Do long-distance relationships work?

[alonso]

Researches have shown that long distance couples tend to have the same or more satisfaction in their relationships than couples who are geographically close. Do you agree? Do long-distance relationships really work?

[blunty]

Absolutely, long-distance relationships can thrive, but they're a bit like tending a garden from across a fence—you've got to put in the work from where you stand.

Talk it out: Chat like there's no tomorrow. Texts, calls, video chats – whatever it takes. Share the silly, the serious, and the mundane. It's like those little text bubbles can bridge the miles.

Trust is a must: It's the glue that holds the whole thing together. If you're second-guessing their every move, it's like poking holes in your pool floatie—you're going to sink.

All in or nothing: If it's going to work, both of you need to dive in. You can't swim the distance with one foot on the shore.

Enjoy your own jam: Having your own life isn't just cool, it's crucial. It means you're not just sitting around, tapping your foot, waiting for a call.

Plan like a pro: Where's this going? When's the next visit? Having a game plan gives you both something to count down to.

Ride the waves: Sometimes things get choppy. The key is to learn how to navigate those waves without tipping over.

Dating in digital style: Netflix and chill can still be a thing. Press play at the same time and boom, you're laughing at the same jokes or biting your nails during the same thriller scenes.

Long-distance love isn't just possible; it's a testament to the saying "where there's a will, there's a way." But let's be real—it's not all heart emojis and goodnight texts. It's also missing their snoring, believe it or not. Regular heart-to-hearts about how you're both really feeling can help keep things as smooth as your Wi-Fi connection should be.

[RoseySarah]

I agree till something happens and it ends!

Usually in ghosting or blocking the other not wanting to say why.

That side is very unhealthy cause couples usually argue and work on things.

Long distance is way more one sided and quickly ended with little regret.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think there is a lot of cheating going on from both parties in the shadows. I'm speaking from the perspective of being an old sailor overseas and I would see it a lot. The women were usually the first to break up and start a new relationship with someone close if they were the ones who were displaced. The dudes would cheat or fuck whores or whatever, but they'd go back to that chick once the time was right for that. So I guess I've seen it work... but there was always cheating and a whole lot of shit going down. Between the sexes... I'd say it's more likely to work if it's the male that is out and about and the woman stays in her home area.

Either way... that distance is going to equal some desires not being met. The cheating is GOING TO HAPPEN. It just is.

I'll put it like this... young woman shows up at our command... married or so committed to her boyfriend and all that from back home. We placed bets on how long until that bullshit was out the window. Some did last over 6 months, but eventually it happens. Only the really ugly women or men that you'd guess are stereotypical INCELS had the ability to not just start fucking new people. But like I already said... the women would break up if they were out there. A lot of the dudes wouldn't break up... that's the biggest difference I'd see between the sexes.

[dynamicyandere]

LDRs have worked in my case. But, they require a lot of trust and effort and communication to nurture and cultivate an emotional bond.


Casual LDRs are easy and it’s debatable whether or not they should even count as relationships.


But, if you want an LDR to develop into an actual marriage, that takes work.



Everything is harder with LDR, (e. g. emotional support, expressing love languages, conflict resolution, logistical challenges, etc.) but it’s not impossible.


I was in an LDR for about 4 years before flying out of the country to meet my girl’s family.


I got my own apartment and everything and have been staying in her country for about a year. (While, flying out to surrounding countries and back to renew my visa of course.)


Everything has been a lot easier close distance as compared to when we were long distance. (In terms of meeting each other’s emotional needs and keeping the relationship strong.)


Before, we were separated by 12,000km of ocean and a 15-hour time-difference.


That was challenging.


But, thankfully, our relationship made it through that, and we’re going strong.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Almost never. You either relocate to their city or give up an idea of dating them.

[Paris13]

It Can. Takes Two to Tangle and Tango in Making the Effort to make it Work. xxoo

[RingOfFire]

All depends on the individuals involved. Until you meet someone in person and spend time with them, it is more of a fantasy relationship than a real one. So I would say the vast majority of LDRs don't work out. But then again the vast majority of non-LDR relationships don't work out either. Most people have to go through many of them before achieving success.

I think a successful LDR is possible for some people, but not most. The first question you always need to ask yourself is why you need to go so far to meet someone? Sometimes that is a sign that you are really afraid of a relationship and that's a way to make it less likely.

[Simslover92]

So far it's working for me and my boyfriend via keeping in constant communication with each other. It can work but you just have to both put in the effort to keep the communication going and if you're close, seeing each other as often as possible. Like we try to see each other at least once a month because we are only about 2 hours away from each other.

[midnightmoon05]

Hubby and I were in one for 4 years. We had our challenges till he woke up and realized to make the changes…we both did… moved to a new state together and been married since.
we met here on gag 7 years ago.

it worked for us for 4 years becuase we both had money and time to see each other often and for long period of time… like a whole summer or long weekends… we saw each other every 3-4 weeks … most people don’t have such prrevillage.

[ArrowheadSW]

It can be difficult. I have been in long distance relationships and for me, they didn't work in the long run. One relationship was going real well but our work schedules often conflicted and in spite of only being 2 hours apart, we would go a month without seeing each other.

[Sasha0426]

All relationships are valid. There’s no rule on how you should find your forever person. It could be close by. It could be in another state. It could be in another country.
All that matters is you two are happy and you find ways to make it work. And, hopefully, one day you’ll live together. Whether it be you move where they are or vice versa. Or even decide to live someplace else in the world.
It’s not for everyone, and that’s ok. That’s between you two and no one else.

[Anemone978]

Depends.. I don't think most people can do long distance.. but I did it and it was completely fine.. though I think we were obsessed with each other since we used to video call everyday for like 5 to 7 hours lol

[MorningDew90]

One of the pillars of the relationship is making it deeper by spending time together and learning each other. I'm in such a relationship year already, and I think I am used to it. He wants to move further. I like things as they are. Probably, it is only friendship from my side.

[JacobJordan]

Long distance is far harder. My wife and I are married and while we are working on getting my citizenship to Europe in place we spend 3 months apart. We talk 4-6+ hours a day and when together spend all our time together. One needs to put in the effort to make it work.

[love_conquers_lust]

Nope. Women complain about guys playing video games in real life relationships, playing in a virtual world. How are LDR any better whether it’s via text, voice, or video? The internet is a good tool for education and communication to inform us on real life relationships. It becomes a problem when people start living online. Use it to become aware of each other’s presence, sure. But a physical date MUST be in the immediate future or it’s no different than a video game. It isn’t real.

[love_conquers_lust]

LDR=virtual relationship

[Anonymous]

I think long distance relationships can work because I consider the relationship I'm in now long distance and even though we live in the same city we're on opposite sides and it's been a few months since we've seen each other in person but we have text conversations almost everyday

[BadApple69]

Sorry to say no they don't work. It's sounds pretty that love will win out but the truth is biology actually wins... Too much time apart and you both will find someone local to have sex with. I know because it happened to me.

[Sasha0426]

It happened to you but are you sure that’ll happened to everyone else?

[BadApple69]

No, I can't say it'll happen to everyone. That would be a silly statement. But I can say it's happened to several people I have known to have a long-distance relationships. People get lonely and someone who is close wins out over someone who is far.

[genericname85]

the question should be: are you willing to do the work it takes to make it work? the statistics aren't in it's favor. but that's cause it really is work and i think most people realize they can find a new partner.

[exitseven]

I did one for 3 years. I was miserable the whole time. Finally I realized it was a dead end and I ended it. It is 3 years of my life I will never get back.

[Lisia]

It can. If both put in the effort and stay loyal.

[sheikalana]

Only temporarily and if you have a clear ideia of when you guys are going to reunite again. I'd say most of the times it's a waste of time.

[Unit1]

Simply said: More no than yes.

It is generally not sustainable and not something I'm planning to maintain.

[jamesgoldman]

I personally say no, my exes agreed hence we broke up amicably when that situation was tabled

[In_Trance]

The research you read is bullshit

[Likes2drive]

I don’t think so since they can’t go see each other when they want to

[Carina0]

I used to think they could work but not anymore. It's gonna end bad at some point

[DextroShade]

No, they don't unless they are serious planning to eliminate the distance.

[boggboss]

Dor people that try to make them work

[m33ladEmjay]

NO! of course not.

[MaxUsefull]

Nope, only for a short term

[Anonymous]

Nope, they either fissel out or explode.

[Nifrayu]

They can.