Your Parents aren't going to change and there's nothing you can do or say to make them change their minds on your relationship or black people.
If you want to be with this guy then what you may have to do is cease contact with your Parents altogether because if you don't you could end up losing this guy altogether but on the same note by doing that and ceasing contact with your Parents you may also lose them so it's a tough choice you're going to have to make because sadly your Parents are bigoted and set in their ways.
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If you can finish school and head off to college or otherwise get out on your own, do so ASAP. Get away from your tyrant parents.
Question: does your bf have a plan for the future? College? Good Job? Military? In fairness, I have known white parents of daughters who didn't object to the suitor's race, so much as they objected because they thought the suitor was "ghetto", or had no future.
A classic movie comes to mind:
en.wikipedia.org/.../Guess_Who%27s_Coming_to_Dinner
You cannot change a racist person perspectives on people. If your father beats you, you really oughta just get away from him. As far as your black boyfriend... love whoever you want girl. And tbh being a black girl myself and having many brothers... sorry to be so crucial but I'm going to keep it real. Black families do not want their children bringing home a white woman/man.
You can't make your parents like him. You basicly have to choose between them. Do you want to obey your parents and find someone else to date or move together with they guy you nove and ignore your parents.
You are old enough so if your parents do beat yoi, you should move anyways
I don't think you can make your parents like him. There is nothin you can do because they are racist. As long as you love your boyfriend, that is all that really matters. Don't waste your energy and time on trying to find ways for your parents to like him.
You can't change your parents way of thinking.
All I can say is, start saving money and eventually move out.
Get your own place or split rent with a friend,
You won't have to sneak around to see him, you will be independent.
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girl I know what your going threw, on different is he mixed and not black, and my parents don't know but use to know... We already plain when we are 18 were gonna move away then tell my parents. because of how much I love my parents, I don't think they should tell me who I should love or not because of there color of there skin... love is love and you can't control it and they need to learn its not 1852 where marriages were forced but what I'm trying to say is live your life if your parents don't accept it jokes on them. There gonna regret not being in your life no more, now it kinda sounds like I need take my own advices... so keep strong girl because at your wedding day your not gonna regret one thing
You don't All that can be done is that over time if they see that he loves you and treats you well, they will wake up and realize that racism is ignorance and they were ignorant and racist and want to change.
You're a grown woman. If your dad beats you
Threaten to call the policeYou can't change your parents, that's just who they are. The best you can to is acknowledge they are ignorant and don't knkw any better and ignore their hurtful comments.
You can't force them to like him. They grew up hating blacks, they won't be able to change it. Have they had a civil conversation with him?
You can't change how people are, you can only change what you think you should do... do you value him, or your parents more...
You don't. You can't fix prejudice and racism in a person.
tell them that it is 2014 and in here half an hour to be 2015 so tell them you can join this society whenever you want too
Tough luck. Sucks to be you. Move out of your parents place, problem solved.
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