How can women demand commitment from men when men's standings is on shaky ground with them?

[Anonymous]

Women often say they want commitment from men but at same time their commitment to men is wavering at best. The reason for this is because:

1. Hypergamy - Women are hypergamous and always on look out for a better male than the one they are currently with who is willing to show them commitment. Even while in a relationship, a woman will still flirt, and be in contact with other men she see as possible being her future mate. If a woman finds a male who is of higher value than the one she is currently with and willing to commit to her she will drop her current mate no matter how much time they've spent together, invested, sacrificed for one another.

2. Monkey branching - This is a behavior that is related with hypergamy. Monkey branching is the phenomenon where a woman will drop her current mate to get into a relationship with a new person. Think of it like tarzan swinging branches between trees. Now, a woman must be sure that the other male is willing to commit to her, so she often will keep her interactions with him a secret. She will test the other male's intention of wanting to commit to her, and might even entice him with sex or the prospect of amazing sex, if she thinks it will seal the deal. If said male turns out to not be a favorable prospect she will abandon her attempt at a new relationship and stick with her current mate; all the while him being unaware. If she is confident enough that the new male is willing to commit then she will drop her current mate and hamster a reason as to why the relationship didn't work out "we just grew apart" etc.

3. Lover/Provider: Ideally women are looking for a male who is both a provider and lover. For most women it is hard to find both so they settle for having 2 men fulfill these roles. Many women will have a provider BF/husband but have a lover mate who she goes to for sex. This is one of the reason why 1 in 4 men are actual raising children that are not their own.

How can you expect men to commit?

[RandomBritishGuy94]

I don't know many women who would drop someone their committed to because "someone better came along". It doesn't work that way. At least not more so then it does for men in terms of cheating.

[Petr1992]

You know praying helps and once you forgive it makes things in life better

[Anonymous]

Clearly you've been hurt by a woman just to stereotype everyone like that

[Anonymous]

She really hurt you bad huh? I'm sorry.