Why do women think the high value men they seek are going to be faithful to them?

[sw1916]

Excluding the ones who act and lie approximately 1% of the men out there are considered high value. These are men with all the desirable traits that women seek. Why do women feel that these men would be loyal? They have too many options, and they are a rare breed. You can find a pretty girl almost everywhere you go. So why do females think they are that special that a man like that would be loyal to them? What makes women think a guy like that would even want them if they found him?

[MCheetah]

Because these women all seem to think that THEY are high-value and "too good to ever leave or cheat on," due to feminism, social media, and simps inflating their egos.

I'd say there are at least three times as many high value men as there are high value (Good, loyal, decent, caring, attractive) women. If only about 6% of men are "high value," then only about 2% of women are. But 95% of modern women think they're part of that 2%, when just talking to them for sixty seconds proves otherwise. Hell, you see it all the time on GAG.

[sw1916]

I agree with this. Social media has really gassed women up. Men start to really believe that women have the power. And that’s simply not true. Simping for women is at an all time high. And men don’t seem to see how this is ruining the traditional sense of what a relationship is supposed to be.

[jshm2]

More importantly, why are you gatekeeping the issue?

[LazerBean]

A high value person is someone who will be faithful. Someone who is not faithful is automatically worthless.

[sw1916]

No my point. We can agree that loyalty is important. I guess my question is, why are women so egotistical to think that if they found a man with all these desirable characteristics, who will have man options based on that, will want or be loyal to them?

[LazerBean]

Because many are. Being financially stable and attractive doesn't make someone unfaithful. I know plenty of great guys who are great husbands and are very moral and very attached to their wives. Faithfulness is a question of morals, not money or looks.

[sw1916]

I don’t think you understand my point. I am not talking about “great guys” or “Financially stable” guys. Bc chances are these guys you speak of are the average man who doesn’t fit my description. Unfortunately nowadays women in society want men with large bank accounts, tall, well built, with goals, ambitions and dominance. Men with these characteristics fill 1% of the men in society. What I’m saying is, if a woman does find a man of that caliber, why are they so egotistical to think he would want them, or be loyal to them when he has so many options out there. You can find a pretty girl anywhere you go, but it’s very rare to find a man like that.

[LazerBean]

The assumption that most women are chasing after those men is a myth made up by men. I literally to not know a single person who is chasing after millionaires.

[PrettyPriya]

@LazerBean this is like watching you argue with a rock. I will never understand why people come here and ask for opinions when they already have their mind made up. Sigh.

[sw1916]

Here’s the thing I think the word “chasing is wrong”. I think if a woman came across a man like that, she would have that attraction for him bc of all the qualities he possesses. Its biological.

[sw1916]

I’m considered a “rock” because I am not agreeing? I am allowed to ask a question to debate. If you don’t agree, you don’t have to answer my question.

[LazerBean]

@PrettyPriya yeahhhhhh I know, I just can't help myself sometimes though 😂

[PrettyPriya]

@LazerBean We have ALL been there 🤣

[LazerBean]

Having attraction and going after someone are 2 different things. Attraction that does not lead to some sort of action is inconsequential.

[SecretsofKB]

Well, I don't even want that 1% of high valued men.

[FilmGuy93]

Have you considered the possibility that "high value" to women might mean something different from what men think it means?

[sw1916]

Statistically women are looking for tall, well built men, with big bank accounts, who have goals and ambitions. Also men who dominate and take charge. Unfortunately the great majority of men do not fill all these characteristics. So again I ask, if these women found a man like that, why do they think this man would be faithful to just them. A bit egotistical, no?

[FilmGuy93]

@sw1916 "Egotistical" is one way of looking at it, but I think it will make more sense if you look at it from the perspective I mentioned in my main answer; women value things differently from men. Women find those characteristics attractive because they represent a source of security. Why wouldn't a woman, if she loves that sense of safety and security, also hope for a sense of emotional security?

[sw1916]

No no I get why they want a man with these characteristics, I just think it’s egotistical that they would think a man like that would choose and be loyal to them when they have so many different options.

[FilmGuy93]

Again, I guess I don't think it's that egotistical. When you think about all the things, a good woman knows she can bring to your life; it looks pretty reasonable to me that a woman (believing that she brings those things) would expect her mate to honor those contributions.

I can only speak from my perspective. I definitely fall into "high-value man" territory and know that having one woman I can rely on sounds a million times better than having options.

[sw1916]

Just out of curiosity, what puts you in that 1% high value man category?

[FilmGuy93]

Income, consistency, networking and social skills, acceptance by other high-value men.

[sw1916]

I can respect the confidence. However, I don’t think a high value man would care about acceptance from anyone. Just throwing that out there.

[FilmGuy93]

I don't care about their acceptance for my own interests; it's the idea that birds of a feather flock together. It's a social signal for other people.

[sw1916]

Again I respect the confidence, however you are not one of the 1% of high value men in this world. Sorry. I’m not either. It’s just the reality.

[FilmGuy93]

Okay, so what do you think changes between the top 1%, the top 20%, and the rest of men that makes the top 1% not want basic creature comforts that the rest of us do?

[Subarugirl]

Because high value men have integrity... if he doesn't have integrity then he's not a high value man... its as simple as that.

[KrakenAttackin]

Correct. These men have an abundance of hot women throwing themselves at them. These men basically act like women and are only as faithful as their options.

[Anonymous]

You're getting too far ahead. What makes them think high-value men would want them in the first place?

[bamesjond0069]

Because they are dumb. My girlfriend knows this though so i got a smart one.

[Anonymous]

Why do you assume guys who have options will cheat. Not everyone is a douchebag like you.

[Guy13]

Dreamers and romantics…

[Guy13]

I think your point of view is a little negative. No one I know gets in it with intent of cheating etc…

[sw1916]

No one has intent of cheating. However when u have options, it’s very likely you are to explore those options at some point. Just like women with desirable characteristics do at some point

[Guy13]

No it is not. Especially, if you are attractive and there is already a level of insecurity. Lots of women naturally think the way you describe. For me, I go out of my way to create an atmosphere of trust because women will cheat on me. I never look at another woman when I am with one mentally and physically. Personally, I am not wired that way. And the 45 tell me I look like a young Clooney.

[WhitneySnow]

Some guys are handsome successful and loyal

[sw1916]

And I’m sure at 16 you’ve met many guys like that because they top 1% are lining up for you 🙄

[WhitneySnow]

Some guys in high school are handsome popular and still loyal to their girlfriends. Why should it be any different as an adult?

[WhitneySnow]

I mean sure there are some handsome successful guys who are jerks. But not all of them are.

[sw1916]

Wanna know why it’s different? Because after high school, money becomes the game changer. All of a sudden money is more important to women. And with money comes a certain lifestyle and doors that open. In high school it’s different.

[Avicenna]

Because sometimes they are

[sw1916]

A high value man, at some point will explore his other options. It’s just what it is.

[genericname85]

basically because of hollywood and disney.

[sw1916]

Unfortunately Hollywood and Disney are not a great representation of real life. It’s simple economics. When a man’s value increases, so does the demand for him.

[genericname85]

Yeah. I knew i wouldn't have to explain it. It's obvious.

[anon1903]

Define high value men

[Zolly99999]

Because some women are delusional..

[sw1916]

I think the more delusional are the men on this site who are claiming they are apart of the high value 1%

[Zolly99999]

I know right haha