My "boyfriend" comments on other girls pics :/?

[laurenbby]

i KNOW by the title it seems like he's an asshole but listen. i've brought it up with him multiple times and he'd ignore me for a while, feel guilty and then a few weeks later, i'll see another comment somewhere. it isn't words, it's just a 😻 or a 👅. another thing is that 90% of the people he follows are girls. that he doesn't know. as in girls who posts pics with half their boobs out and super edited pictures to make their bodies look perfect, which obviously makes me feel insecure. i never comment on guys pictures and if i did and he saw, i swear he'd ignore me for a week. i tell him that it makes me feel upset because we're both really jealous, yet he doesn't seem to understand how i feel. help!:(

[Hhhann]

Every time I see comments on a thread like this, it kind of blows my mind that people say things like "it doesn't matter" "it's just social media" "omg that's so insecure of you" "get over it!"

Because it honestly boils down to respect, or lack thereof.

Let's say you're out with your s/o in public and start vocalizing comments on other people's attractiveness right in front of them, that's disrespectful, right?

Same goes with social media. Just because it isn't audible doesn't mean it's any less crass.

Look all you want, people.

But when it's to a point where they're commenting and liking, it pops up in multiple places.

Friends/family see it. These people pop up in your suggested people to follow. It tells you who is liking it/why it's showing up. On your explore pages. In your feed. You literally don't even have to try to look for it.

Social media is literally designed TO connect people and saying "I'll never meet this person" is a lame excuse for shitty behavior.

[Hhhann]

My last boyfriend was an internationally famous model/actor that I met through (guess where!) Instagram.

Quit making excuses for disrespectful, bad behavior, people.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

100% agree. I've always said stuff like this is disrespectful.

[BrittBratt2416]

Then tell him if he likes the type of women he's constantly following and checking out, then he just needs to go get those type of women. Don't let people tell you just cause it's social media means okay and that how you feel about it is overreacting, it's not fair to you cause it's hurting you and hurting the relationship. Start doing it yourself and liking pictures of extremely attractive men that look nothing like him and he will probably feel like why is she with me if that's what she truly wants or preferred. If he can't respect you and keeps eye humping other women, then let him go.

[Pink2000]

Aww hell naw. I'd be mad. It's quite disrespectful. Why don't you comment on the same photo and @ your boyfriend and say something slick. For example "@ ... aren't you glad you have me as a gf"

[Graydon]

Maybe tell him exactly how it makes you feel and also ask him how it would make him feel if he seen you
commenting on other guys pics. Just be 100% honest. I also think you should say "I feel like you don't want me" in a sad tone and I'm sure that'll send him a message. At least it'll send me the message for sure. by the way I think your pretty while looking at your profile pic and if that was me, I would never want to hurt the pretty girl or make her feel unloved so saying those words should help. It definitely will if his personality is like mine.

[SweetScreams]

Yea. I like boobs. He probably does too. I prefer ass though. Ill look at a fine ass wherever I can. Do I wanna smash that ass? Eh, maybe. Will I smash that ass if Im in a relation? Fuck no. Does it mean I won't look at that ass? Nope, Ill still look at that ass. I guess you wouldn't like him to watch porn either? Doubt he doesn't, unless you guys have sex everyday. As long as he's just watching, I dont see the problem. If he starts flirting however, thats another question. But so far it doesn't look like flirtong to me.

[Alexgagnon]

First off the title makes you look really insecure not him being an ass. Unless he's showing you these pics and telling you your ass needs to look like hers.. what the frick does it matter. If they don't talk and don't know each other why do you even care if looks at other women? (besides your insecurities I mean)

[laurenbby]

jealousy sucks, but he'd feel the same which is why i'm saying he should at least have some level of understanding

[Alexgagnon]

I agree with the understanding. But if you are dating a dog, he is going to bark lol. Jealousy is your own insecurities coming out, if you can understand this concept you will be much better off.. when I get jealous of other guys interacting with my girlfriend it means I'm not trying hard enough in the relationship. And I'm scared they are better then me...

[candypinkbabe]

Would it be acceptable for you to do the same?

If he doesn't stop, then do what he's doing then dump his ass

[Hhhann]

Totally off topic but if that's you in your profile photo, you're gorgeous!

[candypinkbabe]

@Hhhann Thank you You're very kind

[alex57]

U knw when boy ignore someone oa becz of the reasons like if he's a bad guy he simply get bored of u or if he's a good guy u might not giving him the space or u might have spoken some words about him he doesn't like or he just get bored of ur talking. Solution do what he likes talk about what he like😊😊😊😊

[dmac111]

Just tell him how you feel about it again and if he doesn't understand or care then move on from the topic. The great thing about it is that you can see if he actually respects your wishes on what he thinks is a small matter.

[Daburghz]

Most guys do look at other females... Although I may look at other females, like or comment on their pics, or think if i would or wouldn't wanna smash... Most men dont follow through with trying to smash when in a relationship because we instantly assume that females will do the same.

[Ephemera1]

Can't respect a simple request you're making? Not worth it. End it with him.

[sawno]

Commenting is fine to me but the kind of stuff he comments is to sexual and can be seen as flirting.

[awesomespoken]

I only had to read the title. When you have to write "boyfriend" in quotation marks like that, it speaks to how you are already trying to distance yourself from him.

[pizzainbed]

If he knows it makes you jelous it's just a dick move...

[SK8-Benny7]

Me and my girl was the same way. She was super. Piss about. I stopped instantly. He should to. If he really love u

[Muhammad1999]

thats immature , you can simply tell him to stop it

[laurenbby]

i have but he seems to act like it's not a big deal

[Muhammad1999]

either he's too stupid or doesn't care about you, you can choose one about him.

[Anonymous]

i'd dump him. not even waste time with someone that spends so much time focusing on other girls when he's supposed to be "with you".

[TheSpartan]

Break up with him. Don't be with a guy who openly lusts after other girls.

[disgustingweebtrash]

That's very interesting, what are you going to do about it?

[dsrice]

I would not be happy if my girlfriend did that. I think that behavior is not very cool.

[FC_Medina86]

This is my perspective as a slightly older male having witnessed the birth and rapid rise

[FC_Medina86]

Of FB in 2004-05, and subsequently the vast proliferation of other social media sites that your generation embraced in High School and even before; the jealousy will remain so long as you monitor his drooling over Instagram and SC hotties in the summertime... whew. Just realize you are gorgeous and will rock his world in person. If the women he's commenting on pursue him or vice versa, then it's either time for an asswhipping and/ or casual dating for a bit. If you were

[FC_Medina86]

Married, then he needs to reign that shit in and be the real man you probably deserve.

[baby181036]

Get rid of him pronto

[Anonymous]

Big deal. Get over it.

[Oceanxv]

Seems like u r jealous 😊

[Anonymous]

h must be super flirty

[Revolver_Ocelot]

I understand

[Anonymous]

Do they reply back?

[laurenbby]

here and there they'll respond with a ":-)" or "♥️" but other than that they'll just like it, or not at all

[Opinion Owner]

But nothing like real flirty or whatever.. as long as it doesn't get too much, or you catch him messaging them, in DM's