Am I obsessing over my crush?

[Mimi_loves_her]

• Am I obsessing by constantly wanting to call and text her when she won’t answer

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And I talk about her a lot like hell I talk about her so much it’s annoying my besties

am I obsessing? I

[SnowedIn]

You ask a difficult question (am I obsessing?) for which there is a difficult answer: yes. It's not bad or wrong -- it's an expression of the depth of feeling you feel. But it's still obsessing. I won't tell you to not feel that way but I would suggest you not text/message/contact as much. The reality is that she's not responding either because she can't or won't. Maybe her parents are involved... my kids have friends whose parents read all their messages and dictate what they can and can't do. Or she's made a choice to not respond. My advice? Send one last (for now) message with "I'm sorry I've pestered you with messages." Then don't send messages for a while. Say "hi" when you see her and maybe invite her to something if you have the chance. But give the messages a rest. You may, actually, feel a little better about the whole thing: without the unanswered messages, there won't be the gaping wound of no reply.

You probably already know this but @Curiosity2006 advice and comments are fantastic.

I'm really sorry she's not responding -- it sucks and I know that. Best wishes making your way through this.

[Mimi_loves_her]

That’s the thing unless we plan to meet up I don’t get to see her bc she lives 4-6 hours away from me

[Mimi_loves_her]

And Ty for being so nice about it

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Now i just think you may not be giving her enough space.

[Mimi_loves_her]

I haven’t called her for a while

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You know you can't love anyone if you don't love yourself. It seems that way.

[Mimi_loves_her]

But she completes me

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's why you think you love her.

[Mimi_loves_her]

I know I love her

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Ehh, there's just one thing you may not realize. You may only "love her" because you want companion because you feel nothing without her. It's different from loving her for who she is.

[Mimi_loves_her]

I do love her for who she is she’s amazing she’s sweet caring and protective

[Mimi_loves_her]

It’s just I also got attached

[Mimi_loves_her]

Now I feel partly empty without her

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Now this can only vary if you do love yourself or not

[Mimi_loves_her]

I don't know about that part

[Curiosity2006]

Well, why she isn't responding is what concerns me! Do you see her at school / in real life? How does she behave around you? My point is, is the attraction mutual or is it just from you? I'm assuming she's lesbian herself, is she not? She's supposed to be polite and at least reply back to you!

Now I'm intrigued as to how she looks like! XD She's got to be mesmerizing to like her that much.

[Mimi_loves_her]

1. Not often I haven’t seen her in a while since she lives so far away
2. sweet but protective
3. I don't know she says she’s aroace but what her friend said says otherwise
4. im not sure if she even knows but like I said she say’s she’s aroace/aromatic and asexual
5. I’ll make her my pfp

[Mimi_loves_her]

Now she’s my pfp

[Curiosity2006]

Aha! Okay, she seems gorgeous! Despite the face mask XDD

Aroace? Aromatic? You mean arouse & aromantic?
I hate to break it to you, but if she Is aromantic asexual then she'll never have any romantic or sexual desires. Not towards you, not towards anyone. That is, if she's 100% aromantic asexual. Instead, she could be rather gray-asexual gray-aromantic. What this means is she's about 80% asexual aromantic, with a possibility of 20% attraction towards either gender, depending on the lesser sexual orientation (20% straight/lesbian/bi) alongside the bigger asexuality (80% asexual). Gray-Asexuals just tend to take more, longer time to feel attraction towards their partner.

If, however, she is indeed 100% asexual, I'm afraid an attraction is never going to happen.
Here's the definition of Aromantic taken from Google Translator:

"A person who has no interest in or desire for romantic relationships."

I'm assuming she's 13 years of age, same as you. Her feelings might be subject to change with time. She could be so young, too young to fully understand how she feels.

[Mimi_loves_her]

Maybe she is either a year younger or months younger

[Curiosity2006]

Well... to be honest that makes her way too young to fully comprehend her sexual / romantic orientation.

[Mimi_loves_her]

No it doesn’t

[Mimi_loves_her]

It just means she will probably end up having a different sexuality when we are semi oly

[Mimi_loves_her]

Older ^

[Curiosity2006]

Not necessarily, she might remain asexual, it's one possibility. But yes, you could be right. It depends, has she even hit puberty yet? XP

[Curiosity2006]

I mean, if she Is protective about you there must be an attraction sorta? or could be just "friends got each other's back." thing. I can't be sure.

[Mimi_loves_her]

I don't know i don’t ask those questions

[Mimi_loves_her]

Not exactly

[Mimi_loves_her]

For her it could be a best friend thing bc of how often when we talk she says how I’m her closest friend

[Mimi_loves_her]

But to me she’s way more than a friend 😍😍😳😳😳😍

[Curiosity2006]

Alrighty then, final question. Has she ever blatantly, directly, straightforward told you she's attracted to you? Not as a friend, but romantically? If not then it really could be a puberty thing. If she has not gone through puberty, there's no way for her to feel such attraction, according to my knowledge. That could be why she identifies herself as asexual aromantic right now, because she hasn't reached puberty as of yet! Thing is you 2 are too young for this, you'll both need more time before settling in regards to romantic orientation & sexual orientation.
Just make sure that you actually have romantic feelings for her, that you're actually into her as a life-partner, a soul-mate, not as a Best Friend. It will help you understand yourself and will confirm that you're either Lesbian or Bisexual. Since you're still too young it could be rather confusing. Hell, it confuses the best of us.

[Mimi_loves_her]

Im not cunfused about mine rn but it’s changed multiple times and by the way I have 9 exs only 3 or 4 of them broke up with me and she did love me we loved each other so we dated but she broke up with me on the 3rd of October but she said that it’s not because she doesn’t like me it’s because she feels like she’s to young

[Curiosity2006]

At 13 and you're a heart-breaking, head-turning damsel apparently! XD Alrighty. Regarding the last thing you said, it could be that her parents are involved, as sir @snowedin elaborated. If not, then it's probably just best to give her some space and recheck on her in a few weeks or so, if you will.

[Mimi_loves_her]

I feel like I have a tiny clue to why she’s not texting or calling

[Mimi_loves_her]

But I can’t send links

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Come to think of it, it's kinda creepy to use someone's PFP without their permission.

[Mimi_loves_her]

@Aiko_E_Lara not really and I changed it to a Greek god anyways so it’s whatever

[Curiosity2006]

Well, generally if you wish to share links at your current Xper Level, post the link and erase the "http://www.". For instance: youtube. com/watch? v=2HKRfKeVS78
To be honest I'm intrigued to see what you got ;)

[Mimi_loves_her]

youtube. com/shorts/VVrMRjhqmW4? feature=share
Then after the video she said
You=best friend

[Curiosity2006]

Well then here you go! XD She acknowledges you as her bestie, and apparently she deems it fit to treat you like that accordingly. Since you won't get mad at her. She probably just needs some time out, for whatever personal reasons she's dealing with in her life for the time being. You just gotta understand and respect that, and she'll resume talking to you as soon as she's comfortable in her own shoes so to speak.

[Mimi_loves_her]

It still worry’s me that she’s not okay

[Curiosity2006]

Well regarding that, you can always come over and knock on her door XP HOWEver, this will not be nice if she's just okay and she just needs some "me time". I reckon you two don't attend the same school then? Nor do you see her out there anymore. I wonder how you 2 got introduced to each other at the first place! : P

[Mimi_loves_her]

We met at cheer

[peacesncream]

Yes your obsessing I know how u fell rn but just give it space maybe she will come around if not try to move on slowly

[Mimi_loves_her]

The thing is I have been trying to move on for a month and 24 days since October 3rd!

[Mimi_loves_her]

How she makes me feel is in a different question it’s in the first question I made

[skyee_727]

u are. give her some time to respond at least lol

[Mimi_loves_her]

Yes she hasn’t responded

[Mimi_loves_her]

I haven’t texted her since when it shows

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are obsessing a lot

[Mimi_loves_her]

Is that bad?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I would block a person if that happens with me. Or tell that person to atop

[Opinion Owner]

Stop*

[Mimi_loves_her]

I haven’t called for a bit and I only called once bc I was scared

[User3191989]

Yeah

[Joker_]

yikes