yes to me the cheater would have to change and proove he did to me after all he is the one who cheayed so why shouldn't i give the comand so if he wasn't able to change he will never be able to he will stay a cheater and never love someone as in only one it has been said its possible to love 2 people at the one time but sounds silly to if u love someone it has to be only them not every slut that coment his dick that he gets so happy with the attention that she's bent over in 2 minutes if u love a person u only love them so if they wanted me back i would comand a lot of changes to proove his love and insist that he stays that way because if someone loves you they will change if not they are a lier scum bag and sometimes it doesn't work because of the loss of trust in the lover who got cheated on it could get to there head again that there lover is on the game again and cause a lot of arguments because of lack of trust thats why i would have to see a lot of changes first before he got me back and if he didn't he never will
I can forgive them eventually, but the relationship is pretty much done. I can live in paranoia of you possibly betraying me again.
Is cheating forgivable?
Yeah, many people have forgiven others that have cheated.
Would you forgive someone?
I feel like I could eventually. But it would take time. I don't do well with betrayal & it would especially hurt me since they'd know how much I value open and honest communication. So, it wouldn't matter how much remorse of accountability they take for their actions. I would cut them out of my life as soon as I could. And since you don't have to want to be in someone's life in order to forgive them (in whatever of the many forms someone chooses), I'd forgive them from afar.
u 1. Cheating is never an "accident" that the cheater didn't mean to do.
2. Cheating does not happen in an instant; there is always time to reflect on what is happening and decide that it is not right.
3. There should never be any reason to doubt whether cheating is acceptable.
4. Cheating happens because someone chooses to make their immediate physical gratification ahead of a promise - what was supposed to be a sacred promise - to their partner.
5. Usually, cheaters are sorry. . . but only if they are caught.
I see no reason to forgive cheating.
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I would not accept a cheater or a liar cause that means they don't respect me or care what I invest in the relationship but I might forgive him if he is uncertain who he wants to be with and is honest about it, but then decides to be with me later on.
You can be forgiven yes. But probably not forgotten. It would probably result in the end of the relationship and I would find someone else.
Even if I decided to stay depending on the situation. It would probably definitely put a permanent stain on things or at least for a while.
I could forgive. But forgiving someone doesn’t also mean letting someone continue to walk all over you.
Yes Perfection in relationship is sign of the immature
No. For me it's not forgivable.
u No, absolutely not.
Cheating is an automatic game over. There is no excuse, and no apology, good enough to make up for that level of betrayal. Once someone cheats, they will never be a part of my life again.
I have no desire, and no ability, to forgive something like that. Even if I could, I wouldn't, because after something like that, the trust is gone. Once someone proves they can't be trusted, then they are worthless in my eyes.
I've never had to because my relationships after college were all open relationships. I have a few observations about cheating, and this is exactly that - it's not a study, nor have I done a survey, so see what you think:
For women:
They never actually "forgive the act" - they just learn to live with it IF they don't leave. The younger the woman, the more likely she will dump the guy (ages 16-30)
IF you are not reliant on the man financially, or have children, you'll dump him at most any age
IF you ARE reliant on his income, or a stay at home mom, or have no other family support options, you'll stay.
For men:
"OK - now I get a hall pass with no expiration date"
LOL
I would personally never forgive a cheater and walk away no matter what. But it is completely up to an individual to decide for themselves, I know people who would forgive it and that's okay too. Cheating and affairs are far more common than we think so people who do believe that it is forgiveable do have a point. Again, it is entirely up to you.
No, I would never take back a cheater. They cheated for a reason. Taking them back would only be disrespecting my own self esteem and my value because that isn’t teaching the cheater anything but allowing them to walk all over you without consequences.
Leopards don’t ever change their spots just like how cheaters never stop cheating.
No. It shows I won't be able to trust them. I would always be anxious whenever they're at places where it can happen. And it will break me.
If a partner cheats, then it's out of the door.
I keep seeing those who've been cheated on, asking their partners why they do it, and they say "because you let me," or "because I could".
If I’ve tried to discuss with my partner over and over again that sex is important to my relationship with them and they still won’t budge then I guess it’s splitsville. I think one episode of cheating is forgivable but only if it’s applied to both genders. Men have no more of a right to cheat than women do.
Anything is forgivable. “Cheating” is actually defined by your moral expectations… not theirs. If you value your partner enough and have enough self confidence to not feel threatened if they were to find another attractive, or make mistakes sometimes, you’d just forgive them. If you believe that full control and ownership is the ultimate rule of love, forgiveness isn’t the right move for you. 🤷♀️
it's hard to end a marriage right away when you find out that your partner is cheating, especially when you have kids, so I would probably give my partner a second chance but that's it. if it happens again I'd leave. but if we're not married yet then good bye :)
No, because the mask finally came off and you see their true intentions they were hiding something which means they could be hiding other things in their life. The only thing this person is now good for is a booty call at the very most.
as far as I am concerned no I really could not forgive them
I caught my ex wife with the landlord, and another ex girlfriend was cheating and later after i left she wanted to get back together, but she didn't come clean about what she had done, so I just never went back to her.
I can forgive someone for cheating but that doesn't mean I'll stay with them it just merely means I'm letting go of any hatred towards them for what they did but at the same time I'd also be leaving them because cheaters can't be trusted and they'll most likely do it again.
There is a difference between forgiving someone and going back to them.
Forgiveness is simply letting go of the pain caused. Forgiveness is more for the forgiver than the receiver. You do not have to give a person another shot to forgive them.
I forgive ANYONE that wrongs me because Jesus tells us we must forgive to be forgiven.
However, I will NOT give a cheater another chance to cheat on me again.
I was that cheater.
I was married, had a mistress as well as multiple lovers.
We divorced, separated for 7 years.
Got back together, and have been happily together for 20 years. No Im not cheating, no have no interest, just kind of grew up.
You should forgive them.. None of us are perfect.. But that doesn't mean you have to stick around.. I guess it all depends on how much investment you guys put into the relationship, and if they were really willing to become better..
Yes, you love chasing those bad boys who use you for sex. A successful high-value man is boring because he actually practices what he preaches and means what he says. You can't handle that, so you stay with guys on your level and forgive them for using you for sex.
I have married a good woman who can see that there are things more important than the way she feels.
Nope. Betray and stab me once then you'll do it again. Once someone cheats the relationship is never the same for me and the trust is completely destroyed.
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