Anyone (guy or girl) not wanting to be public with their significant other clearly indicates that there's something about the relationship that makes them somewhat ashamed on some level about it. The severity of this varies but the truth holds: he feels unsure about how others would think about the two of you. He said so himself, he doesn't want to DEAL with others' reactions to it. Why does he have to DEAL with anything unless the reactions would be negative?
He might like you a lot but might fear judgement from the friends that he hasn't quite told yet. On the other hand, it could be a worst-case scenario where he's got someone on the side that he doesn't want to alert with flashing lights and fireworks over Facebook that he's cheating. I can't tell you which it is but you'd do best to be cautious with this guy.
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That's an immature reaction on your part. Maybe he's like me doesn't want his relationship analyzed and judges on something as dumb as Facebook. I never change my status. If I care for you to know, I tell you in person. It has nothing to do with other girls and then knowing like I'm wearing a sign.
Facebook is a fake, life is real. If you're real and exclusive, f the internet. Don't sweat the small stuff like this that means nothing. You're being overly paranoid.
Ps. Fb is gonna start charging for membership in November I heard so why even bother worrying about it?
Now if he denies being with you to people, THEN you need to worry.
It sounds like to me that you want this to be public because "Oh hey everyone! I have a boyfriend now! and he's mine! No one else's, look at me I have a boyfriend!!" instead of "I am in a relationship now, and I'm so glad I have this person in my life". See the difference? Its coming across like you have something to flaunt to show other people, like boasting to make yourself feel better. It comes across as insecure.
Ew, that's annoying. I can't stand when guys "don't want to deal with people's reactions." That's pretty much code for, "I don't want people (girls) to know I'm dating someone, ergo I haven't told anyone about you." A guy you're dating should want to let people know you two are dating. Red flags are goin' up.
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It seems like you care more about the status of having a boyfriend/relationship rather than caring about the relationship itself "facebook official is not important, I just see it has you being superficial"
Sorry If I am too honest!
Hope it helps :)I think you both need to change your mentalities a little.
He is worrying too much about what other people think.
You are viewing a romantic relationship as a power struggle.I wonder if a girl like you would make me get a Facebook to post me as being in a relationship with you.
Just as it's important to you, it's not something he wants to do. Instead of questioning it, at the very least talk about it.
Because yeah, it is stupid anyways.I'm so glad I don't have a Facebook lol. I avoid so much unnecessary and pointless drama.
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