Are long-distance relationships maintainable?

[ThatGuy98]

I'm a 16 year old guy that has a pretty big crush on a girl that lives in another city. We met at a summer camp and we've stayed in touch since then, she is coming to my city for a new year camp and I'll try to get to know her better&possibly taking our friendship to a "deeper" level.

I was however wondering if it's even possible to have a long relationship when a) both are 16 years old
b) neither of us has a car
c) we don't know each other super well?

[Anonymous]

At your age I wouldn't recommend one. I feel that someone as young as you needs to have an "easier" relationship where you can go on fun dates regularly. Long distance relationships are hard, I am in one. I generally (regardless of age) always tell people that they shouldn't start anything long distance unless 1. they can see each other regularly and 2. they know that one of them can realistically move in foreseeable future. If there isn't this "light" to look forward to it's very very hard and has led to break-ups in many cases.

I think it would be best for you to simply stay close friends for now. Although I know you can't control your feelings. But who knows, maybe in the future you will attend the same college, or live closer to each other.

[Souma95]

Perfectly said! She should get MHO x

[ThatGuy98]

You've got a solid point, problem is though that she is very beautiful so I don't think she will be singe forever lol. Other thing is that when you go to university you are going to have a long distance relationship regardless and this could be a good time to "practise".

You're right though and really I wouldn't even think about this but she really is the "perfect" girl which makes me wonder that if I don't try, I will be thinking "what if" for the rest of my life :(

[kellyart]

It can work but your gonna have to physically see and hear each other's voices and eventually get a car and meet halfway or something. A text message isn't the same as a hug or kiss if u get that far. Hope it works out

[ThatGuy98]

That's what i was thinking, of course we can meet on other camps and maybe we could visit each other by train sometimes but it won't be often...
Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I am in a long distance relationship right now. It takes a lot of work, but can be done.

Here are some tips:

1) communicate as much as you can. Texts, phone calls, Skype, letters. There is no such thing as too much communication. My girlfriend and I text all day and phone call at least once a day,

2) be VERY open about your feelings. You will miss each other. You will be insecure. Talk to each other about it. Be honest and don't worry about coming off as needy or clingy.

3) meet when you can.

[ThatGuy98]

Good tips, thank you and good luck with your relationship! :)

[Michaelfreltofte]

Yeah Its possible. Its just not sure thats its gonna work for a long time.

[ThatGuy98]

Yeah exactly, that is why I don't want to start something that is going to end that fast. But I guess we'll have to see ^^

[FairEnough]

It is possible but please, young love is hard and I did not understand why at first but I've learned it now. Make sure you both get to know each other better before you get together if you plan to! A good connection and communication is very important especially long distant!! There will be misunderstandings.

[abundantlyrich]

Not for your age.

[ThatGuy98]

Ok thanks for your answer!