I cry everytime I argue with my boyfriend is it because im scared or? Please be serious!!?

[Anonymous]

Whenever i argue with my boyfriend i tend to end up crying, am i being scared, weak, paranoid of breaking up or something else? My boyfriend once said "you can't cry away everything" and that it's not fair :( but its a girl thing right? Every girl is emotional when it gets to arguments, should I keep doing this or be strong for myself? I have made my boyfriend cry a few times but yeah idk? I love my boyfriend very much and sometimes all i could show him is tears to show him how much i love him?

[Paris13]

This relationship of tears and fears, sweetie, is telling me it may happen more often than you care to admit. And if you have him crying the blues right along with you, then there is a problem that is no Paradise but Trouble in Paradise that seems like a War of the Roses here.
Sit down and have a serious convo. Open lines of convo is one of the most important factors in any new or old relationship. Without it this will go dead in the water real quick like a drowning duck with no leg to stand on.
There may be insecurity issues that need to b e addressed. End the madness and put this to bed so you both don't end up breaking the bough where the cradle may fall.
Good luck. xx

[Asker]

Aw thanks that does help :) i hate to admit but i hate crying it always makes me sick :(

[Paris13]

It's not healthy to fight but kissing is always fun when making up.:)) xx

[Asker]

He does end up kissing me at the end and saying sorry for everything he said

[Paris13]

I hope everything is koshore here and that you both can come to some agreement to lock horns less, lip lock more and be happy. xx

[labbie87]

I would say its just a way of expressing your emotions... especially if it's a sensitive (or potentially repeated topic... you could be frustrated & the frustration overwhelms you to tears.)

I'm the same way... I cry out of frustration, fear & worry... anger... guilt... whole schmorgisboard lol Spell check? Anyone? Haha :)

[DreamHope]

What kind of things are you arguing about? Some things are worth crying over and some aren't.

[Asker]

We argue over my past, he still wants to know more but i told him i don't wanna talk about it, i just wanna start a new life, it went on for a couple of days and I just couldn't help it but cry because i didn't know what else to do coz im his first girlfriend i wanna make it special for him?

[DreamHope]

In that case, it's completely understandable to cry. I think you're afraid of hurting him and afraid of him rejecting you.

[Asker]

Omg so you do get me. What do i do to make him feel better well special

[DreamHope]

So that he can trust you, you may need to share a little bit of your dating past - without going into detail or sharing too much, and clearly showing that you regret it and that it was a mistake (s). Show him that you're much happier with him than any past boyfriends and that you really appreciate his innocence (don't use that word...). Be very understanding and forgiving of mistakes since it's his first relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you so much that really helped me a lot :) what could we possibly be doing just to show him that i am happy to be with him?

[DreamHope]

Thanks for MH :-)

Just be excited to do little things with him, any thing. For example, if he's about to do grocery shopping, go along with him just so you can spend more time with him!

Give him lots of hugs. Send him sweet text messages. Do little unasked favours for him occasionally, like washing up his dishes when he's out.

[DreamHope]

Show him you're happy to see him every time you see him - smile and run to greet him!

[Asker]

No problem it really does help :) im still learning tho but he loves me and thanks for being so helpful if i could give you every cents to every word you teach me i would, thank you so much i really appreciated it especially for a guy like him he would be pleased (: thank you again hope you have a good Christmas and a happy new year :) xo

[DreamHope]

Thank you so much :)
Merry Christmas!

[Tdieseler]

Everytime? really? I believe it is because you are too emotional. never good. I like the fact that your bf cries sometimes too.. but I'm a little iffy because you said "i have made.."
You guys need to work on compromising. I recommend GOJF cards as a start since you guys sound too emotional. Whenever an argument starts, someone can sacrifice theirs so no one has to end up crying. the sight of someone crying "tears the soul a little" i read that somewhere. So cry when necessary. If you are willing to try it, i can teach you. It won't be the first time it has worked.

[Asker]

Well not all the time haha but thanks tho i really need help when we argue id always end up crying. It would be much appreciated if you do thanks :)

[Tdieseler]

its really not hard.. message me, i'll teach you how to do it and how to bring him on board too. the hard part is how to teach you lol. also this method tends to make relationships last longer than they would have because of a comfort you will see later.

[Asker]

Okay sure :)

[beesod]

Normal. For guys too. Be glad you are emotional and embrace it. Try to work on your communication skills together with him. The better you can express and discuss those feelings the better you can understand each other. As a result you'll argue less and save time for enjoying each other instead.

[Asker]

Thanks means a lot :)

[beesod]

No worries. There's nothing wrong with being emotional. It's a bonus believe me.. Even if it doesn't feel like it:)

[Asker]

Yeah I guess so, but then i make myself look bad because he's the one that's not crying, we do end up sort out everything at the end by the way.

[HorrorFan]

The problem with crying every time you argue is that eventually it's going to lose it's power. Your boyfriend or any future boyfriend is just going to associate it with any old argument and eventually dismiss it as 'just the way she is' so when you are super upset in the future and actually have something to cry about he's going to come off as cold or lacking empathy and make the situation worse.

[Asker]

Thanks ill try not to be too emotional 😊

[JohnScofield787]

You are being a little manipulative. Maybe you don;t mean too... but if someone cried every time we argued I would get very frustrated personally. And you already admitted you can control it to some degree.

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[Anonymous]

Stay strong for yourself. I was like that but one day I asked myself" why do I cry"
It made me annoyed with myself. If the argument is big and hurtful crying is going to happen but if it's over small things just try not to. Its cute but the cuteness turns into juat being a big ass baby, not calling you that by the way, just saying.

[Shut_Up_And_Marry_Me]

If it's normal for you, it's normal. I think if you suddenly stopped it would be weird. He might think you don't care anymore.

[Asker]

Cheers :)

[Shut_Up_And_Marry_Me]

I think it's awesome, personally. Very feminine.

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[Shut_Up_And_Marry_Me]

No problem :) Be proud that you are a feminine girl in a world of mannish chicks.

[Asker]

Aww i am? Sometimes i feel sorry for him but it's the least i could do, we do end up sort things at the end :)

[Shut_Up_And_Marry_Me]

Ya :) Crying defuses things :) Sucks to be a mannish chick. They have no such tool.

[Anonymous]

Even i cry everytime when we have a fight... i try too be normal and i try too be strong btt my tears dont stop... btt i seriosuly feel tht noww its time wee girls should bee strong and stop crying.. and act maturly and wisely..

[BlakeTheFlirt123]

How many relationships have you had?

[Asker]

This is my fourth and im his first

[BlakeTheFlirt123]

Do your relationships ever end badly?

[Asker]

No not really, it just don't feel the same anymore

[BlakeTheFlirt123]

You probably are just afraid the relationship is going to end if you speak up more. Although I don't know if this is bad or not... I'm sorry. My girlfriend cries too.

[Asker]

And how does that make you feel? Like is it not fair or do you feel annoyed?

[BlakeTheFlirt123]

Honestly I just feel bad. When it comes to that I always try to make her feel better. I hate seeing people I love cry. It hurts to much on my end. Sadly, not all guys are like this and do not think the way I do.

[Asker]

Aww your such a sweetheart, yeah my boyfriend is totally the same, he feels bad and try make up for it, but i guess the only way it would work if you guys actually talk with each other see what's up and just sort it out :) we do end up sort things out at the end but i myself hate the fact of crying, it shows im weak but it's love im trying to show and sometimes i think it's annoying him I don't know :/?

[BlakeTheFlirt123]

It's good that you guys talk. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship, that is, in my opinion at least.

[Asker]

Thanks you're awesome, hope you and your girlfriend will be together forever coz she's lucky to have you :).

[BlakeTheFlirt123]

Hey... wanna PM?

[Asker]

Um... Sure?

[BlakeTheFlirt123]

Alright well you might have to send me the first messages cause I kinda can't since you are anonymous...