Is there such a thing as an under-protective boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My bf was over and my ex dropped by the house, which he almost never did, and he mentioned his car, which got my bf talking about NASA and they hit it off! And now he's best buds with him even though my

ex cheated on me twice. My ex flirts with me right in front of him but he doesn't seem to care. I visited him and my ex was at his house and they were watching sports together with a few other friends.
I mean, I don't want them to fight but it's just awkward that they're always hanging out together.

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I wasn't sure if I should put this into dating, family and friends, or breakup and divorce. So I just went with this.

[isthatarose]

I see what you're saying. Your boyfriend seems pretty secure. Don't take it as being under protective. See it as him being secure. It's very rare to run into a guy like him. Now outside of that. Does he treat you well? Does he show he care? If he's over all non chalant then you may have a problem but I wouldn't worry about it. You should ask him why is he befriending your ex and tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and just see what his response is.

[macncheese]

It's like Alan from Two and A Half Men and his ex-wife's current husband, haha.

Some men are just chilled out when they know there's no chance of you getting back with him. Plus, him being around probably gets you so so annoyed there's no way you'd be into him even if there was a chance at all.
When did he cheat on you?

[Asker]

Ah, the first time he was sexting this girl from class, call me nosy but, I checked his phone whilst he slept. Then we later got back together, and I saw him on a date at lowry park zoo, completely by chance so I don't know how long he was cheating on me.

[Megit_Rainn]

i think there isn't anything wrong with the two of them being friends but u do have a problem if guys flirt with u and ur bf doesn't do anything about it. talk to him about it..

[Asker]

My ex bf flirts with me right in front of him and he doesn't do anything. He seems to think that since I'm not getting back together with my ex that it's okay if he flirts with me.

[Megit_Rainn]

you should talk to him about it. Tell him you're happy that he trusts you and its great, but there are limits. NO ONE should flirt with you. Make that clear.