Why is the dating pool for women so limited?

Question

just curious on your thoughts as i often hear women say that they lament being single becuase of a lack of suitable men. So what's going on?

tyber1 · Accepted Answer

Well I think it's a combination of two things.

First off, most women would rather be set on fire than to make the first move. This has the result of filtering out any guy who doesn't make a move. A lot of the guys who won't make a move don't do so because they are timid, which is a trait women don't want, but there are a lot of men who just genuinely don't know that the woman is interested in them. Very few guys frequently make moves on tons of women, so the dating game is automatically skewed heavily in their favor even though many of those guys are not really suitable.

The second reason is that women have unreasonable standards. This isn't to say that they have high standards, though they usually do because they may believe that they're more valuable than they really are. Women will filter out men over nonsense, like whether he paid for her dinner. It ultimately becomes a game where you succeed by meeting unreasonable demands and by building up attraction.

So I don't believe that women really have limited dating options, I think they unintentionally restrict their own dating life to the same types of men. They're surrounded by men who would be interested in getting to get to know them, but who don't ask out every woman they meet, don't know they are interested, aren't great conversationalists and/or aren't willing to play by women's bullshit rules. And as a result, you wind up with most women going after two major types of guys. The first guy is a guy who is genuinely very high value, but because women have so many restrictions most women want him. He is legitimately better than most of them so he won't even bother dating lower tier women, because why settle? If he does bother with lower tier women, it'll just be for fun and sex. The second guy is everyone else who can survive in the arbitrary world of women's dating. Most of these guys know the rules and use them to their advantage. They can have sex with women and be scumbags because they know how to play the game and most guys don't so there will always be more women wanting them.

I blame women for this reality, it's only possible because they expect men to abide by one-sided gender roles. If women want more dating options they need to date guys who don't fit their rigid, nonsensical preferences and who don't play by one-sided rules.

Jager66 · Accepted Answer

Because far to many women don't want an actual man, they want a sexy, general utility device, who looks like a man, and will impress their friends.

It also has to be the top shelf model, fully loaded, at 90% off, with extended warranty, and no hassell return policy, with a satisfaction guaranty policy that stipulates if your unhappy for any reason the General Utility Device can be returned at anytime for a full refund and it will pay you cash and prizes for the rest of your life to compensate for the inconvenience.

BuchitaBuchys · Accepted Answer

Isn't it the same for men? Lots of guys on here bitch about "slutty social media whores". And how "feminism destroyed women".

I feel that we all have high standards. Not ridiculously high, but yes they're high.
I don't care and I say people should. Why would I settle for less? I've done that 2x and they both cheated on me.
If I'm with someone, it's forever or for never. I'm planning to spend my life with this person, I want to be happy with them.

This is why the divorce rate is so high. People keep settling. I'm not saying that they have to be perfect, but there are plenty red flags in relationships.
She doesn't like your friends, he thinks her career is stupid, etc and they overlook it. Pretty soon, all those "overlooked miniscule" details add up and they realize they should have never been married.

I see lots of relationships between people and you can tell they're together because of time and not love.
In Spanish, we have a saying "es verdad que el costumbre es más fuerte que el amor."
"It's true that being accustomed is stronger than being in love."
And of course:
"Es mejor estar sola que mal accompañada"
"Better to be alone than in bad company".

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Brokenheartedx · Accepted Answer

We are at the day and age of Internet... blame the Internet women are being exposed to all sorts- try dating for instance, men who aren't single are tryin their luck to snap up unattached females through deceit and lies. Because the ratio of men as there is to women on these sites there's only so much penis pictures a woman can muster before she concludes that all men are the same. It is sad for men who are genuine but the fakes are good at what they do and put a dampener on a women's mind set.

men either need to up there game or lose out to asshole everytime.

same with men as well... they get the opposite , women get told their gorgeous and beautiful all the time which gives them a huge ego, how can decent men compete with men stroking the egos of women?

I've given up on dating anyway, not because there isn't A lack of suitable men, there is plenty who give up to Easy...

caligirl03 · Accepted Answer

It's not just women... it's men too! I think the whole online dating thing has fostered a culture of instant gratification and quite honestly, laziness.

Back in the day people had to get after it a lot more: pick her up, take her out, try and make your move, etc.

Now people can pick out potential partners with the swipe of a finger and order sex the same way they order a pizza. If we're all making it that easy for each other to get all the perks of a relationship without actually being in one, then why try and raise the bar to actually include real human emotions?

This is just where we're at as a society.

Anonymous · Answer

The problem with women is they all tend to go for the same small pool of men. And unfortunately for many of these women they are unable to get those small pool of men because other women who are deemed more preferable are given the nod.

Those women then become angry, bitter, jaded and ultimately settle for someone they really don't want to be with.

Another common trend is that a woman will typically enjoy her twenties, it's her peak decade before her stock significantly decreases and what she fails to realize is that a man's stock increases when he's in his thirties and a lot of men in their thirties will attract women in their twenties and if you're a typical man who is in shape, has his life together why would you choose a 35 year old woman over a 25 year old woman? It makes no sense, the 25 year old is clearly the better option. Less miles on the clock, less baggage and so on.

Women also pick lousy men and you'll find women who pick poor quality men are locked into a cycle where that's the only kind of man they attract and can keep.

Yeah it sucks to be a woman at times, but fortunately there are some great women out there who do not subscribe to any of the above.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a joke. Cos:

1. Women pretend to not know their good guy friend likes them even if they are attractive. Lest they lose a potential male in their lives.
2. Then they complain the other guys treat her bad. But she'll sleep with them nevertheless.
3. Again they fail to see guys being nice to them as them liking her. She thinks that they are just good people. And that she must somehow look for good qualities in the guys who treat her bad. Which will never happen.
4. Proceeds to say the dating pool is limited.

cth96190 · Answer

What is going on is something that Milo Yiannopoulos referred to as the Sexodus, in a two-part article that was published by Britebart.
See:
www.breitbart.com/.../
and:
www.breitbart.com/.../
Paul Joseph Watson (Infowars) produced an informative video, based on Milo's article.
See:

Heera · Answer

hahahah, waaay more answers from guys complaining about women than answers from women, I was expecting this when I saw the question

the ones who don't find a man are either:
-immature with very high expectations of a male actor
-meeting lots of assholes and lots of assholes that consider themselves being the nice guys
-maybe they just didn't find a good match for them, doesn't mean there are no great men left

Still I think you should find a person and have a relationship with them because you really like them instead of trying to find someone to like because you want a relationship

Prilee1992 · Answer

They say lack of suitable men,
(a) Too much nice guys on the pool.
(b) Not much rich guys on the pool.
(c) Not giving away their vagina just because they're self ''entitled'' to be treated like a princess.
(d) They're looking to attain as much attention as possible, like fat chicks, because they can't get a handsome, rich guy. That dude? Is already having sex with a hot chick.

ClassicRescuer · Answer

On Match. Com three months, 108 short hand tailored messages emails based on careful reading of profiles, three so-so dates. Final post read, "It has been an interesting experience for me being on the site. I wish you ladies much, much luck finding someone with the looks and charisma of George Clooney, the wealth of Bill Gates, the humor of Woody Allen and the compassion of the Dalai Lama."

Because I did not put a snark alert, I was astonished at the number of women who took me seriously.

To which I can only, I wish you much luck with your ever increasing shopping lists. Might go a long way to explaining why American women's happiness has been declining 1% per year since the 1970s. (google The Paradox of Declining Women's Happiness).

IceCubedude · Answer

Yeah i said that too when i go into college and out of girls in my lectures few were ot but also taken, i thought " fk no girls to date iam never lucky when it comes to dating iam either too late or no girls around " ... so in short they want a good looking man with a good job who's not a total asshole but not exactly her bitch

Anonymous · Answer

I think the internet has opened a can of worms so to speak, to quick gratification. It's made it difficult to actually take things slow if you want to, so you may get to know the guy at your comfortable pace. If you go too slow, you're a prude and he goes off to find someone else. If you go too fast, you are labeled a slut.

Both genders face issues in this day and age. For me, it's finding the balance of my comfort zone but also finding the right person. It hasn't been too successful yet, but who knows what will happen later on.

BiscuitesSwag · Answer

Post "women only want Chad Thundercock" number #826392

FakeName123 · Answer

Because many younger women have no clue what they want and way too high standards due to sexual economics (around 20 years of age is the peak for women in terms of being desired)

genericname85 · Answer

lol they complain on a very high level... if they think, the dating pool is limited for women, they should try dating as a man... there´s not only a lack of "suitable women" but a lack of women in general.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Those women are just sad and desperate. The ratio of single men to women is actually in women's favor. There's a ton of single guys, but the women who complain are either mean, fat or have no personality.

Spiorad_Aisce · Answer

I think that at this day and age, some people think that in years gone by it was easy, it was just as hard - Good things come to those who are patient.

Bandit74 · Answer

Well... either most men suck or their definition of "suitable" is too restricting. Take your pick.

LeFrogDog · Answer

They need to get out more and also need to work on their confidence. People tend to gravitate toward positive individuals.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the standards are high. Women don't need a man (wanting and needing are not the same thing) and so they have no reason to settle for someone they don't want. Instead they wait for someone that they really want and that meets their standards. Most men are not what these women are looking for so the dating pool seem small.

meatballs21 · Answer

Women want either Benedict Cumberbatch or Channing Tatum. If you are neither, you fail.

chc0009 · Answer

With me, it's because I live in the United States of America. Women are far worse that what they used to be, especially with that new age feminism crap going on. And if you try to bring in a foreign woman, they become stuck up just like our domestic bitches.

Let's also not forget that a lot of American women are becoming fatter and fatter, due to this obesity epidemic.

I don't want to be misogynist, but that's what a lot of these rotten American women make us do.

Anonymous · Answer

The ones who say that have high standards. I have never been asked out in my life because I am ugly.

AhGojira · Answer

It's generally because the guys they find suitable don't find them suitable...

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

Because they'll only consider thugs and men that are among the top 2% of men in appearance, physique, AND social status. That eliminates 80% of men.

Anonymous · Answer

Well women require more from a man than a man requires from a woman plus with all these guys as well as family and friends inflating their egos by telling them how beautiful they are it creates a lot a lot of paranoia from women because they think every guy that compliments them is desperate which weeds a lot of guys out of the dating pool so she will likely go for who is desired by other women such as a pretty boy or player without ever realizing it.

Anonymous · Answer

Unrealistically high standards. But that's what happens when guys become too thirsty and make themselves too available for women.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Many guys just aren't physically attractive. I can relate. Most girls aren't physically attractive to me either. It's like 1 in 120

cheeseysouffle · Answer

The same reason that guys complain about there aren't a lot of women out there to date. It's not just women who are doing that.

Anonymous · Answer

i honestly think that womens standards are way too high.. secondly, they react too harshly and go wild about something that isn't a big deal.. I've seen women over react way too much

TacosRAwesome · Answer

The majority of men like the same type of woman, so onces someone deviates from that their dating pool becomes more and more limited. In a way, the same thing happens with men. Which is why the majority of people settle at a certain point in life.

Pacificblue62 · Answer

They're picky. And reject a lot of guys and don't ask guys out but mainly wait for the right guys to ask them out. Women who do that are creating their own issues. It's a downside with not being more flexible and open minded.

GiftShop · Answer

I find that most guys only want hookups. Thats just from my experince. Or they were looking for a quick fling/just someone to date for a bit.

Anonymous · Answer

Women like that deserve to be unhappy. Many of them live in fairy tales and feminism doesn't help. They should accept what is on offer.

HyperNova · Answer

Women are being pumped and dumped on a grand scale. Because MGTOW.

cchris989 · Answer

Women only get to choose from the guys that approach them so there most likely going to end up with a player :/ such is life

sp33d · Answer

Misconceived ideas and susceptibility to propaganda.

HateBeingSingleAspie · Answer

oh well it is what it is, whether you like it or not

unpleasentruth · Answer

Shallowness + pickyness. They basically only want rich sugardaddies, supermodels or assholes then regret it later.

brewersfan01 · Answer

they are in denial that they arnt as hot as they think they are.

Anonymous · Answer

Since when? When you go on those sites online there is like 50 guys for every woman on there

FatherJack · Answer

I thought women didn't need or want men anymore !!

vishna · Answer

We're usually more selective, it's our nature.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Too high standards.

fuqthegovt · Answer

Because all the good ones are already taken.

Jeeevan · Answer

I've never heard this

Sabretooth · Answer

poor parenting and the media.

Bluegold007 · Answer

Online dating has destroyed dating in this age.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like my pool's limited.

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