It depends on a lot of things- how many times they cheated, how long ago, how much they have changed since then, etc. For example, if someone cheated repeatedly on multiple partners, I don't think they would deserve a second chance unless this was years and years ago and they've changed a ton since then. If they cheated once, regretted it horribly, learned their lesson, and never did it again, I think they'd deserve a second chance much sooner.
Depends on the partner that was cheated on, some might be able to forgive over time. It also depends if it was truly a 1 time thing but most of the time they can not be trusted.
The second someone cheats is the second you prove that you don't truly love the person you cheated on. To me it is impossible to cheat on someone you truly love because nobody else can come even close to how awesome that person is.
You should always forgive, you don't have to forget nor does the act need to go unpunished but do forgive. Holding on to the hate and anger of these kinds of things does no one any good. I've forgiven things much worse then cheating and if I can do that then someone should be able to forgive cheating.
I don't like the word "'cheater'', labels aren't good. Everyone can end up cheating on their SO and I believe those who cheat and have the guts to be honest whit their SO deserve to be forgiven and be given a second chance. For the ones who get caught I can't say the same thing. By the way to forgive someone also means to forget what that person did and start over again and it can be in two ways, accepting that person back in your life or letting go..
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Most of the time it's the persons fault that was cheated on. If you don't give your boyfriend or girlfriend the proper attention, your gonna get cheated on.
Some girls have a cheating problem because they're caught between wanting a good guy and wanting a bad boy. They date the good guy then fuck the bad boys behind their back. Can't blame them but Def will steer clear of that type.
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Cheaters will cheat almost always again and again although they do feel a lot of guilt and shame and live with that. Everybody deserves a second chance and forgiveness, but can you handle the very high probability that they will do it again? Even if its not on purpose and they simply can't control their primal impulses at times. Its up to you if you want to forgive them.
No worries, I got over it with this little exception, that I always fear being cheated on. But I've learned to communicate and am lucky to have a patient, understanding partner with a great stable family background :) things turn out alright sometimes! :)
It depends on how they cheated. If they cheated once and then admitted it to their partner I think they deserve some forgiveness though I don't think their partner is obligated to forgive them. If they cheat several times and/or never tell their partner then no, they don't deserve anything except a good beating.
Forgiveness is good but that doesn't mean you have to stay with them either. In fact, if someone cheats I think that means the relationship is over and shouldn't even tried to be saved. Forgive but don't bother.
Actually, forgiveness is not the most important issue. Its Sexually Transmitted Diseases. If they cheated on you AND have sex with you later... GET TESTED! I would say DON'T FORGIVE. Afterall, they just put your life/health at risk!
If it had been a long time since the indiscretion and all parties had calmed down and the offender showed real signs of remorse and true apology I may be willing to let it go BUT he will not get a second chance. No way.
If a guy cheated on me just forget about getting back together, there's way too many diseases out there. Plus if he really loved me he wouldn't have cheated in the first place
At the end of the day, nobody "deserves" forgiveness, it's something we get by grace even though we're all pitiful creatures. We accept the gift and do our best to move forward with principle.
With cheaters, I figure it's the same. It's not so much whether they deserve a second chance as it is whether they're willing to make good use of it if given one.
Depends on why the cheated, and this is rather hard to find out. Is it about they thinking its normal to cheat, and something that just happens, or is it because the settings of the relationship going bad made them go that way? Mistakes do happen, but sometimes people just truly believe that they're supposed to cheat and they just don't share that with their partners.
Forgiveness from the person they hurt? No. But they shouldn't be tainted by it for the rest of their life if they made one mistake when they were young and have grown and learned from it.
I do thing at the end of the day they should be forgiven because it could lead to a lot of hostility and anger that you don't need, but its up to you whether you want to give them a second chance.
Forgive but dont forget. Forgive the cheater but do not forget how "he/she" made you feel. If you forgive then your own heart is at peace but if you forget what the cheater did, you are actually disrespecting your own soul and value.
Cheaters have low self respect. So, I think it is a unchangeable personality. I say no mercy for them. Even I stop the talking a cheating close friend.
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It depends on a lot of things- how many times they cheated, how long ago, how much they have changed since then, etc. For example, if someone cheated repeatedly on multiple partners, I don't think they would deserve a second chance unless this was years and years ago and they've changed a ton since then. If they cheated once, regretted it horribly, learned their lesson, and never did it again, I think they'd deserve a second chance much sooner.
Depends on the partner that was cheated on, some might be able to forgive over time. It also depends if it was truly a 1 time thing but most of the time they can not be trusted.
The second someone cheats is the second you prove that you don't truly love the person you cheated on. To me it is impossible to cheat on someone you truly love because nobody else can come even close to how awesome that person is.
If you want to move on, then you need to forgive them. Otherwise it will cause bitterness for your next one.
You should always forgive, you don't have to forget nor does the act need to go unpunished but do forgive. Holding on to the hate and anger of these kinds of things does no one any good. I've forgiven things much worse then cheating and if I can do that then someone should be able to forgive cheating.
I tried to date a guy who seemed VERY apologetic about his past cheating. Guess what? He cheated again. No forgiveness
Ahhh, understandable.
I don't like the word "'cheater'', labels aren't good. Everyone can end up cheating on their SO and I believe those who cheat and have the guts to be honest whit their SO deserve to be forgiven and be given a second chance. For the ones who get caught I can't say the same thing. By the way to forgive someone also means to forget what that person did and start over again and it can be in two ways, accepting that person back in your life or letting go..
Most of the time it's the persons fault that was cheated on. If you don't give your boyfriend or girlfriend the proper attention, your gonna get cheated on.
Some girls have a cheating problem because they're caught between wanting a good guy and wanting a bad boy. They date the good guy then fuck the bad boys behind their back. Can't blame them but Def will steer clear of that type.
Cheaters will cheat almost always again and again although they do feel a lot of guilt and shame and live with that. Everybody deserves a second chance and forgiveness, but can you handle the very high probability that they will do it again? Even if its not on purpose and they simply can't control their primal impulses at times. Its up to you if you want to forgive them.
I wouldn't forgive cheating. My dad cheated on my mom and punished us for his situation. He was a coward and I'd like my man not to be that way.
Wow I am so sorry
No worries, I got over it with this little exception, that I always fear being cheated on. But I've learned to communicate and am lucky to have a patient, understanding partner with a great stable family background :) things turn out alright sometimes! :)
Well I'm glad you're feeling better!
It depends on how they cheated. If they cheated once and then admitted it to their partner I think they deserve some forgiveness though I don't think their partner is obligated to forgive them. If they cheat several times and/or never tell their partner then no, they don't deserve anything except a good beating.
Forgiveness is good but that doesn't mean you have to stay with them either. In fact, if someone cheats I think that means the relationship is over and shouldn't even tried to be saved. Forgive but don't bother.
Actually, forgiveness is not the most important issue. Its Sexually Transmitted Diseases. If they cheated on you AND have sex with you later... GET TESTED! I would say DON'T FORGIVE. Afterall, they just put your life/health at risk!
If it had been a long time since the indiscretion and all parties had calmed down and the offender showed real signs of remorse and true apology I may be willing to let it go BUT he will not get a second chance. No way.
If a guy cheated on me just forget about getting back together, there's way too many diseases out there. Plus if he really loved me he wouldn't have cheated in the first place
At the end of the day, nobody "deserves" forgiveness, it's something we get by grace even though we're all pitiful creatures. We accept the gift and do our best to move forward with principle.
With cheaters, I figure it's the same. It's not so much whether they deserve a second chance as it is whether they're willing to make good use of it if given one.
Depends on why the cheated, and this is rather hard to find out. Is it about they thinking its normal to cheat, and something that just happens, or is it because the settings of the relationship going bad made them go that way? Mistakes do happen, but sometimes people just truly believe that they're supposed to cheat and they just don't share that with their partners.
Forgiveness from the person they hurt? No.
But they shouldn't be tainted by it for the rest of their life if they made one mistake when they were young and have grown and learned from it.
I do thing at the end of the day they should be forgiven because it could lead to a lot of hostility and anger that you don't need, but its up to you whether you want to give them a second chance.
Forgive but dont forget. Forgive the cheater but do not forget how "he/she" made you feel. If you forgive then your own heart is at peace but if you forget what the cheater did, you are actually disrespecting your own soul and value.
Cheaters have low self respect. So, I think it is a unchangeable personality. I say no mercy for them. Even I stop the talking a cheating close friend.
It depends for each situation and individuals.
Some, I believe do. However, there are others, that do not.
Overall- I'd say no to the majority.