My "boyfriend" comments on other girls pics :/?

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i KNOW by the title it seems like he's an asshole but listen. i've brought it up with him multiple times and he'd ignore me for a while, feel guilty and then a few weeks later, i'll see another comment somewhere. it isn't words, it's just a 😻 or a 👅. another thing is that 90% of the people he follows are girls. that he doesn't know. as in girls who posts pics with half their boobs out and super edited pictures to make their bodies look perfect, which obviously makes me feel insecure. i never comment on guys pictures and if i did and he saw, i swear he'd ignore me for a week. i tell him that it makes me feel upset because we're both really jealous, yet he doesn't seem to understand how i feel. help!:(

Hhhann · Accepted Answer

Every time I see comments on a thread like this, it kind of blows my mind that people say things like "it doesn't matter" "it's just social media" "omg that's so insecure of you" "get over it!"

Because it honestly boils down to respect, or lack thereof.

Let's say you're out with your s/o in public and start vocalizing comments on other people's attractiveness right in front of them, that's disrespectful, right?

Same goes with social media. Just because it isn't audible doesn't mean it's any less crass.

Look all you want, people.

But when it's to a point where they're commenting and liking, it pops up in multiple places.

Friends/family see it. These people pop up in your suggested people to follow. It tells you who is liking it/why it's showing up. On your explore pages. In your feed. You literally don't even have to try to look for it.

Social media is literally designed TO connect people and saying "I'll never meet this person" is a lame excuse for shitty behavior.

BrittBratt2416 · Accepted Answer

Then tell him if he likes the type of women he's constantly following and checking out, then he just needs to go get those type of women. Don't let people tell you just cause it's social media means okay and that how you feel about it is overreacting, it's not fair to you cause it's hurting you and hurting the relationship. Start doing it yourself and liking pictures of extremely attractive men that look nothing like him and he will probably feel like why is she with me if that's what she truly wants or preferred. If he can't respect you and keeps eye humping other women, then let him go.

Pink2000 · Accepted Answer

Aww hell naw. I'd be mad. It's quite disrespectful. Why don't you comment on the same photo and @ your boyfriend and say something slick. For example "@ ... aren't you glad you have me as a gf"

Graydon · Accepted Answer

Maybe tell him exactly how it makes you feel and also ask him how it would make him feel if he seen you
commenting on other guys pics. Just be 100% honest. I also think you should say "I feel like you don't want me" in a sad tone and I'm sure that'll send him a message. At least it'll send me the message for sure. by the way I think your pretty while looking at your profile pic and if that was me, I would never want to hurt the pretty girl or make her feel unloved so saying those words should help. It definitely will if his personality is like mine.

SweetScreams · Accepted Answer

Yea. I like boobs. He probably does too. I prefer ass though. Ill look at a fine ass wherever I can. Do I wanna smash that ass? Eh, maybe. Will I smash that ass if Im in a relation? Fuck no. Does it mean I won't look at that ass? Nope, Ill still look at that ass. I guess you wouldn't like him to watch porn either? Doubt he doesn't, unless you guys have sex everyday. As long as he's just watching, I dont see the problem. If he starts flirting however, thats another question. But so far it doesn't look like flirtong to me.

Alexgagnon · Answer

First off the title makes you look really insecure not him being an ass. Unless he's showing you these pics and telling you your ass needs to look like hers.. what the frick does it matter. If they don't talk and don't know each other why do you even care if looks at other women? (besides your insecurities I mean)

candypinkbabe · Answer

Would it be acceptable for you to do the same? If he doesn't stop, then do what he's doing then dump his ass

alex57 · Answer

U knw when boy ignore someone oa becz of the reasons like if he's a bad guy he simply get bored of u or if he's a good guy u might not giving him the space or u might have spoken some words about him he doesn't like or he just get bored of ur talking. Solution do what he likes talk about what he like😊😊😊😊

dmac111 · Answer

Just tell him how you feel about it again and if he doesn't understand or care then move on from the topic. The great thing about it is that you can see if he actually respects your wishes on what he thinks is a small matter.

Daburghz · Answer

Most guys do look at other females... Although I may look at other females, like or comment on their pics, or think if i would or wouldn't wanna smash... Most men dont follow through with trying to smash when in a relationship because we instantly assume that females will do the same.

Ephemera1 · Answer

Can't respect a simple request you're making? Not worth it. End it with him.

sawno · Answer

Commenting is fine to me but the kind of stuff he comments is to sexual and can be seen as flirting.

awesomespoken · Answer

I only had to read the title. When you have to write "boyfriend" in quotation marks like that, it speaks to how you are already trying to distance yourself from him.

pizzainbed · Answer

If he knows it makes you jelous it's just a dick move...

SK8-Benny7 · Answer

Me and my girl was the same way. She was super. Piss about. I stopped instantly. He should to. If he really love u

Muhammad1999 · Answer

thats immature , you can simply tell him to stop it

Anonymous · Answer

i'd dump him. not even waste time with someone that spends so much time focusing on other girls when he's supposed to be "with you".

TheSpartan · Answer

Break up with him. Don't be with a guy who openly lusts after other girls.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

That's very interesting, what are you going to do about it?

dsrice · Answer

I would not be happy if my girlfriend did that. I think that behavior is not very cool.

FC_Medina86 · Answer

This is my perspective as a slightly older male having witnessed the birth and rapid rise

baby181036 · Answer

Get rid of him pronto

Oceanxv · Answer

Seems like u r jealous 😊

Anonymous · Answer

Big deal. Get over it.

Anonymous · Answer

h must be super flirty

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