How long before you meet the parents in a relationship?

[Simslover92]

So Thanksgiving is coming up and I really wanted my boyfriend to meet my family but he says he's not ready. We've been together for six months now and have been talking about marriage.

Is it too soon to be meeting the family? Should it be a year in before meeting the family?

[madhatters4]

no it's not too soon. if you are talking marriage and have been together for 6-months you are certainly at a good place, if not beyond it, to meet the parents.

i think you need to find out from him why he's not ready to meet the parents of the person he's talked about marrying. frankly after 6 months you should be somewhat familiar with the family if not at least the parents of your partner

[Simslover92]

Very true. I agree wholeheartedly. I will find out!

[spartan55]

Six months of seeing your boyfriend regularly, or six months of long distance.

[Simslover92]

Six months of long distance

[spartan55]

How often do you see him?

[Simslover92]

Once a month

[spartan55]

I'd say hold off then.

[Simslover92]

Ok thanks. That's what I was thinking too.

[spartan55]

Thanks for the MHO!

[Bethany22]

Why is he comfortable talking about marriage but is uncomfortable meeting your parents after 6 months? He might be just talking about marriage to string you along. 6 months is usually the point where a guy knows for sure whether he wants to be with you or not, so that's strange.

[Simslover92]

I don't think so. He says he wants to plan for it. He wants it to be the right time for it because he works a lot and wants to be able to take off for it.

[Maddy2002_]

It depends how long if it 6 months or longer seem good.

[Simslover92]

Oh ok

[DizzyDesii]

I honestly met the majoritys parents within weeks. Its just not a big deal in my opinion especially when people are often around or passing through the background. Or like back in school when i used to invite groups of friends over for games and stuff, i’d invite my crushes so they often met my mom early even if not yet in the romantic sense. I feel its less pressure to be introduced while still friends

[DizzyDesii]

Nowadays some single dads have even introduced me to their kid same week. Guess people dont care as much anymore

[Simslover92]

Wow that's pretty fast. I guess people don't really care as much anymore but I should have mentioned this before but being long distance it's a bit more complicated. His family is almost 3 hours away and so is my family. So it makes it harder to plan to meet each other's families. And I guess his thinking is he wants it to be perfect timing to meet especially with the distance and all.

[DizzyDesii]

I've done long distance many times. Those times i meet the parents even sooner usually in the first week. I met one dude while he was Travelin with fam

[Simslover92]

Wow. I mean I would meet the parents now but he's not comfortable with meeting now which I understand. I am a bit scared myself but I want to get it over with at the same time. Just rip the bandaid off. But I respect how he feels about it.

[DizzyDesii]

Usually when theyre scared its because the fam is rude, ill mannered or disagree with his choice

[Simslover92]

My family and his are very chill so it's definitely not that.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I think my wife met my parents within a month of us being exclusive. She was thrown into the fray 2 1/2 months later at Thanksgiving :-)

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I guess my main point is that he should be excited to meet the family that produced the woman he loves.

[Simslover92]

Wow that's fast! I think he should be too and I think he is but just a bit nervous about it which is totally understandable because I'm nervous as well to meet his family.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Hopefully there's nothing you have to be nervous about :-).
Show each other's family how much you love each other, and they will be happy.

[Simslover92]

Ok we can certainly do that! Thanks!

[Andres77]

My daughter told her boyfriend he had to ask permission and spar with me. He asked. We’re still arranging the boxing and the sword fighting sparring matches. Should be soon.

[JustinTheGreat]

If it’s not too soon to be talking about marriage then I don’t see why it would be too soon to be meeting parents.

[Simslover92]

My thoughts exactly

[Mansearching]

Yeah its a little early. girlfriend met my mom at my father's viewing. But actually we weren't officially together. She was there for support.

[Simslover92]

Thanks for your opinion. I thought so too. And so sorry about your lost by the way.

[Mansearching]

13 years ago. Its ok.

[TacosRAwesome]

I've met his parents round the 2 month mark or so. He hasn't met mine yet.

[electromagnetic]

When it feels right.

[Simslover92]

Thank you! That definitely is the right answer!

[Nirmroth]

6 months is long enough in my opinion.

[Jennz6]

I’m meeting with them in December

[Simslover92]

How long have you been together?

[Jennz6]

A few weeks?

[Simslover92]

Oh wow. That's fast.

[BLP11520]

3 to 6 months

[jahaims]

Right away

[Simslover92]

Oh ok.

[Anonymous]

No darling it's just a six month

[CubaPirate]

3 days

[Simslover92]

Wow that's really super fast.

[CubaPirate]

I know meet her Christmas Eve went to a family party with her on Boxing Day

[Simslover92]

Oh ok.

[Jennz6]

@CubaPirate really fast 💨