My boyfriend is so hard to make plans with what should I do about it?

[Anonymous]

We have dated exclusively for 3 months (one of which I didn't see him because his work and his broken car) anyay since then I have seen him. I'm always making plans and asking him to go places he never asks me. Anyway when I do make plans he always confirms last minute. Today he cancled since he had something that came up but didn't tell me what... what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Talk to him. If this is happening within the first 3/2 months. Whose to say its going to improve for another 3 or 6 months. Clearly sounds like your tugging on the rope more than he is. So just talk to him and tell him how you've realised that he hasn't really made as much of an effort.

Don't be hostile. Us men tend to keep things and don't like to come across as either weak or as a burden. Some of us will lie to hide the real reason. Be open and ask if there's anything going on in his life currently that may be more important or might not allow him to see you as often. Unfortunately as special and amazing we may think we are, other outside factors can override someones actions towards you. Just talk to him face to face and be mature about it. Im 19. Im sure with the 25-29 range you can figure it out.

[MagiAlphaOne]

Stop making plans altogether. Back away from him. Be honest with him. He is obviously very busy with work and problems right now. He needs the extra time to get his life straightened out. He'll fix the problems or he won't!

[JuicyBrain]

Tell him how it makes you feel. See his response. If you feel it is not adequate for you, make him understand how important it is to you. If he doesn't care, then maybe he doesn't care about you.

[Unit1]

Seems like he does not put any effort from his side. He is not worthy. I'd move on.