He doesn't want it to be facebook official

[jeanie721]

My boyfriend and I started our relationship and we put it on facebook, but we broke up and got back together and never put it back on. now its about 2 months later and it kinda bugs me. I understand how he doesn't want to put it on because that's how I felt before, but I found text messages on his phone to anything girl-but that's another story.

should I make him put it as facebook official? I feel silly making such a big deal out of it. I know if he will cheat that won't stop him, but at least people will know.

am I being silly to be bothered by this? or is he just playing me?

[Bmf-wallet]

I had a bad experience with facebook relationships before. Well it wasn't really facebook's fault it was more the girl in question was immature. For instance, for the most trivial things like the once a week going to watch football for 2 hours. Bang! I'd only find out I was single if I checked facebook, she'd of deleted me and blocked me and the strike up a conversation with a mutual friend and know for a fact I'd see the gaps in the conversation and realize I was now single. Then you got that awkwardness when you put it back to "in a relationship with ?" people just tend to view you as over dramatic. It's no big deal, it's not really important and usually most facebook friends are just people you knew and what matters most is the fact that you are together and your closest friends and relatives know that. Incidentally I just leave mine blank from now on and the last time I found out I was ditched via facebook, she had a new boyfriend the very next day who happened to be a mutual friend and posted pictures ha. Wasn't funny at the time but, maybe my view of the relationship status is a bit biased nowadays. But seriously, Facebook is a nuisance at times and you should discuss it with him if it's troubling you.

[jeanie721]

I'm sorry to hear that. And I defiantly agree. In the past when I have broken up with boyfriends what kept me hesitant was that it would be on facebook and everyone would remind me by asking! that sounds ridiculous but it's sadly true.

Facebook can be a blessing and a curse.

[pleasestopme]

The reason people (myself included) are wary of putting relationships on facebook is that you don't want to be one of those people that has a new relationship every week. It doesn't look good to your friends and family, and I always make sure that the relationship is going to last awhile before putting it up for everyone to see.

[jeanie721]

Oh I agree, but we have been dating for about three months now.

[Anonymous]

If he's not able to commit on facebook (which is so trivial anyway) he's probably not ready to commit his full self to you in real life. I had this problem and it was because he wanted to keep his options open with other girls and since he was embaressed to tell his friends and family (they didn't like me for ridiculous reasons so he didn't want to get yelled at). If it's not because of being open to other girls or hiding from friends that wouldn't approve, I doubt there's other reasons since he had it on there before. Sorry to say it but unless he's willing to share his relationship with you to the world, odds are it won't last much longer anyway since he's not fully commiting. P.S. since it is such a silly thing, it shouldn't be that big of a deal for him to do it for you if it'll make you happy right? Unless he doesn't care about you being happy :( Bring it up again since it's important to you and it should be to him. You don't want to be with someone that is hiding you for whatever reason.

[jeanie721]

So true! Thanks =)

[enlightenment]

same thing happened with mine...just change your to swinger or in a relationship with a guy friend. When he asks you can say its just for fun, no biggie. Cause really its not, but then maybe if he is the one starting the convo you can get somewhere.