First understand that someone that is used as a toilet (him... by others) has to flush it or overflow.. shit runs downhill but often directed unfairly to convenient others committing tiny offenses... one must flush, same as having to pee... but where?
Once they dump on another, they either apologize when recognizing the injustice OR they revel in finding a new convenient release & superiority over an other, as they felt inferior to their own dumpers. The latter case indicates the love guage is very low or broken.
now
what to do
a) put on a show of packing to leave, you don't need to be treated this way and have a plan to actually leave for a spell with essentials
b) agree with everything, be totally submissive and suggest punishment that can easily turn sexual... spanking bare ass, then strip me nude to crawl around living room, then command me to suck, etc.
It depends on what you want to get out of it and what's in his closet, e. g. if he's hiding an affair, then a) ... if you want to dominate him, then a) ... if you want to get it all over with ASAP + sex + him talking again, then b) ... hands down
hurt by "trash"? hahahahaha more will be said on both sides, this is typical "fighting" and I judge "trash" as lethal as a paper wad thrown
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Honey, you shouldn't take anyone talking to you this way. You brought a concern into the relationship that should have mattered to him. Instead of being the mature man, he got pissed and ignored you like a child. No, you should not have said what you did, but you are not trash. Don't even think about believing him. Leave his ass, because rememeber, if he thinks your trash, another man will think you are his treasure. And you deserve so much better than him.
tell him that him calling you trash hurted your feelings, and if he doesn't get his shit together that your relationship is done. stop trying to please him and his thoughts and needs. guys like this ends up hurting their girlfriend in the end..
You're in my exact same position only the gender is reversed. What I have come to realize is that there's no reasoning with ones who aren't willing. Do what I'm doing and play chaser. If he really is concerned about your feelings and wants to work things out and get a better understanding on you, let him come to you since you going to him isn't working. Eventually, he'll stop his ways and hear you out and try and make the relationship healthy again.
The whole "if I ket your car" thing is stupid. Even if my girlfriend said that, I wouldn't care cause I know she wouldn't do it. So if he took you seriously, I don't even know..
Tonight, sit and tell him you are really concerned and you have doubts that you don't want to have and would like to know what you BOTH can do to save the relationship.
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He probably called you trash because he has an expectation that a woman who he chooses to be with would have too much class to resort to such revenge tactics. I think you already understand that. All that you can say is that you understand why he called you that name, that you also were surprised when those words came out of your mouth, and that you both have too much invested in the relationship to allow it to disintegrate into name calling and stupid threats. Promise that you will try to be a better person for the sake of saving your relationship and you hope that he will do the same.
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The only thing you can do is actually talk. Tell him you were both wrong and that you want to find the root of the problems to see if they can be worked out. Let him know you care about him and that you'll work on things if he is also willing. If he doesn't want to talk find out why. If either of you start to yell or get angry remind each other to calm down. Also you should think about if working things out is worth it to both of you. If either of you don't want to be bothered with working it out then it won't work. So ask each other is the other worth it and be honest to yourselves.
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