Unfair open relationship?

[Anonymous]

When me an my girlfriend started dating we agreed to a open relationship. And she would exercise those rates quite often. I never did however recently I started seeing this one girl. And my girlfriend kinda got upset about an said I hope your not going to have sex with her. How unfair is that she does it

[nakedalligator]

Open relationship is more of a benefit for the women since it would be harder for you to hook up then her for obvious reasons.

If she has a problem with it though tell her to stop fucking other men. Or just do what you feel like since you're in an open relationship. Maybe you should both re-evaluate your relationship, it all depends what you want from it or if you care that she cares, your not doing anything against what you agreed on and she is being a hypocrite.

[Asker]

What first I was cool with it but after a while when we got more serious I have heard about us being exclusive and she didn't want to. But now that I'm seeing this other girl now she wants to be exclusive. But I still think I should be able to have sex with this girl at least once first

[nakedalligator]

It really depends. If you both want to be exclusive it makes sense, and what you want makes sense as she is being a hypocrite. Obviously she didn't see a problem with it until you started to uphold your end of the bargain. Though I'd like to say that I don't see what the problem is since she's being seeing other guys to let you do this girl, if she wants to be serious now, you can't be sure that she won't be comfortable with it after.

Like others have mentioned, she may have thought she was comfortable with it until it became a reality.

Unless she was willing to compromise and have a threesome, who knows. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Asker]

Yeah she said she's willing to be exclusive as long as I don't sleep with this girl. And I'm afraid there might be consequences if I do

[Anonymous]

Typical concept dude... she is a female, her options for sex are many and she can pick and choose when and where and who.
As a male having an open relationship is a stupid idea because your options are few and far between.
It's a really fucked up double standard that she is pulling the jealous female card the one time you actually are doing it. I would throw every dick she has fucked back in her face and tell her to either deal with it or GTFO.

[Scrambledagain]

Lol, you so right. I'm in an open relationship and I meet many polys and the reality is that it's MUCH harder for guys to live this lifestyle because women can just get it all the time. So it's not a big thing. For men, we have to actually work at the relationships to get that girl which means a lot of texting, phoning, dating etc outside the relationship. And it pisses my girl off too because she thinks I'm giving "too much attention". But one night I sat down, like I do on gag, and gave it to her strait... for men to get women, you have to do the work, end of fuckin story. Don't like it, leave. She's accepted it. I just got to tell her who I'm texting all the time.

[yowza67b]

You're an idiot a guys options are just as plenty one text away
U got no game and are probably ugly.

[yowza67b]

A good looking guy has more options than an ugly girl so GTFO idiot.

[Opinion Owner]

@yowza67b Wow nothing to see here people, just a pathetic attempt at shaming a person who's options yowza doesn't agree with. This is a typical "ugly charge" method of shaming. Where the target is accused of not having romantic potential and therefore their comments are invalid because they must just be "bitter". Even though it has zero bearing on the truth of the speakers comment.

People who use shaming tactics as rebuttals to disregard ideas they don't like have lost. If their statements were valid they wouldn't have to use shaming in the first place.

[Poppykate]

Been there! Having been in an open relationship, I think that open relationships are for people who are:
1. Still trying to work out what they want from life and don't want to commit to one person
2. Haven't found everything that they are looking for in that one person and need to find that missing quality in another person.

[bwade1977]

I believe you are 100% correct.

[Scrambledagain]

Guilty of number 2;)

[Poppykate]

@Scrambledagain are you saying that you are guilty of number 2?

[Scrambledagain]

Yip, in an open relationship because she can't give me everything so I find it with others.

[Poppykate]

@Scrambledagain so what is she not giving you?

[Scrambledagain]

Where do I begin... let's just say she is very vanilla and I'm not so I have a another young girlfriend and we are in a d/s relationship.

[Poppykate]

@Scrambledagain and everyone is ok with this agreement?

[Scrambledagain]

Yip. We have rules though. I can only see her (or them) x amount of times, and can't text after 9, condoms only etc.

[Poppykate]

@Scrambledagain well if that's the pic of you in your profile, I can't understand why she won't let you do everything to her. Yum!

[Scrambledagain]

Thank you😊 she just doesn't like being adventurous in bed. We have sex a lot but it's very vanilla (she doesn't like oral or really leaving the bedroom much) so we came to an agreement that I can get my kinks out with another girl.

[Poppykate]

@Scrambledagain I know the perfect guy for her! I used to have to beg my boyfriend for his... And he never leaves the bed.

[itsallover]

She's clearly convinced herself that she'd be okay with an open relationship, but in reality she feels jealous and insecure. It's clear she only agreed to it for her own benefit, not yours.

[Asker]

Agreed but what am I supposed to do now

[itsallover]

Maybe she fears that you'll start liking this other girl and end up wanting to be with her, since you're actually getting to know her by having dinner and conversations. If I were you, I'd keep your relationship with the other girl strictly sexual to stop any feelings developing.

[MargaritaPeach]

Hmmmm. Let her know that she is getting exactly what she requested in the first place, and if she's not mature enough to handle it, perhaps it's time for her to move on.

[sjoes006]

That's quite unfair. If she is feeling that way is she ready to give up her hall pass?

[Asker]

Ya that's what she said but I think I should be able to sleep with this girl

[sjoes006]

Well... My guess is she is probably concerned because she sees you actually liking this girl. It isn't a ONS kind of thing from the sound of it. I'm guessing for her there is little to no emotional involvement with these other guys but she clearly has an emotional investment in you.

You want to sleep with this one chick to even the playing field or whatever but if you care for her it probably isn't a wise move. Evening the playing field would be sleeping with some random than becoming exclusive.

[Asker]

That is true that she has a couple guys she just meet up with just for sex. Me and this other girl we just meet up for dinner and talk

[Asker]

And I have already been having thoughts about leaving my girlfriend for this other girl at first I was cool but the whole open relationship thing y didn't mind sharing. But now I getting to the age that i want to settle down have a family an a exclusive relationship

[sjoes006]

Understandable. It sounds like your current partner is now ready to be exclusive. But if you are feeling this way perhaps some deeper issues are laying below the surface?

[Asker]

I just have a hard time believing that she's willing to give up all that sexual freedom that she cuz she dose it a lot. I've asked her about it before she was willing to until I started seeing this other girl

[sjoes006]

Yeah then that's BS it is something she should have naturally stopped doing on her own if she is capable of being monogamous.

[sjoes006]

Thanks, good luck

[Frost_Byt3]

Dump her ass. She is a slut and a hypocrit.

You said you were considering leaving your girlfriend for the other girl? Then do it! If its gonna make you happier, then what are you waiting for? I don't know much about this other girl, but she can't be worse than your girlfriend.

[ThisDudeHere]

Dude... that is indeed unfair. Either she says nothing at all about it or you two go back to having a normal relationship (tho I doubt that will happen). She's a textbook hypocrite. Go for that girl, man.

[bwade1977]

I think this is bullshit man, she wants freedom and then wants to shut you down... after she's hooked up with a few guys. I'd keep seeing the other girl.
How old is your girlfriend?

[Asker]

She is 28

[Mysterio421]

She wants the benefits of everything. Why be in a relationship? Just make her a booty call or friends with benefits and bang that one girl. Why does it matter to her?

[Asker]

I think she's just jealous

[Mysterio421]

There is no doubt about it. She is jealous. The one girl is competition to your girlfriend.

[Asker]

But she has a few different sex friends that she sleeps with on a regular basis

[Mysterio421]

Yep. Don't take your girlfriend seriously. Your a man, do you can do whatever you want. Don't tell her. Simple solution.

[Ellebelle1187]

Break up, or be exclusive. Why date each other if you are both dating or seeing other people... Sounds like y'all are more for friends with benefits than a relationship.

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Yeah, that's unfair. If she agreed to have that kinda of relationship so now she needs to keep her word.

[MeltedCheese89]

Sounds like the open relationship thing isn't working for either of you.

[mishiii]

The fact that your English is atrocious means your dating atrocious women so anything goes.

[Scrambledagain]

Lol... many babes I know are as dumb as pig shit, and ironically want "an intelligent man" intelligence and women type do not correlate at all.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that is unfair. Tit for tat... what's good for her is good for you. Sounds like she has some jealousy issues if she can go around but you can't?

[HentaiMaster23]

You shouldn't of had an Open Relationship in the first place

[ElissaDido]

Open relationships are a mess

[truthhammer]

Women are double standard and irrational. Why I think relationships push men to lie

[admles]

Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too, typical double standard.

[Anonymous]

She had sex wjth other guys but she won't allowbyou to see this other girl? Selfish much? I would see the other girl if i were you

[sblad89]

have it out with her.. double standards

[abundantlyrich]

She's not playing fair

[ArtDent]

You got cuckholded. Are you going to remain so?

[Asker]

Not if I don't have to

[Dred1614]

She's a hypocrite. You can do better.

[jmmmfi2]

Your both idiots for agreeing to this