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**We are an interracial couple.**
**I will not be disclosing everything, because we deserve our privacy.**
Enjoy!
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I had told myself I wouldn't date long distance again, but then I meet him...
I remember thinking what we had wouldn't last, because I didn’t have any good experience dating. The guys either left me, or I would disappear (due to the fact that I was not treated well).
Meeting a guy who treated me so well scared me, and I couldn't wrap my brain around it.
You may be wondering if I have ever met this guy in real life, and the answer is yes. I didn't think we would ever meet, but we did. He is the only guy who has not made empty promises to me.
The first time we met was absolutely awkward. I don't even want to think about it, because it makes me cringe. During our first meet up, my car bumper decided to fall off, therefore causing us to reschedule our date for that night. I was so embarrassed, while him and my roommate, at the time, thought it was funny. Him and a few other guys helped me put it back up that night.
Our date went well, despite the embarrassing tragedy. We went to an escape room (my first time going), and I found out that I didn't like it. It was boring and was totally not for me. Him on the other hand thought it was fun, and till this day teases me about going to an escape room.
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Since I didn't enjoy the escape room, we went to an arcade where we rode go-carts, played mini golf, and walked around. I had never played mini golf before, and let me tell you, I SUCK at it. While he was making the holes, I was too busy either hitting the ball too hard, or too soft. On the outside, it may seem like I didn't have fun, but I did. I enjoyed his presence and companionship.
During our date, I quickly learned that holding hands in public and stuff like that makes me feel squirmy, and nervous (so, I practically find it cringy...like I am already shy, okiiiiiii). Till this day, when we hold hands, I still feel that way (which is weird, even though I like it). I also learned that I can communicate how I feel to him, without being pushed away or disregarded (one of the reasons I love him).
We only spent the weekend together when he came to visit the first time, because he works full time (he is also in college). Meeting him made we wonder how far our relationship will last.
I remember going over to his state. Since I am younger, my family was not comfortable with me traveling so far away from home. We planned for the trip to last two to three weeks (this was in-between the spring and summer semester of college). Although I had fun, the trip was not as exciting as it should have been. Both our families did a good job of ruining the fun for us. It was filled with unnecessary stress and unwanted opinions, which hurt both of us.
I sometimes dwell on the little fun we did have. Going on drives in the mountains, watching the sunset, working with him at ranch (i slept the majority of the time *cough cough*) and a failed beach trip (the water was cold af).
We went on a few mountain drives. I loved driving around with him. The scenery and sunset was beautiful.
I couldn't help much at the ranch, because I had only brought two shoes with me on the trip. A pair of good working ranch shoes was not one of them. I had brought a causal shoe and slippers for the beach. I did help move the little car that carried the horse poop. His boss and his bosses wife were really nice, and I appreciate them for letting me hang around the ranch a bit. I really wish I had brought better shoes to help, though.
We stayed at a nice hotel during our beach trip. It had a fancy bathtub and a functioning kitchen. I could live at that hotel if I could, but we don't have that kind of money...lol
The beach trip was nice while it lasted. Till this day, we both laugh about how cold the water was and how he had to be wrapped around the blanket we brought. He was the only one who fully got in the water, because I immediately ran out after feeling the cold water on my feet. i have been to beaches, but that beach was so cold...lol
**I have actual pictures, but our faces are on the good ones...lol**
The day we got back from the beach trip, was the same day we had to get ready for my plane back home. It was sad, but what could we do? Neither of us can move, at the moment, because we are both in college. Long distance is not all sparkles and rainbows. It is very hard, but if the love is there, it will work.
Although we visit each other, there are times when we miss each other so much it hurts. The physical touch is not there as much as we would like, and it gets frustrating for both of us. A long distance relationship that actually means something, has taught me the importance of patience, communication, and care. We have both tasted anger, frustration, and sweetness in our relationship. A relationship is a learning process, regardless if it is in person or long distance.
I am truly grateful for the supportive friends we have around us in real life, even when our families make things uncomfortable. I am also grateful for the few people on here who knew about us for the beginning and their support.
February 19, 2022!
Cheers to one year, babe! @LEADFOOTboi
I am looking forward to this second year with you. Thank you for putting up with me. Thank you for being there for me when I make mistakes, and when I feel like I am alone. Thank you for being patient with me, and for loving me, even with all my trauma.
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