Why do I always worry about my crush? Am I overthinking?

[Anonymous]

Like I worry about him being depressed, I worry about him being with another girl, I worry that he might move away, I worry that he may have no one to talk to. We don't even talk but I care so much about him. I really feel like I love him but we don't even talk.

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I like his appearance and personality and respectfulness towards others. And he's just overall a cutie.

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Even once I came near him and he talked to his mate about how some girl broke his heart.. AND I caught him staring twice he quickly looked away the first time then the second time he didn't and his pupils looked massive it was so intense it lasted like 3 seconds no blinking.

[StewieRH]

Probably because you care about him.

I worry about how my boyfriend is feeling sometimes and try to be careful about what I say if it's negative so as not to upset him.

Last week I wasn't very careful how I handled something though (and I admit I was deliberately trying to gauge some sort of reaction to test how much he wanted to be with me as I'd been worrying about it) and I managed to upset him.

I felt bad about making him feel like that. He's so sweet I don't want to ever see him sad, let alone be the cause of it. I don't want to cause him pain, he's so lovely.

And why don't I want him to be in pain, why do I try to be careful how I word things so as not to hurt his feelings? Why do I try to cheer him up when he's down? Why do I sometimes buy things for him out of my own money though I don't get much myself? Why do I panic when he has a nose bleed? And why oh why do I sometimes spend my time writing him a letter or drawing a picture of us together when I could be doing something else with my valuable time?

Well, it's because I care about him. He's important to me just as your crush is important to you.

That's why you worry, you worry because you care.

And you worry about him liking someone else because he is your #1 guy and you want to be his #1 girl and don't want anyone to get in the way of that.

You care about him because he means something to you.

[animelover2301]

girl i totally know where your coming from ;) i had a crush on this guy that was a total perfect awesome guy and we exchanged some glances that made me and him smile... and 2 days after he asked me out now we're dating! so yes you could be overthinking a little but be confident go over there and talk to him or bump into him and start off like that XD whatever just talk to him and maybe... he likes you too :)

[FlutteringFeelings]

If you're doing too much of the worrying then maybe he isn't for you. It's technically not love but infatuation. The idea you have in mind of him is telling you he's the man of your dreams, he's a ladies man but will treat you right and so much more. But really? save yourself from the heartbreak and investigate before you dive in because the pain that is there in the long run will hurt.

[mwin2030]

In my view of your behavior, I don’t believe you have a crush on this individual, but it is more infatuation and bordering on stalking actually than anything else. When a person becomes so intense in their observations of a person as you are posting, then it isn’t really love or just an innocent crush you’re experience as far as feelings go, but you’re describing an intensity, which may lead to inappropriate behavior. You’re seeing his eyes as intense and massive. You’re listening to him as he’s speaking to others and paying attention to his every word. Such intensity doesn’t lead to a healthy, stable, relationship, but can reach into the realms needing one person to take out a No-Contact order against you or a Restraining Order. It is okay to like someone, but you don’t have to be this intense about it. If you like him then go up to him and let him know how you feel. Don’t just be his shadow; try to develop something with him if you like him, but be prepared to back off and move on if he rejects your advances, because he’s just not that into you.

[America1st]

If you don't talk, there is no relationship. Real love doesn't happen because someone is good looking. Lust does. To me, you are worrying about something that you seem to not want to do anything about. If you can't approach this guy and start something, you are worrying about nothing. I'm not trying to be mean, just honest to provoke thought. If you are that interested, try. Doing nothing guarantees failure. Try and being rejected is a risk, but you will know for sure if there is any possibilites with him. Right now you are wasting your time and frustrating yourself. I wish you the best!

[RedHood7]

You're overthinking, but not as much as you'd think. Just avoid thinking of him so muchthat it starts be a problem for your life. Also, yes, you love him. Accept it, and go for it. Talk to him. Show interest and genuine concern. And please, have fun. If he's depressed you being there might be the best thing for him right now.

[BrittBratt2416]

Your just being a worrywart cause you like him so much. It's only going to drive you crazy if you don't talk to the guy lol so start talking to him.

[Asker]

I get really nervous lol

[BrittBratt2416]

I was nervous too when I approached my crush/boyfriend. You just gotta do it.

[LaBoheme099]

I'm like this too when I have crushes. I get so starry eyed and obsessive and think about them as if they have become a part of me. It's unhealthy but it is a hard cycle to break. The only thing I can offer you is to make something happen with him, put yourself out there, and see if maybe these feelings could be.. Not a waste of time.

[Livi-sama]

It sounds like you just have anxiety of losing people you care about. It's perfectly natural but, if it comes to interrupt your everyday life, really think about the chances of that happening and what you can do when or if the time comes.

[Anonymous]

You can't possibly love someone if you've never even talked to him. Yeah I'd say you're overthinking it. If you're crushing him that bad, you should talk to him.

[Asker]

It's just so annoying he keeps going from flirting to ignoring me I think he might be messing with my head cause he knows I like him.

[QuarterNote]

Over____ing is just a byproduct of love. It doesn't surprise me at all...

[Anonymous]

If a woman ever wonders "Am I over thinking?" the answer is invariably, yes. Congrats for having that insight.

[sp33d]

" We don't even talk"

"I like his personality"

somebody please, help me fill the gap of logic

[Relinquished]

Since when were feelings logical? Hahahaha...

[NajemEddine]

"his pupils looked massive it was so intense it lasted like 3 seconds no blinking.
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creepy

[Muhammad1999]

Then start talking to him

[Asker]

He flirted with me I flirted back that's all but we never talk. It's all non verbal communication.

[Muhammad1999]

So start it by yourself.

[Shorty1991]

Its up to you if you like him as much as you say. The last guy that did this with me, I just let him go because I refused to take him by the hand. It makes more sense for the person who has the crush to make the first move. Like I said, the decision is yours.

[HulkkSmash]

How old are you?

[Asker]

19 years

[HulkkSmash]

You realize its silly to love someone you've never talked too?

[Asker]

Lol ok we spoke twice but it was literally 1 sentence

[Asker]

We never get a chance to have a proper conv due to our environment

[HulkkSmash]

What's the environment? I'm actually interested

[Asker]

College, but there's always friends around us and we're both shy so we get embarrassed when we flirt lol

[HulkkSmash]

You think he feels the same?

[Asker]

I reallllly don't know.. he jumped on me once, he looked shy when we spoke for the first time after that incident, then he kept coming close looking straight in my eyes every time sometimes acting silly. Once he just happened to be behind me and said "hey" with a huge smile on his face and flirty voice.

[Asker]

I don't know what he's thinking, but he is a flirt

[HulkkSmash]

so you want the D?

[Asker]

loool only if he really likes me☺️.. and I wanna get to know him more first. I already like him a LOT

[HulkkSmash]

Thats funny. Its an infatuation.

[Asker]

So u think he doesn't like me?

[Asker]

It's being going on for 2YEARS

[HulkkSmash]

Honestly i dont know. Id say move on, find some new D.

[Asker]

I will confront him first, I know he's single

[Asker]

Thanks for the help!

[SmandyCandy]

Aw this literally sounds exactly like my situation

[Anonymous]

You seem incredibly creepy...

[AlwaysBelieving]

Yes you're overthinking.

[Anonymous]

I know that feeling