Should I stay with my high school boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we are both seniors in high school. We love each other but agreed to look at colleges independently and choose based on what is best for us as individuals. We are getting closer to deciding and we both really love the same school, bot acknowledge that college is a time of exploration and self discovery. I am worried about going together and staying together but we will most likely live near each other and see each other because we have similar majors. Some issues are jealousy and our social lives. I think we will both be ok with giving each other space and we are both ok initially with dating outside the relationship but if it gets to mean something more than a few dates feelings will get hurt and honestly I'm only ok with it bc he is. I would never date anyone else and neither would he but we both say it would be ok. Also, how would we go to parties and make new friends? It will be harder and you can't really go to parties as a couple... Neither of us tends to be jealous and we trust each other but I don't know how college will change that. We have an all around great relationship but I'm not sure. Is it better to juts enjoy the summer and break up even if we go to the same school in the end? Or should we try it out? What if we end up going to different schools?

[Baby__Halo]

When I play to go to college, which should be a decent way judging by my grades right now, I would just tell my gf:

Look I'm going to be busy in college, how about we check back on each other after 8 years instead?

See with my method, you can make sure you will have time to focus on your career and not worry about some silly high school relationship. Also there's a looot more people in college.

So yeah, just pause the relationship for now, and check back with him in like after college and see if you guys can hookup again

good luck! :)

[Anonymous]

I was in this same exact problem 2 years ago, when I was a senior in high school.

She went to a college 2 hours away from my college, so we decided to tough it out and see each other once or twice a month. We lasted until March 2014.

When I look back at it, I wish I arrived into college without a gf. I still love her and care about her, but not as in a gf way anymore. And I feel like I couldnt get out there as much as I could have because I had a gf.

So, I think you should start college without a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

If you're going to the same school it makes it way easier if you want to stay together. You can definitely go to parties and make new friends even if you're a couple. That's not an issue.

The crux of it is, do you guys -want- to stay together, or would you rather be apart, date other people, explore, etc? Once you figure that out, you'll know the right course.

If you go to different schools - well when it's long distance that's difficult and often doesn't work out.

[DeltaDanner]

If you actually love him you'll stay.