Why am I scared of arguments with my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Hi

Whenever my boyfriend and I have the slightest argument , I get such a fear that he will leave me, therefore I stop the argument even if I am right, even if it hurts in my chest.

Whenever anything like that happens, my fear of abandonment arises and I end up getting scared he will dump me and crying. Especially if he doesn't reassures me he loves me afterwards, I get nauseos at the thought.

I know I have some past trauma, but I never knew it could get this bad.

He really has patience for me, but I'm slowly starting to notice I am annoying him because of this. How can I possibly change this mindset?

[Changiis07]

I think you should be able to get your point across without any arguing and also love yourself enough to know that you will be okay if he leaves. It's not good to be in a relationship if you cannot communicate and understand each other You shouldn't let past trauma affect you, instead learn from it and move on