Parents don't like my boyfriend because he is Mexican, I'm white, any advice?

[Anonymous]

basicallly, my parents have had bad experiences with people who are Mexican. They've explained to me that Mexican culture is what they don't approve of and that I won't be happy. I've met my BF's family, and they are not the "typical" family my parents have described to me. His parents are wonderful people that have not done anything to make me feel uncomfortable and are very caring, only issue is that they don't speak full English. But if there is a language issue, my boyfriend translates. I know my parents love me and are just doing this out of love. I respect their opinion but it also hurts a little. My father knows I care about him and expresses his dislike for him. My mom isn't aware that I'm still with him because of reasons I don't wish to explain. My father has told me that he can't stop me but if I married someone that neither of them approved of, they wouldn't always be in my life. He goes to explain that they would still be around but they wouldn't be happy. I would like advice on how to talk to them in the future about this. Or is possible, however I'm sure it's impossible, anything I could say to them to ease their minds.

[Sunflower19]

I've been in a similar situation before. Except things were flipped. I'm Mexican and he was white. My parents hated him because he wasn't the same race as I. My advice: If your boyfriend makes you happy, treats you well and if you love him... Stay with him. Parents only want what's best for you but they can't choose your partners for you. Over time things will lighten up and eventually they will get use to him.

[Sunflower19]

Thanks for MHO! :)

[Anonymous]

They'll get over it once they get to know him

[Asker]

What if they aren't willing to get to know him?

[ConsultantIsBack]

Tell them his abuelita will cook em the best tamales ever, that'll change their prejudicial minds

[LordBlakeh]

I second this motion.

[ConsultantIsBack]

@LordBlakeh Alternatively, take them to a quinsinera or something and show them what real family gatherings are like. Compare that to boring ass white people family reunions lol

[LordBlakeh]

@ConsultantIsBack Mexicans sure do know how to have fun and relax, I've been to Mexico a few times.

[Asker]

haha while I don't mind Mexican family reunions, I think that would only freak out my parents more ^_^'

[NotMyUsername15]

You're 18-24 you are capable enough of making your own decisions.

[Asker]

They tell me I'm not, and that if I end up being with him it's a life lesson and a mistake I have to make. They still treat me as if I'm not ready to make my own decisions.

[NotMyUsername15]

Stop being a freeloader and move out. If you get your own place and pay for your own things you wouldn't have to rely on them for acceptance.

[Asker]

I am actually saving up with a few friends, I hope to be moving out soon

[NotMyUsername15]

Good for you.

[Asker]

Thank you

[matheus_mb]

Try convince them to give him a chance. If they could just spend a day with him and see how he really is they may change their minds.

[MyUsernameRules]

What a shocker! *sarcasm*

[MyUsernameRules]

You can either listen to your parents or listen to your heart. But if you two happen to split up eventually, your parents will be the ones saying "I told you so".