My boyfriend says I'm not sexy enough in the bedroom?

[Anonymous]

Any advice on anything I could do to be more sexy would be great. Thanks!

[Prof_Don]

What I'm thinking, is that you may not be "loose" and uninhibited enough sexually.

As in you're too uptight.

Sex is supposed to be nasty, dirty, kinky, raw, primal, and absolutely private. Let loose!

If you want your man to choke you, tell him. If you want to try to deepthroat his dick or have him cum somewhere on your body, or if u want to try anal or incorporate toys... do it.

Don't worry about being judged as a slut.

You will still be a lady in the streets and your reputation will still be intact. :)

[OlderAndWiser]

Can you give us a bit of a description of the perceived problem?

[Asker]

He's I don't enjoy sex (which isn't true..) and that I don't "do anything". I mean there's not much you can do when you're on the bottom.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Do you do anything at the time to let him know you are enjoying it, or are you one of those silent girls? My advice is to try to become a bot more vocal in bed - soft moans, whispering to him to tell him what you want him to do. Those things get guys extremely aroused. If doing those things sounds unnatural, try them anyway; you might be surprised at how easy it is to start doing those things and feeling comfortable with them.

2. There is no rule that requires you to be on the bottom all the time. You can get on top of him for cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, 69, ride his face, etc.

3. You need to get him to play "winner says, loser does." www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a28737-how-to-get-your-partner-to-do-anything-in-bed-anything

[bbch25]

If he had of tried to talk to you and say "Would you like to try this or that" "I'd like you to try and do more" blah blah. But to say "you aren't sexy enough" is just rude and makes him a jerk and inconsiderate to your feelings.

If you don't want to leave him for it then ask what he wants and tell him to improve how he talks.

[Meggers4Ever]

He sounds like a jerk. Tell him that he's not sexy enough. Sexy is when you use respect and communication in the bedroom, not judgement.

[Unit1]

This!

[truthbeknown]

He probably just wants you to initiate more, change positions more often and maybe wear a little lingerie sometimes. It can be easy to forget what you are doing and maybe not realize that you are just laying there doing nothing while he does every thing. Communication is key, he really can't just sit there and tell you you aren't sexy enough. He needs to be constructive and tell you what he would like or what he is expecting.

[reptocarl]

The better question is why are you still with him? I guarantee there's plenty that wouldn't complain

[CisScum]

Sounds like a jerk but ya know I'll hypothetically go with he's an okay guy and he just asked you to try something different in the bedroom instead of saying "not sexy enough in the bedroom". Ummm different positions and maybe find out any kinks.

[Mesonfielde]

It means you have to take initiative and want sexual intimacy

[Regular1]

Be naked, give me a blowjob, hop on and ride til I pop and don't talk afterwards. That's plenty sexy for me.

[Anonymous]

it means you've gotten boring, you need to go outside your box, try something new (that you'd be comfortable doing).

[PurpleTeardrops2]

Ask him what he'd like