Do you have a problem with rubbing your partner's feet?

[Anonymous]

I am a waitress and I am on my feet a lot. When I get home, they are swollen and sore. I wish my husband would run them without complaining and at least put a little effort into it. A good foot massage would feel amazing, but he does a terrible job and complains the whole time, if he does it at all. Often he just refuses. I don't get it. My feet are clean... what is the problem? I am just curious if this is how most people feel or if it is just him. He does have a tendency to be very selfish.

[GingerBear]

I hate feet. I think they're weird, and foot fetishes creep me out. My boyfriend feels the same way.
That being said, if either of our feet (or any body part, really) are sore, then the other immediately offers a massage. Relieving the other person's pain is infinitely more important than touching a body part we don't like.
We're in love, and we're partners. It would be extremely weird to be uncomfortable touching any part of the other's body.

[datgirl]

I don't like guy's feet (I think baby/children's feet are sooooo cute so I'd give a child a foot massage but that's besides the point.) I'd be a little hesitant to give my guy a foot rub, but if it was really killing him then I'd put away my feelings and do it for him cause I love him. Otherwise for any other guy nope.

[Cmasterson]

I would never personally I hate feet, however my boyfriend will rub mine if I mention that theyre sore and or something is wrong. He does it instantly or will ask. You can ask him whats the problem, If he doesn't mind feet I don't see the problem of wanting your partner to feel better..

[YoloKitten]

I don't see a problem with rubbing my partners feet, why would someone have a problem with it? He is probably just generally more selfish

[AmongTheApples]

This likely has nothing to do with being selfish. I hate feet and would avoid doing that as much as possible (especially after working on cadavers), but, if I love the girl, I'd give it a shot but I'd be uncomfortable and likely do a shit job on them. If he's like me, as weird as it sounds, it might actually be a sign that he really does love you.

[Asker]

How so?

[joeb73]

its just him. i like giving my wife a foot massage when she want it because it makes her feel good. thats what loving partners do. you actually answered your own question with one word "selfish"

[9898712123]

Hmm, its not wrong for him, i think, some people do have a problem some dont! It lies within the reasoning for him, if its because he's selfish and doesn't want to help you, or because he doesn't like feet, or maybe something else entirely. I suggest that there needs to be a little more communication, but not accusing, or emotional, just wanting some explanation? I think that its good, this website, to help people answer questions, but i think that this is only a questions he can answer honey, but it has to be done right😊

[AleDeEurope]

Maybe he just doesn't like feet. It maybe have nothing to do with being selfish, just that he dislikes feet.
I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as she cleans her feet before. I don't wanna have that stink on my face, and feel her warm, sweaty feet.
I'm not one to like feet either, it's just meh, but for my girl I would do it.

[DasVoz]

Personally, I wouldn't mind unless they were poorly taken care of and stank (like, beyond a typical smell). Then again, I have a mild to moderate attraction to a woman's feet, which is a more centrist position on this love-hate relationship people have with them.

This guy seems to be closer to "hate".

[oldanddecrepid]

I love rubbing my gf's feet because usually it relaxes her totally and she lets me rub the rest of her body... Sweet!

She is on her feet all day too, and I can tell that it feels so good when I put some massage oil on them and give them a good rub down.

[acooke-13]

My boyfriend does it all the time if I ask him, sometimes I even say to not do it if he doesn't want to but he just does. I'm not sure why, just because I like it maybe. Try using a foot spa if he won't help?

[Bobba_Fett]

Selfish indeed.

A foot rub, particularly to a waitress, is too special a thing to refuse to do.

Go buy yourself one of those massagey foot baths.

[thewanderingme]

you're wearing the wrong footware. I waitressed for years. worked tons of doubles in busy places. my feet were never swollen at the end of the night, a little sore occasionally, but that's all. invest in better footware and a foot massager

[Asker]

I have great shoes and honestly never had a huge problem with this until recently, but I had a baby about 6 months ago and I am still far from losing all of my baby weight. So I think a lot of the problem is just that I am not used to carrying all this extra weight around.

[thewanderingme]

get wider shoes for now then. and the foot massager. I understand it would be nice, sweet, romantic? for your hubby to rub your feet but if he's not into it it isn't fair for you to try to force him too.

[9mfeo]

I have absolutely no problem with rubbing my partner's feet. My ex hated it because his feet were so ticklish. Not sure what the winter boy would say; he and I don't really have that kind of relationship.

[JuicyBrain]

I would rub her feet with pleasure. Especially if I can get her in the mood lol. I actually like a woman's feet. I think they're cute.

[menina]

I guess he just doesn't like to do it. It's not because he thinks your feet are dirty or he has no patience for that.

I would never do a foot massage to my boyfriend because I hate feet. They're gross and weird.

[christel18]

i would massage any part of my man's body, with the exception of his feet. feet really gross me out, so massaging them is out of the question for me. and i probably wouldn't want him touching mine either.

[Reginelli]

It doesn't bother me at all. I don't mind rubbing her feet, especially if she needs it. Like making her feel good.

[Yellow_]

It's just eh. I don't feel like giving foot rubs, or.. arm rubs? or scalp massages either even though I don't find them eww or something.

I just don't feel like doing it.
Maybe I will do it for a minute and that's it.

[TonyRyan]

I don't like feet and don't wanna touch them or be touched by them. I also refuse to get a foot rub, I don't know why, feet just gross me the Hell out.

[ThisDudeHere]

He probably just doesn't know how to do it properly so the next best thing from admitting that he can't do it is to complain.

[Asker]

I told him that there are videos on you tube that he can use to learn how to do it if that is the case.

[ThisDudeHere]

I'm supposing he thought it would be unmanly to do so or something like that.

[Anonymous]

Bad luck. I think something like 1/3 of men find women's feet kind of sexy.

So you could get a lot of footrubs. And then you'd be like relaxing and thinking 'hang on that doesnt' feel like just hands'

[CHARismatic110]

Yes. I'm not a fan of touching feet. Especially other people's.

[ThatBritishLad]

Probably depends on the scenario. If I was in the middle of buttering some toast, or we were on a busy street slap bang in the middle of New Cross where that particularly loud beggar lady hangs around, probably not.

[JRICHARDS1996]

Not at all. Though given that I have a fetish, you may find it tiring since the experience would be more of a sexy thing to me than an actual massage.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Yeah so he's selfish... a foot rub isn't much of a problem for me