Is cheating forgivable? Would you forgive someone?

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My friend and I had a debate lol and she finally agreed I think that even if the person changes it’s not right because your not supposed to hurt someone you “love” extremely like giving your body away or kissing another person. Only in some situations you should give another chance not this. Plus i’ve noticed people who’ve been cheated on and went back never worked out.

Beatrix7 · Accepted Answer

yes to me the cheater would have to change and proove he did to me after all he is the one who cheayed so why shouldn't i give the comand so if he wasn't able to change he will never be able to he will stay a cheater and never love someone as in only one it has been said its possible to love 2 people at the one time but sounds silly to if u love someone it has to be only them not every slut that coment his dick that he gets so happy with the attention that she's bent over in 2 minutes if u love a person u only love them so if they wanted me back i would comand a lot of changes to proove his love and insist that he stays that way because if someone loves you they will change if not they are a lier scum bag and sometimes it doesn't work because of the loss of trust in the lover who got cheated on it could get to there head again that there lover is on the game again and cause a lot of arguments because of lack of trust thats why i would have to see a lot of changes first before he got me back and if he didn't he never will

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

I can forgive them eventually, but the relationship is pretty much done. I can live in paranoia of you possibly betraying me again.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Is cheating forgivable?

Yeah, many people have forgiven others that have cheated.

Would you forgive someone?

I feel like I could eventually. But it would take time. I don't do well with betrayal & it would especially hurt me since they'd know how much I value open and honest communication. So, it wouldn't matter how much remorse of accountability they take for their actions. I would cut them out of my life as soon as I could. And since you don't have to want to be in someone's life in order to forgive them (in whatever of the many forms someone chooses), I'd forgive them from afar.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. Cheating is never an "accident" that the cheater didn't mean to do.
2. Cheating does not happen in an instant; there is always time to reflect on what is happening and decide that it is not right.
3. There should never be any reason to doubt whether cheating is acceptable.
4. Cheating happens because someone chooses to make their immediate physical gratification ahead of a promise - what was supposed to be a sacred promise - to their partner.
5. Usually, cheaters are sorry. . . but only if they are caught.

I see no reason to forgive cheating.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would not accept a cheater or a liar cause that means they don't respect me or care what I invest in the relationship but I might forgive him if he is uncertain who he wants to be with and is honest about it, but then decides to be with me later on.

Summeroflove · Answer

You can be forgiven yes. But probably not forgotten. It would probably result in the end of the relationship and I would find someone else.

Even if I decided to stay depending on the situation. It would probably definitely put a permanent stain on things or at least for a while.

I could forgive. But forgiving someone doesn’t also mean letting someone continue to walk all over you.

Guy13 · Answer

Yes Perfection in relationship is sign of the immature

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

No. For me it's not forgivable.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

No, absolutely not.

Cheating is an automatic game over. There is no excuse, and no apology, good enough to make up for that level of betrayal. Once someone cheats, they will never be a part of my life again.

I have no desire, and no ability, to forgive something like that. Even if I could, I wouldn't, because after something like that, the trust is gone. Once someone proves they can't be trusted, then they are worthless in my eyes.

loveslongnails · Answer

I've never had to because my relationships after college were all open relationships. I have a few observations about cheating, and this is exactly that - it's not a study, nor have I done a survey, so see what you think:

For women:
They never actually "forgive the act" - they just learn to live with it IF they don't leave. The younger the woman, the more likely she will dump the guy (ages 16-30)
IF you are not reliant on the man financially, or have children, you'll dump him at most any age
IF you ARE reliant on his income, or a stay at home mom, or have no other family support options, you'll stay.

For men:
"OK - now I get a hall pass with no expiration date"

LOL

CubsterShura · Answer

I would personally never forgive a cheater and walk away no matter what. But it is completely up to an individual to decide for themselves, I know people who would forgive it and that's okay too. Cheating and affairs are far more common than we think so people who do believe that it is forgiveable do have a point. Again, it is entirely up to you.

snowboarder720 · Answer

No, I would never take back a cheater. They cheated for a reason. Taking them back would only be disrespecting my own self esteem and my value because that isn’t teaching the cheater anything but allowing them to walk all over you without consequences.
Leopards don’t ever change their spots just like how cheaters never stop cheating.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No. It shows I won't be able to trust them. I would always be anxious whenever they're at places where it can happen. And it will break me.
If a partner cheats, then it's out of the door.

I keep seeing those who've been cheated on, asking their partners why they do it, and they say "because you let me," or "because I could".

Audiofox · Answer

If I’ve tried to discuss with my partner over and over again that sex is important to my relationship with them and they still won’t budge then I guess it’s splitsville. I think one episode of cheating is forgivable but only if it’s applied to both genders. Men have no more of a right to cheat than women do.

wittymilf · Answer

Anything is forgivable. “Cheating” is actually defined by your moral expectations… not theirs. If you value your partner enough and have enough self confidence to not feel threatened if they were to find another attractive, or make mistakes sometimes, you’d just forgive them. If you believe that full control and ownership is the ultimate rule of love, forgiveness isn’t the right move for you. 🤷‍♀️

boredgal · Answer

it's hard to end a marriage right away when you find out that your partner is cheating, especially when you have kids, so I would probably give my partner a second chance but that's it. if it happens again I'd leave. but if we're not married yet then good bye :)

Blackmoonsns · Answer

No, because the mask finally came off and you see their true intentions they were hiding something which means they could be hiding other things in their life. The only thing this person is now good for is a booty call at the very most.

Fireguy17 · Answer

as far as I am concerned no I really could not forgive them
I caught my ex wife with the landlord, and another ex girlfriend was cheating and later after i left she wanted to get back together, but she didn't come clean about what she had done, so I just never went back to her.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I can forgive someone for cheating but that doesn't mean I'll stay with them it just merely means I'm letting go of any hatred towards them for what they did but at the same time I'd also be leaving them because cheaters can't be trusted and they'll most likely do it again.

libsaretards · Answer

There is a difference between forgiving someone and going back to them.

Forgiveness is simply letting go of the pain caused. Forgiveness is more for the forgiver than the receiver. You do not have to give a person another shot to forgive them.

I forgive ANYONE that wrongs me because Jesus tells us we must forgive to be forgiven.

However, I will NOT give a cheater another chance to cheat on me again.

Anpu23 · Answer

I was that cheater.

I was married, had a mistress as well as multiple lovers.

We divorced, separated for 7 years.

Got back together, and have been happily together for 20 years. No Im not cheating, no have no interest, just kind of grew up.

JDavid25 · Answer

You should forgive them.. None of us are perfect.. But that doesn't mean you have to stick around.. I guess it all depends on how much investment you guys put into the relationship, and if they were really willing to become better..

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, you love chasing those bad boys who use you for sex. A successful high-value man is boring because he actually practices what he preaches and means what he says. You can't handle that, so you stay with guys on your level and forgive them for using you for sex.

I have married a good woman who can see that there are things more important than the way she feels.

Paulalove98 · Answer

Nope. Betray and stab me once then you'll do it again. Once someone cheats the relationship is never the same for me and the trust is completely destroyed.

TheeTrybrid · Answer

Me personally I'd leave without anything to say cuz there's nothing to say. U know what u did was wrong and u knew itd hurt me and still did it. So u basically said fuck me and the hurt u will cause me when i find out. yes I will forgive but you'll be demoted to single permanently. Find someone else to play with

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

I have not in the past. Wouldn’t do it in the future. That type of forgiveness is above me. I would not take them back. They wanna be in the streets be in the streets because my door will never open for them again.

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

No, once you cheat, you’ll always seek a way to do it all over again. Especially if you are no longer a teenager. Cheating when you are teen is still kinda forgivable. But once you brain fully developed and you still cheat, adios forever bitch.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I forgave her, and then I dumped her.

She did her version of begging for me back. She wouldn't beg for real because she's too stubborn which is a shame because that was one of the things I really liked about her.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's not forgivable, and shouldn't be forgiven. I've had my share of bad luck and was cheated on twice. I dumped both of them and have never regretted it because I'm married to a good, loyal woman now, and that probably never would have happened had I stayed with either of the cheating whores.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I would say that you should never forgive a cheater. But I’m also currently with someone that has cheated on me multiple times before. So do as I say, not as I do. Lmao.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I think I would want to forgive but I dont think I could in the end. I would be thinking about it too much to move on with that person and I wouldn't trust them the same way.

CelticSunshine · Answer

If we were dating under two years no. But if we had been together for a long time 7 years and up and or married yes. Providing that this was the one bad thing he did. Not that we all don't screw up and act like a fool but if overall he had been very good to me and it wasn't long term romance then most likely yes, I'd forgive him and work on our issues, so it didn't happen again.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It IS forgivable, but i definitely would not forgive cheating. A cheater should consider herself fortunate to survive my knowledge of her cheating. No joke.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

If a man cheated on me I’d probably leave him. But if a woman cheated on me I’d probably make her get STI tested after 2 months of no sex and then have an open relationship from there on.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I would never forgive someone who cheats on me and I would never cheat on someone.

Im old enough to know what’s wrong and what crossing a boundary is. I expect my partner to be the same no matter what the circumstances are.

Jf1966 · Answer

My wife cheated on me. I forgave her and tried to move on with our life then I find out about 3 years later that the affair I found about was on my one time out of three. She could not change her cheating ways. Never give a cheater a second chance! The old saying once a cheater, always a cheater is 100% true. A cheater is a sociopath in the sense they have no remorse or care about other people’s feelings. They will rip your heart out and stomp on it with no remorse.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I will forgive, but that does not mean I am required to continue the relationship. Forgiveness frees the debt. It does not require a further expenditure.

chicosuave · Answer

when a man cheats on a girl its always forgivable. if a girls cheats on a guy then it will never be forgivable.

RavVid · Answer

I think trust is broken at that point. The cheated partner might technically forgive but they don't forget ever. It is a broken relationship and it is not worth persisting with it.

NathanDavis · Answer

I would forgive, yes... but the relationship would still be over and done with, no doubt

Sisters_Of_Time · Answer

I can forgive it if the other person forced themselves on him. But! Besides that! Ya no ya? Not cheating is the basics of how to relationship for dummies. Fail that basic rule and I think I will be better off dating someone else!

Anonymous · Answer

Only circumstance I would consider staying together would be if we had children who are young. I‘ve seen too many times how scarred the children grow up to be knowing one of their parents did somethin horrible and destroyed the family. Obviously I would only do this if she came clean herself and I would be 100% certain she has stopped.
Would I forgive? I don't know. Probably not

Clairebear799 · Answer

Forgivable? Yes. Forgettable? Probably not. It would probably end the relationship. But I would forgive

dustybiker · Answer

They chose to leave. There is no playing second best. There are far too many great single people out there.

Lliam · Answer

I'd be really, really hurt. Plus, I could never trust her again, so the relationship would be over.

exitseven · Answer

I used to just think that I would not take her back under any circumstances. Now I think that if she was really remorseful maybe I could give her one more chance.

humanearth · Answer

I would never trust them again. Say my wife cheated on me after 31 years together. I would be done with her. My heart would be so destroyed. I might even think about suicide

yourmancallsme · Answer

NEVER
Unless he felt like I was his world and after I’ve moved on he felt as though he lost everything and he isn’t the same that’s when I would forgive
However I’m petty asf I would get even with him with his closest people

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yes i think one should be given chance if they truly regret their cheating

es20490446e · Answer

It's not about forgiving, it's about that most cheaters actually don't give a fuck and would gladly do it again. Hence you cannot trust them.

Prettysammie · Answer

I try to treat people the way I would want to be treated. I would hope for a second chance, so I have always forgiven them and taken them back. Nobody is perfect

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

I think I would be able to forgive them but I don’t think I could ever trust them again.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

In my book that's a one and done offense... I put a lot of trust in my partner... betrayal

moonpie89 · Answer

Depends on the situation. I don't know if I could. God forgives so maybe I can too 🙏

Account · Answer

Some people can forgive. I am not among those.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I can't forgive when all trust has been broken.

SphynxUK · Answer

I wouldn’t forgive anyone. The trust would be gone and that’s hard to come back from.

lalaloveee · Answer

I don’t cheat and I will never forgive cheating

Anonymous · Answer

It depend there´s a difference between your boyfriend of 2 years cheating and your husband cheating after 20 years of mariage and 2 children. First kick out the guy the second is trickier

SashaHa · Answer

Some cheating is forgivable but if you do it on purpose then it’s not :/

socair · Answer

without trust you have nothing its over. end it and move on not saying that's easy but better in the long term than living a lie

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I can understand forgiving the person but you don't still have to date the person after they cheated on you.

admles · Answer

100% unforgivable in my books. There is no taking a cheater back. They made the conscious decision to cheat, now they deal with the repercussions of that decision.

AmazonKeke · Answer

It depends, if I don't have sex with him for a few months and he strays and is honest about it, I can be open minded and understanding but if he's just doing it because he's bored then that's a no-go.

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