Do Long distance relationships work?

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Seinna · Accepted Answer

Only if you have a clear plan for your future together and you're able to specify when it will come true. And I think it works best for people who are marriage minded because that gives them a clear goal to wait for.

Also having met many people online, I think it's only possible if you met them in person. Otherwise you won't "feel" them, you won't really know what they're like. My boyfriend is in a different country right now for a few months and when he comes I need time to just get used to him physically, to get familiar with his material side even though we talk often and we've been together for many months before. It's just not the same, you might realize that you can't love the person they actually are... what they feel and smell like, what energy they give off, if you like how they touch you etc.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Only with fools on GAG. I've given tons of heartfelt advice to guys on this site, and it's a complete waste of time.

Shed your fear and get out in the world. You will find him, and it will happen when you're not looking. You never find anything when you're looking. It happens when you stop trying. Deepak Chopra calls it the law of least resistance.

I met my husband when my car broke down by the side of the road. lol I've always said that God has a wicked sense of humor. :)

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

No, not if you will be apart more than about 90 days. Only people who have the highest level of commitment (typically married with children) can survive that separation, and many of them don't.

More importantly, STARTING a relationship long distance is a complete waste of time. It's an illusion - not a real relationship - and usually means that people are either shopping out of their price range or have some other motivation than the relationship.

A real relationship means spending actual time TOGETHER, meaning in the same room, on a regular and frequent basis. If you don't have that, you don't have a relationship, you have a fantasy and a distraction and nothing more.

libsaretards · Accepted Answer

Most of the time no. Humans crave the physical presence of the ones they love. Very few people can fight that longing for a long time.

Firegirl258 · Answer

It depends how big of a distance and how well you both communicate. My boyfriend lived over an hour away from me most of the time we were dating so we didn't see each other often. We are still together 4 years later and now live together. We skyped every night for over a year until we felt we didn't really need to and we still called often even then. It got to a point where we visited each other every month to every other week and then every weekend. We are still very happy with each other and are on a new chapter in our life together. Longer distance would definitely be harder but it was still really difficult. I believe you could make anything work with a good relationship and positive attitude.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

They are very hard…

You should either quickly solve the problem and get together or it’s almost impossible to work.

There’s nothing worse than loving someone and not being able to touch them, smell them, kiss them, sleep by their side, put your head on their chest, listen to their heartbeat, wake up next to them.

I am saying it as a girl who’s in a forced long distance relationship right now, with my boyfriend of 3 years.

We lived together the first year, then the pandemic locked us apart and his country is one of the strictest one with Covid rules so I couldn’t go there and he couldn’t come here.

This has been the most painful year in my life.

sheikalana · Answer

Only temporarily. If you want to do long distance you need to talk to your partner first and establish when you're both are going to eventually end up together let's say in 6 months to one year as an example. Keep checking on each other regularly but not excessively e. g. agree to call each other everyday at a specific time according to your availability and schedules. When possible plan a trip of two days to see each other. It's a lot of work and effort but if you're both on the same page and if your relationship is strong enough and you're very much in love with each other it can work.

littlelady050 · Answer

It does when both want it just as bad. Otherwise nope. And sometimes frustration and anxiety from being separated for years takes place so that ends a relationship slowly. I’ve been in an LDR for now 4 years going on 5th and I’m sick of it I love him a lot but I feel like I’m wasting my life away and my youth. I’ve been his since 2018 we are in 2022 I was 24 I’m almost 30 now? What the fu** did I gain from it I could’ve started a family by now be stable with great kids and a good husband. I regret it sometimes. And sometimes I just wanna carry on thinking I might also regret leaving him. It’s just a hassle. I don’t recommend LDR At all it’s an emotional roller coaster with a lot of sleepless night and being by your damn phone all the time. But unless LDR only for a short period of time. If it’s years just cut your loses. good luck and don’t be like me.

Tinana · Answer

Well my current boyfriend and I are dating long distance. We became close when he was at work in a different state. Now he’s in my state and we’re finally together the time we spend together are amazing but now I can’t see him because of Ramadan 🥺 and he leaves for work and will be back in 3 months. It makes me feel sad and I’m trying to be strong 🥺 I miss him so much

Signinggirl123 · Answer

They can work if an end goal can be reached. If you cannot get to the point in both of your lives where you can both at least live together (within 5 year) I say it’s not worth it.

Although I never followed my own advice and did long distance multiple times😂

n4meAL · Answer

lol you can even have long distance relationship on different continent it can depend on both of you but honestly its very painful and hard to live it but if you are still one country i would say it is much easier or maybe your countries are still close

Heartache0405 · Answer

In my opinion, no. They need absolute trust 110% and these days that's utterly impossible. It's harder to know you've found someone who is legitimately trustworthy if you can't see them in person to test their trustworthyness. I haven't been able to trust women for almost 8 years now 🤷🏻‍♂️

tartaarsaus · Answer

Studies generally show long distance relationships are roughly equivalent in terms of people staying together, satisfaction they feel and such. They actually have a lower probability of falling apart while in distance, while this probability increases if distance is closed.

Ironically, the part where you live together with whoever is your long-distance SO is the most likely to kill that relationship

Dchrls78104 · Answer

For a relationship to be sustainable, the two individuals MUST meet in person. They also MUST be honest, transparent, and compatible. If these things don't happen (like what I suspect is the case with the average "long-distance" relationship), the relationship is not feasible.

Pyrofox · Answer

Most don't work unless both have an idea of where they intend to cross paths in the future. As the only way a long distance relationship works out is if both parties are actively working towards it working.

Losalt · Answer

Yes, but it takes a *lot* of work and good communication.
I've maintained one for years and we even talked about marriage.
But eventually she *did* stop loving me that way and started loving someone else.
We're still best friends.

Buntyp · Answer

Never have for me, but I guess that it might also depend on the people doing the relating. I've noticed that there really are a lot of people who can do stuff that I can't, and the list of what they all can do is just really long.

ohshee · Answer

I don't know I'm trying to put myself in a position to where I could have one because there's a lot of things that I want to understand about long-distance relationships and I would like to try to experience that

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

Yeah I think they can if the two people in the relationship are faithful, honest, trusting, committed and want each other enough then some distance for a limited period of time is nothing especially if you plan to be together forever☺️

JoyGirl · Answer

Yes.

michael1469 · Answer

I thought they did. Xwf and i would travel 8hr each for a while... we said 3 month... 2 wks later we were making plans for 2 wks from then... best sex ever. Was like a first time sex everytime...

Then she want to stop traveling for her job... she had 100k in student loans... cutting our income... shit went down after that cause she couldnt have the same lifestyle... well duh...

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Long distance is ultimately temporary

If you live across the country and just happen to meet online and you mesh well then long distance relationships can be a great way to do things until either of you start visiting and then move in later

menina · Answer

They can work if both parties have the goal to meet in person within a reasonable timeframe or to stay together at the same place. Otherwise they're meant to fail.

Anonymous · Answer

They can work for a while, but they also have an expiration date. I think you can keep a long distance relationship working for up to a year or two, but after that I think it'll die out (with some very rare exceptions)

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm sure they can. But I wouldn't want to be in one. I believe physical and sexual needs are an aspect of any healthy relationship.

Adam1978 · Answer

No they don't work, only time spent together counts in my book. And it's to little in a long distance relationship.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

They can, but it is definitely a lot harder than relationships where the partners are close together.

Anonymous · Answer

long distance couples tend to have the same or more satisfaction in their relationships than couples who are geographically close, and higher levels of dedication to their relationships and less feelings of being trapped.

vduong1988 · Answer

no doesn’t work my ex boyfriend we’re long distance relationship he was rude to me and he cheated on me he had sex with a lot of girls and having sex with older women i don’t want to talked to him.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

They do, but they take a lot of dedication, trust, patience and love.

Subarugirl · Answer

Yes. My best friend and her boyfriend had a long distance relationship for 2 years before they got married. Now they are happily married with a beautiful baby boy.

Irunya41 · Answer

I think it could be my best chance to have love so I hope so but I'm just partly unsure because surely it's hard to keep up if you don't have much money for spending on phones and on internet

Nata2496 · Answer

I've never been in one so I wouldn't know but I wouldn't enter one.

Kreneman · Answer

Yes, they're work, I am currently in one right now, and I proposed to my girlfriend last year in Africa.

dtweed1996 · Answer

It depends really most people say no because they can’t live with it and very few can live with it where it can change from being a distant relationship to something more standard and non distant

Goku1001 · Answer

Not quite... Because the human mind have animal tendencies which they would want to get rid of at any cost. So cheating might take place...
Best option: Be with you s/o and have the best time of your lives and have lots of sex! 🌹

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Not long term. There has to be a plan for one or the other to move within 8 months to a year

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

Yezzzzz but it takes serious commitment from both sides!

Cowboy6666 · Answer

It has never worked for me because I can't afford to travel and meet the girl from another country :)

Anonymous · Answer

Err... it honestly depends on how well you two communicate. Otherwise, the chances are quite low. I once had a boyfriend that lived in Australia while I lived in England.

exitseven · Answer

I imagine some do. Both parties must put in the effort.

chulo1992 · Answer

A relationship that is in the same zip can barely work... so YOU KNOW a long distance relationship is doomed 🤣🤣🤣

Dnice1 · Answer

Yup, I'm in one and we've been together for 2 years and just over two moths and we are still going strong 💪❤

KieranByrne · Answer

There is a woman who dips her 'Fries' into cadburys cream eggs! 😱

Gingerguy33 · Answer

No not really the lack of intimacy usually ends the relationship

Tjw78 · Answer

They can if they are both honest, trust each other, and communicate openly with each other.

melisaaa · Answer

If both sides are loyal too for each other, it easily works

AndrewMG · Answer

I've never been in one so I'd initially say no, but open for an opposite argument.

innerman · Answer

never Maybe there’s an exception, like 3 couples out of 500.  So one asking me for LDR, i receive it like a cancer, slow death

In_Trance · Answer

Depends how strong the relationship is before distance became a factor.  People who have never interacted in person are fooling themselves

ImNoOne111 · Answer

Rarely. But some result into one side moving to be closer to the other one

Deku2009 · Answer

Yeah they can work with a lot of compromises and a lot of patients.

AimeeKyle · Answer

They can. It really depends on the two individuals in it along with their love, respect and trust.

TiaraGlitzNeon · Answer

In my experience, no. Especially if I've never met the person face to face.

omnivert · Answer

One of my friends is going to marry her long-distance relationship girlfriend.

Baylist1000 · Answer

Yeah, but a lot of understanding and patience is needed

Djaay · Answer

Yes , if you two quickly materialize it to be with each other soon enough

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Not without communicating it’s essential for long distance

Twalli · Answer

They CAN, but it's incredibly difficult for them to.

shortster · Answer

In my experience no; but then I just have the one experience.

secretmouse94 · Answer

If you’re not committed to making distance end at one point (ie marrying them or moving to the same city), then it’s futile and likely will fail.

altdbob · Answer

I would have to say it depends on your relationship and the amount of time you are going to be separated but more often than not I would say NO.

Anonymous · Answer

No. They don’t. Of course the people in LDR believe otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, at least not for me. Tough, love, physical intimacy are important in relationships otherwise it's just friendship.

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