together. I just want him to tell her what he did.