How long would you wait to introduce your significant other to your parents?

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franklyspeaker · Accepted Answer

I personally think 1 month or 1 year it is not important. What important is that if he (or my own self) is serious and sincere then we will introduce to each other's parents. So in order to know whether each party is serious and sincere or not that will definitely take time too. But not all cases will depend on time. I am a girl so I always wait for my man to make the first move because I think that mean he really put effort into it.

My boyfriend introduce me to his mother after 2 weeks of dating. Obviously, I was nervous and directly asked him "Are you serious? Don't you think this is too early?". Then he answered "No! Not at all! What matters is I want you (me) to feel secure. My mom wants to see you too." I never knew his mom would want to know me this early either.

When I met his mother she was so nice and welcome me. I felt very warm and appreciated. Although I was only two weeks, but that was a huge improve to me. Then another two weeks I introduce him to my parents just to let him know that "I am serious and sincere too". My parents also welcome him just like his mom did to me.

We both were and are crazy in love. :)

Ananchor · Accepted Answer

My fiancée and I have been together about a year and a half
He met my family within the first 2 months (I don't remember exactly)
His family lives a many states away, he had dated a girl for two years who put him and his family through a lot. So he was very concerned about introducing his family to a new relationship due to their religious beliefs. And what they went through last time. So I met them for Christmas because we couldn't get there sooner, it was about 7 months before he told them about me officially other than just saying he was dating someone. It was about 9-10 months before Christmas when I met them

madidontlie · Accepted Answer

I always introduce my boyfriend after we say "I love you" to each other. because at that moment we both believe we're commited. And if I love someone I want my family to meet them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

At least 4-6 months unless the girl asks first.

I fucked up big time on this though. One time I had a girl who was really into me ask to go to my house on the first date and she was checking out my family photos and started asking about them. She even wanted to go to my friend's bonfire later that week so I got the idea she was wanting to meet my parents. Having no relationship experience, I didn't think much of it and thought she was already comfortable with that. Once I told her my parents wanted to meet her, she pulled a 180 and flipped.

Things went south from there. We were gonna have another date and then she ended up ignoring me and going back to the ex she complained about.

I was so distraught by the mistake I made, I was embarrassed and beat myself up over it. It wasn't that I hadn't been with a girl before that, just nothing serious and not to the point where I told my parents about girls in my life, I just kinda kept it from them basically because they were just hookups and flings. n

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

Depends on my feelings for her. Of the 12 women I dated I never felt anything for any of them until the current one. The woman I fell in love with, after our 2nd date I was talking to my sister and told her that "if this woman doesn't dump me I will marry her one day". So I would have introduced her to my folks that week if the chance presented itself. as it turns out we haven't had a lot of time to see each other because she works a lot and is going to school full time. She went back to school after her husband died. So now that school is over tomorrow, I will see her a lot more. but probably won't have the chance to introduce her until a family wedding next month.

Genie23 · Answer

For a year. Cause that's when it gets serious. I won't be with a guy for a year if I don't really care about me or if he doesn't treats me right

Prettygurl12 · Answer

When it gets serious. Which, in my case, was about two hours into date 1.

So we had lunch with my parents the next day lol

They knew him before we started dating but it's a different dynamic when you go from the child of a friend to the SO of the child of your parents' friends.

DivineAliah · Answer

I feel 2-4 months is reasonable because we're not too deep but not too shallow into the relationship and my family would love to meet them for once. And time longer would be wrong to me because if we are very serious and I introduce him my family will grill me and he'll feel like a secret. I'm not saying we'd all hangout a lot. But, just get together on time for them to get well acquainted with one another so next time it won't be awkward. I wouldn't prefer them to hang too often because if that guy and I break up then my family would be baffled somewhat because they've grown attached to him.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Anyone I would want for a wife had better be able to mesh well with the greater family. Because they won't stop making her life hell - and possibly mine too - if there's no compatibility. You don't just marry someone. You marry into their whole family. So anyone that could be affected by a relationship existing deserves at least some say in their opinion of what may or may not affect them.

Therefore, I try to get the folks on board as soon as possible. Especially since they can spot red flags that I might miss. I have never hesitated to let a gal I'm interested in meet my folks. I want to know if I can get their approval, so it isn't an issue down the road.

This has made several gals uncomfortable. But it turned out they were using me, and my insistence actually helped me weed out some bad apples.

Minxxie · Answer

LOL my dad met my boyfriend on the first date it was kind of an accident but I was still proud to introduce him to my dad because I knew he'd approve. I ended up meeting his parents really fast too. And now they bond over commenting on all our facebook pictures embarrassingly! +-+

Amy96 · Answer

I got to test drive the relationship first before I call in the big dogs. Plus i know my dad will give him a hard time, so I've got to make sure he's up for it haha.

Oxymorian88 · Answer

I don't think there's one definite time. To each his own. It of course need to be a steady relationship. But I'm very careful w/ my mom, she tends to make a big deal out of nothing. To make it up to meet my mom it's a long way. But in the meantime if the guy do it really means something.

MaisGem21 · Answer

Once I mention a guy's name, they will ask questions about him. "Oh how's Bob?" I wouldn't know, I haven't seen him for the last 2 years and we only talked once.

Even is Bob is just a friend. So I never tell my parents about any guy friends I have. Geez I tell my Mum about a guy I work with and she asks about him. That's why I wait until we are serious.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Probably like a year, that's where I deem a relationship serious enough to get family involved. But I've managed to be with my girlfriend for eight years, and she's met my parents ONCE. Family and relationships don't mix. Last thing I need is for those two worlds to collide and have the two women in my life conspiring against me, haha.

Hidden_P · Answer

2-4 months for me. I think it's about the right time for you to have settled into the idea of the big meet. Too soon and you are still all fluffy over new relationship. Too late and they look like a secret.

My boyfriend met my dad before we were a couple. But still took about 2-3 months for him to be comfortable meeting my dad regularly. Now they are practically best friends!

gilmoredes · Answer

When it's serious, I knew with my boyfriend it was serious before we even started dating so he met my guardian. All my family lives out of state and most of his too. I haven't met his mom and we've been dating almost 5 months but she hasn't shown any interest. So if you're serious and especially if your parents want to meet them then defiantly go for it, as long as they are comfortable meeting them.

LittleMissy93 · Answer

It depends how old you are. I still live with my parents and my parents are also really protective. My dad has said numerous times that if a guy doesn't ask him if he can take me out, he isn't worth my time. I'm not a fan of this rule but my dad gets reaaally mad if he doesn't know the guy I'm dating. He thinks it means that I know he won't approve.

Red_Arrow · Answer

I got engaged while I was in the at school in the Navy. I wrote my parents that I had become engaged ant that we would be married in less than one month. Shortly after that, my fiancée arrived home and saw a couple of heads sitting in front of the window. Her parents then introduced my parents to her. Talk about unprepared! But we both agreed that we were both happy with our in-laws.

koibito · Answer

When we both agree that we're The One for each other, when we've started talking about what we want to do in the future, when I know I'm proud to introduce her to my parents and I'd be honored to meet hers too, when we're certain we want our friends and relatives all to know that we're together for real.

It takes a long time. At least a year since going out.

soberpiper · Answer

I think 2-4 months is reasonable. If you wait half a year people start to ask questions and get suspicious, including the person you're dating. Women in particular get skeptical if you've been with them for six months or more and haven't introduced them to family or close friends. Of course a lot of this is contingent on the specific nature of the relationship. If she is a friends with benefits and the agreed upon basis is "sex" only, then my family won't be meeting her and vice versa.

CincinnatiRedsfan · Answer

I didn't vote, because I would immediately introduce my girlfriend to my parents (there is no way in hell I'm waiting a month, let alone more than a year.)

I still live with my parents first of all, but even if I didn't, I'm extremely close to my parents and I tell them virtually everything.

rich_ninja · Answer

i mean 6-10 months is when you know when the significant other is that person that you will end up with either forever or at least more than a year so it is kinda better to introduce them knowing that you will be with them for a significant amount of time

SoulGirl · Answer

It depends on the situation. If I was friends with him for a long time beforehand, my parents would've already heard about him and I'd introduce him early on once dating. If he's a new guy, I would expect him to introduce me to his parents 2-3 months from dating him. I'd prefer he introduce me to his parents first, and then mine. If he slacks on introducing me to his family, I will start feeling like he's not as serious about me as he should be.

ccp16 · Answer

oh wow, I guess most people go by 6 months... I go a bit longer than that, but by 1 year for sure. I just don't put much importance on my families opinion of who I date... plus, I have only introduced 2 GFs to family. For me, this pretty much means I at least see the option of this going the distance and I love her. Then again, I live on my own. when I lived at home, they met my family right away lol

Anonymous · Answer

Can't really put a time limit on that sort of thing. I just sort of answered E since it makes the most sense. Typically, when you introduce your S. O. to the parents, you have marriage in mind. And since marriage times vary, you can't really put a time limit on when to "Meet the Fockers" I mean, Parents lol... no, um, but yeah, I think with marriage, you both need to be in a place where you're both happy with your lives. Ready to buy a house, have kids, not really in to playing around with other people (girls/guys whichever one you are in to) that sort of thing. But, as you get older, you're also supposed to be heading towards that sort of success. Unfortunately, I'm 26, and nowhere near any of it. So, it would be a while before I introduced a girl to my parents

BEatenyou · Answer

In the past I would wait until it feels right, now that im much older. I prefer to leave that crap separate. Since my parents are really tired to trying to get to know each of my girlfriends, that are now EX-girlfriends. Its also really annoying when a few of them still talk to my parents. At this point I will wait for a more then a year to even consider such insanity. Especially since im really sick and tired of my ex sending my family Christmas cards of her new family and son.

throwit · Answer

Whenever the opportunity rises. Family parties, stuff like that. I'm not about to have him come over for a sit-down-at-the-kitchen-table dinner or go out to a restaurant with my parents that would be so weird and unnecessary.

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose after the lady and I have decided to become exclusive - which would be fairly fast if there's been a series of dates - Let's say a month or two. 3-4 dates then figure out what's going on, maybe keep dating. Probably by the time things get going, it'd be at least two months in. - That's been it so far.

I don't want it to be made into a huge issue. Now, a part of me would say "a MUCH longer time" because my dad isn't pleasant to be around, so I'm leery about bringing ANYONE around.

Anonymous · Answer

I am not close to my parents. I might never introduce her unless we just happen to run into them someplace. If she wants to meet them I don't care to introduce her right away. It really doesn't matter to me if they like her or not. My parents don't play a major role in my life. If my parents played a larger role in my life maybe I might introduce her later, but as it stands I don't see what the big deal is.

chrisbigman · Answer

That's a darn good question! I would say between 2 to 6 months, maybe longer. Maybe not even 2 or 3 months. Not that I am embarrassed, but I would rather make sure we are both comfortable with the relationship ourselves first before we introduce each other to people in our lives (parents, siblings, friends, etc).

CocoRachelle · Answer

Since my parents don't live near me, I would wait until it gets serious, like 6+ months. But it depends on the situation, I guess if we moved quicker than my previous relationships, it would be sooner.

DaniaMQ · Answer

Well, I normally introduce them after a few months, coz by telling my mom, she is the one I can trust with my eyes closed, she can give me advices as well, and warn me about some things.. So I always basically tell her " everything"

Yc2K15 · Answer

What do you define a significant other as?
A girlfriend who you are pumping, or your wife?
Do you still live at home?
Are you a virgin?
Do you live out of home which means you have to make an occasion out of it which is awkward?

MarkyyG123 · Answer

I reckon its a good time for a guy to meet his girlfriend's parents when he's invested in some body armour, got the riot gear sorted out and taken out a life insurance policy... more so if her father is ex-military... story of my life hahaha :")

nert73 · Answer

My parents met my boyfriend about 2 weeks after we got together and they've gotten to know him better since then. I haven't been able to meet his parents but we're trying to make plans so that can happen.

7heDubz · Answer

Who said I will? They'll know I'm seeing someone, but unless they bring it up or I'm seriously considering her for marriage I'm not gonna go show him or her off to my parents.

Then again, I may not have the best of relations so,

Frost_Byt3 · Answer

I live nowhere near my parents, so I'd never introduce them if i didn't have to! LOL

Jk. But seriously, i wouldn't feel a need ti introduce her, until she ASKS me to be introduced (or if my parents ask me to meet her).

rjroy3 · Answer

Long enough. That's all I can say.
When I know for sure it's serious and I'm keeping her around I will bring her around my family. Only once have I introduced a girl to family, before we were official. But she was a special case

Orchid1000 · Answer

At 6 months you usually know them well enough and family in my opinion is sooo important so you would like your future partner to get a long with them. Leaving it too late and then the relationship progresses substantially but your family dont like them could cause a lot of tension, however if its done before you're both too invested you can see how well they gel and decide if you want to take your relationship further or back off.

DesiDoo · Answer

Maybe 2-6 months. I gotta make sure we're serious first. My moms the type to want to meet a guy the same day we start talkin, but I know thats too soon for him lol

Marihorror · Answer

More than one year. Hell, I've got close friends who I've known since high school who still haven't met my mother. I'm in no rush.

ashleymaries1990 · Answer

I intoroduce my parents to anyone I'm dating since I live with them plus if I'm into a guy I'll let my family know :) so they can share in my happiness

PinkAcid · Answer

i like to wait around 6 months, its long enough to know you're going somewhere with that person and then you're not introducing a new guy to your family every few months

snuggle_bunny88 · Answer

I would have introduce my SO to my parents 2 months after being together. But things never go as planned. After 3 in a half years of being together, he still hasn't met my dad and stepmom.

lostgirl_searching · Answer

If I knew him long as friends, one month my parents met all my friends but haven't really talked to them. But if it's someone I met, maybe 4-6 months and I will choose month 5 to introduce my parents

Itsjustkeyitsme · Answer

My mom and I are very close and I value her opinion and a lot of times she can see a red flag before I can so I'll talk to whomever I'm dating about it and make it happen.

VampireEmpress · Answer

if we planned for really long term commitment, then I'd tell my family right after we made that decision. I haven't done that yet, so I just tell them whenever... or not at all honestly. I don't tell them everything about my personal life.

tattooedhandfet · Answer

It was less than 2 weeks. And we have been together for 10 years

PeachSunset · Answer

Right away and oh my fucking God this got over 1k votes. DAMN WHO ARE YOU WHAT IS YOUR IDENTITY AND HOW LATE AM I ON THIS QUESTION

dolphiny · Answer

if i was older and more of an adult, id like to know the relationship is serious before i have my parents meet them. i put 4-6 months at least.

HeyJustBeingMe · Answer

how long would i wait? well, between 2 and 4 months i think. unless my SO isn't ready yet, i'd wait a little longer.

sarmac · Answer

I met my current boyfriend online and the first night we met, I ended up meeting his mom (unintentionally) and then his dad the next day.  But it look 1-2 months for him to meet mine!

Betwyn · Answer

I don't really care. Sometimes, meeting her was unavoidable. She was sitting in the kitchen smoking.

MysteriousFlower · Answer

Statistically speaking in a small world I would say a month. I would prefer 2-4 months so that I have a good idea where we are at.

Not-Exactly · Answer

As soon I have done evaluating the situation and I am totally serious. So my range is from 2 weeks to like 18 months.

GirlScoutsRevenge · Answer

I don't think of it as a big deal really, my parents are part of my life, my SO is part of my life... I've never made it into a big thing.

BiffWebster · Answer

probably like never tho my parents -_- are a special case

Justacatlady · Answer

I choose C but it really depends on the relationship

findingdreamland · Answer

Nothing less than one year. I need to know him first ; then they can meet him.

JohnnySS · Answer

IMMEDIATLY. YOU WANT TO SEE YOUR PARTNERS PARENTS. see what their family is like, what your getting into u want as much info as possible asap NOT LATER

Nathand · Answer

Sarah (A white girl): Dad, Mom meet my boyfriend Jordan (black male) Dad: Passes out Mom: Faints Sarah: Told you you'll make them fall for you

dudegrt09 · Answer

I voted 10-12 months, but I might get married without even telling my parents. Anyway introducing her to my parents wouldn't be something that I would look forward to, because their opinion of her will hardly matter to me.

BelleGirl21 · Answer

Lol my parents met my husband on our first date night 😕

unicornsandglitter · Answer

Eh. I'd say about a month, even though my boyfriend met my parents on the third date

DodgersGM · Answer

Probably B.  One month is super fast, but upwards of six months seems like a long time to me.

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