INTJ problems? How can I find a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

If I am an introverted INTJ (INtrovert intuitive Thinking Judgement) How can I find a girlfriend? I ten to over complicate everything... So I ruin it.

[Punkbuster107]

I'm an INFJ who borderlines on everything except for "N".

You have to find ways to use your active mind to do things other people do reflexively. Read books on relationships (I especially recommend the 5 love languages). You should be devoting that thinker of yours to collecting all the information you need to solve for Y in the following equation: [Hard work] x [Y] = [Successful Relationship]

Rather than over-thinking things that ought not be over-thunked, focus on ways to spend your brainpower on things that will be taken as thoughtful and sweet. A girl who is used to men who act reflexively and don't put much extra thought into a relationship will be really flattered when you come to her with personalized and creative gifts, date plans, notes, acts of service, and words of affirmation etc. Keep your brain busy enough serving the relationship in thoughtful ways, or doing other productive things, and maybe your extra processing power won't turn against you.

Best of luck!

[Asker]

thanks!

[Knightcastle]

Let her find you. Go out meet people and socialize.

[Asker]

lol that's the thing. INTJs like me don't socialize. My best bro does that stuff. (ENTJ)

[Knightcastle]

I'm introverted as well. It's not gonna be easy but it's possible. The more logically you think about it the worse it's gonna be. Women make no sense and anything can happen.

[Asker]

amen brother

[Guysvsgirls]

I think I'm also a INTFJ. I know it's hard, hence I haven't dated yet. :p but I would personally be attracted to someone that's shy and think things. Sometimes you just gotta make the first move and say hi. It'd be best to approach her in a quiet place, so you can focus energy and not get too nervous. Good luck!

[Asker]

lol haha yes. Thankyou XD

[Anonymous]

I think I know who you are lol but just try to relax your mind or wear a rubber band in your wrist and when your about to be judgmental snap the rubber band on your wrist to stop you this method helps a lot of people

[sirspauldo]

How do you know who he is based on that information? All he said was he's an INTJ and has trouble with girls lol

[Opinion Owner]

Lol @sirspauldo there was one guy with that info in his bio but I looked back at it and its not him it said infj I think or infg

[Asker]

Name's SaiyanArtist

[Opinion Owner]

Omg you didn't have to tell your identity sorry

[sirspauldo]

Gotcha, I'm an INFJ :O

[Opinion Owner]

Gaspp lol ok whatever @sirspauldo

[Asker]

its cool