Tough spot man, I feel for you here.. Sounds to me like this relationship is in need of some serious maintenance because this recipe right here is the right ingredients for things to to get really sour.. Is it safe/fair to say she is cheating for sure? Not 100%. Remember though, cheating comes in different forms other than sexual relations.
You have every right to be concerned and upset here, and I would be too. And I know that it may seem easier to confront the male in these situations, but most of the time this is not necessary and will not help. It's usually only needed to do that sort of thing when the male is being threatening and/or she has told him clearly that his behavior makes the woman feel uncomfortable and that its not appropriate and still doesn't stop. It's important that you remember to keep the issue between you and her, because that is exactly where this issue is. It's a problem between you and her. This interaction with the male is a symptom of the problem, you need to focus on the cause of the problem here.
-->A good GF will draw out boundaries to other men and not tolerate them crossing them<--
And this is precisely the problem here. She is not doing so. And acting with jealousy towards that will only inflame this situation.
And the whole "I dont want to break up with her in fear of her life crumbling." Never mind that BS. Sorry to be blunt but and although I understand whole heartedly, that is just not healthy behavior on your part and not a healthy reason to stay in a relationship.
My advice here would be to have a very serious talk with your girl. And let her know that you take this as a very serious threat to your relationship with her. No accusations, nothing like that, just let her know where you stand and be firm and not confrontational. Then with time let her true colors show for how much respect she has for you and the relationship. And be prepared to stand your ground and walk away.
Hope this helps man, good luck.
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I was in this situation once... It wasn't pretty. I've never physically cheated on my boyfriend, however when he would get jealous and accuse me of cheating I would text my male friends. The simple fact that he was constantly telling me he truly believed I was cheating on him, made me WANT to cheat. I had a few conversations about what we could do if I was single... He asked me to leave my boyfriend *at the time* but I loved my boyfriend and didn't want anyone but him. I deleted one conversation simply because I realized what I did was wrong and I shouldn't have done that- never did it again. He ended up looking through our conversation and noticed pieces missing... He asked the guy to send a copy of our messaged from one date to the next date pretending to be me. I wasn't proud of it, I realize I should have left him when I figured out I was unhappy with him not continue and play games.
It could be because his text doesn't matter to her... I'm a tomboy, all my friends are guys, I find some attractive but not in the sense of that way. You clearly trust her enough to date her and to let her get to know the real you... why let something as small get in your way?
It may just be that he's into her and she's being nice, but if a guy sends a girl shit like that when he knows that she's taken is disrespectful toward you. She should not let another guy talk to her like that when she is with you. I think she's hiding something
I think she likes the attention even if she isn't totally acting on it. You two may want to reevaluate your relationship. You have trust issues and she has secrecy issues and all of that spells disaster.
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