so you feel like he should make huge expenditures on your behalf and just do this because...
look if I wanted the money back I would've made it clear up front but you 100% should have some sort of desire to reimburse him. over time perhaps you just make small payments, or buy other things but you shouldn't think you are going to just be giving high dollar items.
how is it ever greedy or selfish to purchase a car for someone with the thought that they will reimburse you at some point
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You're not wrong, if you live together and share everything I think he is being selfish. But if he didn't it with his mom too I'm not surprised. Try to convince him a little more that you're a team, but I'm not sure if he'll listen.
It depends, did he give it to you as a gift? If not, then it's only fair for you to pay him back. Work out a payment plan to pay him little by little every month. I know what you mean, but if you want to keep your 5 year relationship than you have to work out expenses. One of the biggest reasons for failed relationships is finances. He also should try his best to be more understanding of your situation.
Well honestly, I don't see how anyone could let someone buy them an entire car and not expect to pay for it at all. Unless he told you it was a GIFT and not to worry about paying him back. Yes y'all are a team, but he shouldn't have to finance you, it's not selfish of him at all, I'd want my cash back.
You guys did the wrong thing firstly by not discussing how the car would be payed for.
Girl wtf? Pay him back.
You're his girlfriend, not his child. Not even his wife. He is your boyfriend, not an atm. Pay him back. I'd say you're wrong in this. UNLESS you also helped him with a large expenditure. Otherwise, you're being a greedy dick.
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Because you have been together for so long , you seem to feel very entitled.
Even if someone were together for thirty years, if the person says they want to be paid back then pay that person back !
Sure, it would have been nice if he gave it to you without expecting anything back.
But that the fact of the matter is, you agreed to this , and he helped you in a lot of ways.
You should feel thankful instead of finding reason to be disappointed.Did you discuss paying him back before he bought you the car? He can't just do something for you, then all of a sudden decide he should get reimbursed. If this isn't something y'all discussed and agreed on PRIOR to him purchasing the vehicle then he has no leg to stand on. He didn't have to buy you a car, so why did he? Was he forced?
Pay him back. he's not your atm account and you're not his wife.
Your feelings are valid , but if everything is equal down the middle and he took his share to buy you are car then yes you should pay him back , and no I don't think he's being stingy. you are not married. .
That is a big purchase, honestly I would not have even bought the car. It's not like you are married. If it was something a bit smaller maybe, but that is a big purchase.
No.. you're not wrong. I would definitely question your relationship with him. Usually when people ask for restitution that means they're unsure if they will continue the relationship.
Yes. Please pay him back.
At least now you know what to expect from him.
He even made his mom pay him back so why would someone who he isn't even married to be an exception?
Definitely pay him back so it won't cause further problems.The details of this purchase should have been spelled out before the purchase. What was discussed at the time?
you're not married. he has every right to ask for that. You are not his responsibility
Yes, it's selfish of him i could never do that to any girlfriend
You're the selfish one thinking you shouldn't pay him back.
You lived together... he got the benefit of the car also, so I think he should just chalk it up to a learning experience.
Of course you're wrong, just because he's your boyfriend he doesn't have to buy you a new car. He has every right to ask for compensation.
why are u asking us? if he bought the car its clearly his, he has every right to demand u for moneyyyy
He doesn't owe you a car anymore than you owe him sex.
It's not selfish, it's normal.He was nice enough to help you out when you couldn't afford it. I think you can do the reasonable thing and pay him back
You did. You let him inside you.
Legally he is not wrong morally he is.
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