How should I feel about my boyfriend commenting on other girls instagram pictures?

[Anonymous]

Honestly I don't mind him likeing other girls pictures, I mean soometimes it bothers me but I guess that's because I'm a little insecure. But I can let tha go and deal with it. But tonight I saw he commented "figure 😍" on a girls instagram picture. And he has "liked" 90% of her pictures. The comment bothers me quite a bit. I don't comment on other guys pictures out of respect for my boyfriend, I mean I don't know how he would feel of I did the same thing. Should I bring it up to him or am I overreacting?

[Rawrzz]

It's different for guys than it is girls. Men are a lot more physical than women.

The best kind of girlfriend, in my opinion, is one that gets that and doesn't get pissy when her guy notices another hot female. That's actually why I like bi chicks, because they will just be right there with you like, "Yeah, damn, you're right: she's fine."

Guys have something different than females do when it comes to sexuality. We have a physical compulsion to seek out variety. Women don't have this. At least, 90-99% of women don't. To a female, if she's checking out a guy's body, it's usually because she is interested in what he has to offer.

It's usually not *only his body* that she's looking at. She's looking deeper than that. She's looking at what his clothes *say*; she's looking at what he's looking at; she's looking at what he did to get that body and how that translates to his personality.

But, to guys, they are *only* looking at the body. It is completely surface. It doesn't mean you aren't attractive to him; and it doesn't mean that he'll cheat on you; it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. in my opinion, it would be good of you to realize that there's nothing deeper to it. He's only admiring her body.

E. g. Why so many men go to strip clubs, while women do not. Also why female pornstars make a hell of a lot more money than male pornstars. etc.

Now, if he knows her IRL, and *also* likes her. Then you should probably be a bit worried.

You don't just suddenly stop becoming attracted to other people when you get in a relationship. It's unreasonable to expect that, in my opinion. In my opinion, you're overreacting.

[caitlin_rose]

to be honest i think she has ever right to be upset. He is being disrespectful commenting on other girls photos when he damn well knows he would get upset if she did the same thing to another guy. My advice girl is that if he’s doing that to u he clearly isn’t fully committed. A guy who is obsessed w u and only u will not feel the need to tell other women their body looks nice. Talk to him about it if he doesn’t stop then get rid of him.

[Zoe8976]

That makes sense but a comment seems like he is trying to engage with the girl in some way more than just liking a pic. I’m sure there are other ways to admire the picture less noticeably. It reasonable the commenter feels jealous because she can seem him admiring another girls body so she should bring it up to her boyfriend if it’s upsetting her.

[Teded]

These lame social platforms should so be discarded right after one falls into a relationship. It's kinda like the origin of all the problems a lot of couples face.

The fact that you etracked him reveals that you are insecure and it would be best for him to reduce his activity on instagram.. should he be the best man in the world, he would close his account.

There's a whole big world out there without facebook, instagram, etc etc... and perhaps (if it doesn't cross your ethical boundaries) you can explore some intimacy.

Talk with him about it, best in bed while doing his favorite thing, with a sad poorly voice and look. and tell him that you feel insecure and unhappy... but don't make him feel that you are accusing him. coz really, no one likes an accusing bitch. Hug him tight... dig some nails on his back... lie on his chest... and he should feel the... aww... feeling

[BumbleSuperBee]

It depends on their relationship; whether they're close and în the same class or if they barely know each other. some people have a "thing" or a "history" where they comment on each other's pics - it has nothing to do with flirting - so why would him being în a relationship stop him from doing so if that girl doesn't mean anything to him of that kind.. Also, try seeing it from your point of view: how would you feel if a good guy friend of yours who has a girlfriend comented on your pic? Would you see it as a normal thing?

[BumbleSuperBee]

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[lumos]

Commenting on and liking things is ok, hypothetically. But I think he crossed a line when he commented on her body and added the 😍 emoji. That's too much. I think that as long as the comments are neutral, it's ok to post them. But clearly his comment wasn't neutral. If my guy did something like that, I'd bring it up in a discussion about boundaries and explain that I think he went too far. Depending on his reaction and if he did it again, I would break up.

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[BadOmen]

Bring it up with him in a respectful way. You are trying to clarify a situation, not trying to restrict his freedom. Just make sure that between the both of you, you can comfortable acknowledge people of the opposite sex without feeling like you're being betrayed. This is where shit always goes sideways for young couples, is the lack of communication which leads to built up anger.

[Anonymous]

Tbh in my opinion I don't see it as a problem. There's plenty of guys I find attractive and I like their pics on ig but I'm faithful to my bf. Being taken doesn't mean you can't notice when other people are attractive. Again this is my opinion, I trust my bf not to do anything fishy and the way that I think is that if he wants to leave the relationship then okay I have plenty of other guys who wants to be with me so if he wants to replace me I can easily replace him. But in your situation I don't think you should overthink those likes or snaps if it does get to the point where you think he's cheating and got some proof then that's when you start acting but for now don't sweat yourself. 😁😁

[xsashax]

Defiantly bring it up to him. You are not overreacting and don't ever think you are. Liking other girls photos that are on his newsfeed isn't a big deal. He shouldn't be commenting that stuff. I mean.. why is it so important to him that the girl needs to know how he feels about her photo? He should be commenting that stuff on yours

[deezfieryhands]

You should have a talk with him and confront him about it, get his side.. if he says something like oh that was my friend commenting, he's probably lying, don't let him manipulate you... He shouldn't be commenting things like that because if you're together, you should be the only one that has his attention

[Lucasia]

i dont not think you are over reacting for a second! having a need for exclusivity from a romantic partner is human! jealousy is human though its only a problem when you start focusing on that alone rather than maintaining your relationship. communication is key, make sure you're in a space where you're both open to feedback , concerns, uncomfortability, even just getting to know them via random questions you're curious about. bring it up to him, but hold your self, be understanding and listen as well, but state boundaries and make it okay for him to set them too

[Tommie21]

You really should consider a different form of entertainment. You have to consider the source. some of these social media platforms are nothing more than places for everyone to do and say things they wouldn't in person. If you guys are really serious about your relationship, get off of those kinds of websites and do wholesome things together. A good way to end what might ordinarily be a good relationship, is to look at people half dressed or sometimes undressed!

[BurCelf]

Definitely nooot overreacting. I have gone back and forth between allowing my husband to look at naked women on Tumblr and stuff. I've finally concluded that I'm not okay with it because the thoughts about her body should be geared towards me. Like I should be the only woman his eyes want sexually. Maybe it's because I'm just insecure, I don't know. But yeah, in my opinion you have a right to be bothered. I'd be pissed.

[Anonymous]

Liking pictures is fine, comments are not. What's the difference in approaching a hot girl at the grocery store and saying " I like your body" same thing as commenting " figure 😍😍" . You shouldn't be doing that while in a relationship just like girls shouldn't either. Same for both people. Talk to him, if he doesn't stop, break it off. everyone has different opinions but I'm old fashioned. My grandma and grandfather has known eachother for over 30 years and married for 28 and why did their marriage last so long? Communication and lack of social media. It ruins things

[capturemyheartnow]

Just commenting on any girl's pictures should not worry you much. But if he tries to get closer to that girl and meets her on a regular basis will definitely worry you a lot. So look out for what they are really up to. The situation can deteriorate into an actual problem for you if he really falls in love with this girl.

[EmHenz]

i think if you're feeling insecure about it, you should DEFINITELY talk to him about it. tell him that it's bothering you and that you wish he can stop doing that. if he continues doing so then he's probably a guy not worth having because it doesn't affect him when you are sad.

[nandinikhaneja]

why don't you comment on other guys picture, unless your boy is hanging out with other girls without telling you. you are feeling insecure just because he is liking some other girl picture... you should not have a feeling of that

[Asker]

It's not the likeing that makes me insecure. It's the comment

[nandinikhaneja]

ok you are feeling insecure about the comment which is "figure"of that girl. that means inside yourself, you feels that girl is better than you in looks. see girl, you don't need to feel insecure, but the solution is that you need have a direct asking to your boyfriend and it will not look like overreaction.

[Lucasia]

no what you did is try to read her mind, she is specifically asking him not to comment in that manner, there are so many other ways to communicate appreciation about people, without directing attraction towards that person in a sexual way or suggestive way, the emojis and words were enough to say he was head over heels over her! the partner is very valid in her feelings of insecurity. its tooooo easy to cheat nowadays and even easier to justify it, get it together

[ProbablyTooMature]

I would say it's inappropriate. But I also think that IG is stupid and with how immature people are in general it's made monumentally worse by social media.

[PikaPower0225]

so do girls comment inappropriatly on guys posts on social media? i follow male celebrities and i see girls saying inappropriate stuff too. So if ur so uncomfortable of your boyfriend saying inapporpriate things, then do something about it.

[Anonymous]

Men don't need to lie about liking other girls bodies and to feel aroused by them... he has not dumped you so don't worry... at least you know he is honest and now you know who he likes... there nothing wrong in those comments... he may love you but as a man he must keep his options open... you never know when you are going to break up.. maybe you will dump him who knows

[Lucasia]

please ask your self if you're willing to have your girlfriend keep her options open too while trying to keep a commitment. it seems like you have no idea how different and valid people are. why even treat someone like an option when clearly they want to be a priority.

[Dlg1979]

I am having a similar problem, only were not exclusive. We cuddled, he kissed me on the top of my head. I really thought he liked me. He commented on a friend's fb picture "not bad at all" I'm ignoring him until he asks me what's wrong.

[ZOOON]

I mean if it's bothering you then yeah you should bring it up always be honest with your significant other, let your feelings be known cuz if you hold it in it just going to build up and you're going to snap

[Anonymous]

You should talk to him about it and you're not overreacting. A man should only want and only have his attention on his woman, not anyone else. Im sure he would not like it too if you do the same to him.

[luvstoned4him]

Nothing wrong with commenting on other people's pics as long as its done in a respectful manner and with respect of you having a bf/gf.

[Anonymous]

Liking pics is fine
But the comment
OUT OF LINE
You need to talk to him about it

[belle_kai]

He shouldn't be liking and commenting on other girls photos. That is disrespectful you need to have a talk with him. Pronto

[Anonymous]

Surely you should talk to him. I had a similar situation when my boyfriend liked and commented other girls photos on Instagram. I monitored him with Snoopreport (https://snoopreport. com) and then I asked him to stop liking as it really bothered me and he stopped! So try to convince your boyfriend as I did

[Klaatu51]

chill out.

the fact that he's your bf, doesn't mean he's not lalowed to like other girls' pics

[liluzivert1600]

um id be pissed he shouldn't be commenting heart eyes that's so disrespectful and honestly i don't even like my boyfriend commenting at all under girls post but i just dont say anything cause i know it's cause im insecure. but thats way to far.

[pooper89]

I'd bring it up. If he doesn't stop, then break up with his sorry ass

[Anonymous]

Yeah um commenting 😍 On another girls pictures isn't okay... I would definitely say something

[RobLovesDemi19771992]

Oh brother you know how juvineile and asinine this sounds. God grow up.

[RobLovesDemi19771992]

He’s attracted to this other girl and wants to be with her you might not be satisfying him in the looks department anymore. Have you gained weight let yourself go and got fat

[DanBodi]

Bro, if he doesn't like her and wants to meet other girls, he should end it. You can't have your cake and eat it. People make sacrifices for their partners and that is worthy of respect.

If your girlfriend had someone commenting and these emojis (❤️😅 ) calling her sexy and beautiful she is with her responding with the same sentiment, you would be upset, so shut your mouth.

[Sara90]

All the guys like to fooling around so just tell him you like her pictures she is beautiful and see what will happen next

[Anonymous]

Ya know, just don't do anything, don't say anything, don't act anything... it's better that way

[Godwin99]

Is normal for guys to comment on other girls Picture and is also normal for u to be jealous a bit

[Anonymous]

Honestly I would get mad too if someone commented that on a girls post (while we're dating) I think you should try to ask him about it but not in a petty way or whatever (you know what I mean)

[Brady]

If u really don't like it tell him.

[RIVERTAY888]

An other cheat dont trust him

[BertMacklinFBI]

d00d its nothing.