What makes you fall in love with a girl?

[Anonymous]

I don't mean just the initial attraction...what makes you actually really love her?

[jusabarasida]

The face.. a girl with a pretty face is a major turn-on.. it's not a sexual turn-on but it really boils up something inside me that I can't explain.. it just makes my heart race especially when that girl smiles back at me.. and every time she talks to me it makes my body warm-up but not sexually.. Conversations tell a lot about the chemistry between a girl and a guy but you don't have to pay attention to the signs.. love should just flow without over-thinking it.. And I don't understand how people ask questions such as, "what does this mean?" or "what do I do if she looks at me this way or that?".. it makes me wonder how they get through their day without being confused out of their minds half of the time..

Mind you, sexual arousal isn't the only way to be aroused.. Falling in love is something unexplainable..but I'll try my best.. I know because I have fallen in love once and for good.. and she is very cute.. has the prettiest face and lovely hair.. nice hair is also very attractive to most guys.. and she has a nice body.. its just a perfect body.. I'm not saying like a supermodel but it's proportional and fit and she has a very nice sense of fashion.. she is independent.. she loves kids, she always takes care of her nieces and nephews.. she understands what I understand to be funny.. I can make her laugh almost over nothing.. and that is the biggest turn-on for me.. hearing and seeing her laugh makes my day..

No matter how much of a sh*tty day I'm having, when I visit her at her work and we hug and I make her laugh, I forget all the bad things that have happened to me that day.. Whatever we discuss, its always charming and not too harsh.. even when we argue.. (which is rare.. I know what you must be thinking.. if there are no arguments, then the relationship is not healthy.. but that is only true in American culture.. its not a universal rule, so yes we don't argue as much as American relationship standards suggest)..When she hugs me, its the best feeling in the world.. I just never want to let go.. and its nothing to do with sex or sexual feelings.. I hope you understand what that means.. its just a warm feeling and I love it.. I love her.

[protector21]

For me, it was spending time together, really listening to each other, and getting to know each other on higher levels. I can tell you, when you learn all the unattractive qualities and discover minor annoyances between yourselves, and still want to be together just as much as from the beginning, that's when you know you may possibly have something great going on.

[Anonymous]

My now-ex fell in 'love' with me because we had some things in common and I was kinder to him than anyone he'd ever met... but the treatment got to his head and he started taking me for granted. Now that I've moved on he says he regrets it. Maybe guys do like kind girls, but I think it's hard to know the difference between wanting to be pampered and wanting to be pampered by that particular person, you know?

[Ceesa]

Men like kindness in a girl, purity, faith, logic and honesty..It's a major turn-on when she can seriously have a good civilized conversation with him and has an opinion (whether he agrees with it or not)

At least that when made men fall for me..Well, I can't mention everything those are the basics

[mtanforth]

My apologies, I voted your answer down and was about to disagree when I re-read it and realised I had misread "turn-on" as "turn-off". Of course there's no way to undo my disagree vote *sigh*

On the and purity and faith comments though..nah sorry I've fallen bad for very naughty dirty girls because there was something about them...personally I think "real love" happens at a chemical level and we try to reason it out.

[jusabarasida]

How about I even out the down arrow with this up arrow +1 =)

[Hippy]

He he I like that :)

[Ceesa]

Maranforth- I didn't mean purity& faith just religiously, but a sweet girl with honesty and a good heart.

ex. it breaks her heart seeing a homeless :-(

anyway, maybe you are right cause I'm only talking about what men liked in me it included religious faith ( not that they had any to mention), but hey ! I'm the same person here they won't go like a lot of stuff.. in the begining it was the looks later they liked those stuff ( those features) were what they liked most ( I guess)

[Ceesa]

Jusabarasida- hehehee ^^, Thnx Thnx

[Nedmeid]

I think if he's your best friend and you always make fun with each other.

Some day he'll fall in love.

As far as I know, my best friend fell in love with me, but I'm not into him.

Now he is obsessed with me =S

[Anonymous]

I fell in love with a girl who wasn't my "type", wasn't a girl I would ever have normally looked at.. but we had a class together, she was sweet, humble and just a wonderful girl. I asked her to date me, and she was thoughtful, and just everything anyone would want from a girl personality wise. It was the most amazing thing ever. I lived everyday for just making her happy, making her life as easy for her as possible. I always made sure that I let her know how much I loved and appreciated her. I'd clam up when I saw her, and get those butterflies in my stomach every time. It was really an amazing feeling. Caught myself drifting off in thought about her during the day, and counting down the time until I could see her again..

[scnbabe89]

Thats very cute are you still with her?

[Opinion Owner]

No, she broke up with me this summer because she apparently thinks there is better than me out there. Maybe in appearance, but not in treatment. She will regret it.

[Cyhhgg]

Or, she might not. Either way, you'll find better, too. As long as you grow and keep growing.

[Anonymous]

How honorable and truthful she is. If she has a way of seeing beauty in sadness and realizes it's essential to feel that and a multitude of emotions in order to get to happiness and love. Someone who tells how their day was. Someone who takes concern over what I do because I care as much. Someone who is comfortable being boring, on occassion, because the love that's between us is strong enough to where we can find a way to liven things up. Someone who makes me think with my heart at the right moments and with my mind during the worst of times.

I can go on. The point is, I want someone I can hurt for and who hurts for me. I want to be able to share our pain so that they we may see each other for who we truly are. Someone not afraid to tell me (no. Show me) how they feel, because I'll hold her close and press my head against hers and just stay there. Breathing. Until we kiss.

[camptravis]

For me love has to be mutual, if its not than it's not really love at all. Love happens when 2 people are able to meet each others needs. For example, a guy's most important need, that a woman can meet, is definitely sex. If a girl can meet my sexual needs than it will be a lot easier for me to fall in love with her because I know that she cares about my needs. And then I know that she cares about me, so I will be able to meet her needs.

[helms_girl]

So you have the potential to love every woman in the world? Any woman can open her legs and keep a man satisfied. You're obviously missing the point of the question.

[camptravis]

Pay attention to what I said! I said that sex is the MOST IMPORTANT, NOT the ONLY need. Men also have emotional needs too(validation, support, attention), like women do, except womens emotional needs have a higher degree of importantance when compared to their sexual needs. That is why if a woman is being a bitch in a relationship then the man will stop loving her because she is not meeting his emotional needs.

[Cyhhgg]

I'm a guy and my primary (important) need, is emotional maturity. Sex is important as well, but secondary.

You don't speak for me or for the male gender, for that matter.

[SkinnerOne]

Let me get this straight.

People actually fall in love with THAT MANY girls?

My question would have to be "then, is it actually love?"

[Collegeruger]

when you spend time with her and she makes you feel like your the onlyone in in the room even when there is 50 people. Also she has to be able to relate to me on many levels.

[drakal76]

It takes a true connection. For me, after getting to know her (the inside her) I can discover what is truly inside her. And if my heart clicks for her, I know.

[JustDance]

Its knowing her "inside" and out that makes me fall in life with a girl. (notice the pun hehe)

[adammaudite]

I don't know, it's something that happens or doesn't.

[poulim]

wanting to share all of yourself with that person...and the little things, the little things are important

[Vassar]

When we become like the same person

[Sour_Diesel]

When a girl understands you.

[GIntrovert]

To be honest, I don't know. It just happens...

[Cyhhgg]

Lol

No. No, it doesn't.

[Cyhhgg]

Meaning, it doesn't just happen. That's a reaponse from someone who doesn't even pay attention to how they feel and what makes them feel a certain way.