I’m so sick and tired of my disrespectful boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend constantly looks at other women in front of me and makes comments about other women. It isn’t just him innocently checking out girls that are obviously beautiful u can’t help but look. No, it’s much worse.
example 1) I meet up with him at a bar with my friends he tells my friend she looks so good and says NOTHING to me. & keeps calling her pretty in front of me
2) on my birthday, he kept staring at this girls ass right in front of me
3) at the mall together he was literally staring at this girl, not just checking her out slyly, but literally following her w his eyes right in front of me
4) this girl comes up on one of those dating app ads on snap and he says to me “why can’t you look like that”
5) texted me a pic of an Instagram model and said I wish u looked like that
6) told me once that he wishes we were friends first before we dated so I could’ve hooked him up with my friends
7) called this girl who goes to my college “the baddest girl at *insert college* right now” when I literally go to that college too
8) asked me for a girl I knows Instagram so he could add her cause he thought she was hot
9) calls my friends hot in front of me
10) I was on my Snapchat looking through ppls stories and a girls selfie came up and he went I wish u had lips like that
there’s so many more examples but I’ve never felt more insecure in my life. I’m just so confused if he’s not attracted to me why did he ever approach me in the first place? Cause he was the one to pursue me to begin with. Everytime I leave him he begs for me back. So I don’t get it. I feel so ugly whenever I’m with him and I always try so hard with my makeup and outfit and everything and he never notices but he gets mad at me when other guys notice or stare or compliment me. I’m sick of feeling like I’m not good enough. What do I do? Am I being dramatic and insecure?

[Anonymous]

As you said you left him few times before.

Just sit down and talk to him.

Tell him that you will leave him this time and no sweat talks and telling what you want to hear will help.

You tell him he gets no sex until he will not behave like normal man should and you will stop feeling unwanted and not beutifull enough for him for a month then he might get it and then he might get none for a month, if he thinks that he can go back like he was before.

Obviously, he can start cheating and you probably will not be able to pull through with this.

You need something drastic at this point or just let him go.

As you defently worth more then this!

[chriscdi]

alright i stopped reading half way, why do you let him treat you that way, its kinda fucked up how he is treating you, what got me was when you said that he said that he wished you looked like that model, he should be happy you are wasting time with him, this dude is toxic, i think you should leave him and get someone that would treat you right, or just enjoy being single

[Asker]

Thank you. I agree I’ve been trying to leave him and he won’t let me leave. Everytime I talk to a new guy he messages them and tries to Sabatoge it he’s crazy

[chriscdi]

why do you tell him who you talk too lol

is he gonna show up here? 😆

[Asker]

Hahaha hope not😂 & I don’t even tell him he’s a stalker and finds out or he’ll guess by seeing who’s commenting on my insta posts and stuff

[chriscdi]

what a damn anus pimple, well if you block him, will he still be able to see your posts? 🙃

[Asker]

Lol I have blocked him he makes other accounts but ur right I need to just completely shut him out that’s the only way

[chriscdi]

yea you really, this dude is going too far, i really do wish you luck missy and i hope you find that perfecr lover real soon ☺💯🙏

[Asker]

Thank you appreciate it😊

[chriscdi]

😁💯👌🏼🙏

[SarahsSummer]

You need to stop wondering what he saw in you and start thinking about what you really see in him. A relationship shouldn’t exist where one person constantly says or does things to diminish their partners self confidence. Partners are supposed to there to lean on each other, not be pushed over. Be strong, leave, stay away. Move on and know that you’re a good person and there are others out there who’ll recognize the catch you are. Move on. Now.

[Zarapeachy]

You don't deserve that. But. why haven't you left? I read you tried to leave but can't. So block and delete? Block on all social media and avoid him. I had this done to me exactly eleven days ago. It took me six days to end a relationship with a guy and he kept calling me and messaging and threatening to end my life. So I understand it.

[Asker]

Ur right I think I’m just gonna have to change my # and never look back. Thanks for the encouragement ❤️❤️

[Zarapeachy]

You're welcome. Trust me it's difficult at first. But eventually by ignoring him, he'll leave.

[I-am-a-nobody]

I've been like that guy. (OK, maybe not quite so bad.)
Dump him. Then work on yourself (not the outside, but the inside).
Obviously, you are attractive enough, since other guys notice you physically, but you need to get rid of this superficial mindset that looks and the physical are so important, because they really aren't.

[topur]

Demand more respect from him. Whenever he does/says something like that explain how you feel and demand an apology from him.

By leave him , you mean break up?
Break up can't be a threat or an ultimatum. You either break up or you don't. You can't break up and then get back after a week or a month, you are only diminishing yourself. You are disrespecting yourself and every time you do it, he will fell less and less respect for you and increase his wrongful behaviour.

[JackSmy]

Why haven't you already dumped him and found someone better?
Or are you the kind that just loves the drama, and complaining about it!
Not meaning any hate or judgment, but it seems obvious to dump him and move on, so why haven't you?

[Asker]

I try to dump him all the time! & he gets all dramatic, cries, harassed me with endless phone calls and texts, drives up to my house, threatens to kill himself, etc he’s extremely manipulative and that’s why I’m confused too if he gets so hurt when I try to leave why does he act like he doesn’t even like me

[JackSmy]

Just more reasons to get rid of him! He is a manipulator and controlling you through his drama and issues!! It won't get better!! Get away or he will totally control you with guilt and anxiety and fear!

[Lliam]

Dump him NOW. Don't stick around. He doesn't love or respect you and never will. He'll only cause you more harm.
There are guys who will adore you. You deserve that. Go find one.

[Asker]

Thank you! You’re right I always knew deep down I have to leave him I guess I just needed affirmation that I wasn’t being dramatic and overly insecure and that my feelings were valid

[katjmj]

You don't deserve to be with someone who doesn't see and appreciate what's in front of him. He still seems immature and tbh, what he does is extremely annoying lol

[Asker]

Yeah extremely immature I just don’t know what to do
How should I leave him without him acting crazy?

[katjmj]

One thing you can do is sit him down, and set him straight. Tell him all the things you're not okay with and make no room for his excuses. This way you're giving him a chance to meet you halfway. If he doesn't follow through, then at least you know you've been fair to him despite his immaturity.

[katjmj]

However, even if he does control his behavior around you, you already know what he really thinks which is just fucked up.

Him acting crazy is also another red flag lol

[Asker]

Yeah I think ur right the craziness is deff a red flag. Someone else said he might have NPD and I agree. I think I’m just gonna try harder to leave because I have tried talking to him about it and he shuts me out

[Lliam]

Do NOT give him any chances. He'll just lie and manipulate. Look up the symptoms of narcissism.
by the way, he will not kill himself. That's just manipulative bullshit.
You owe him nothing. He's just a road bump in your life.

[KingDio]

The guy is a fucking pig... drop him you don't deserve to be treated like nothing and he is for sure disrespecting you a lot.. you're waaaay better then that slice of shit

[Asker]

Thank you! I feel validated in my concerns now I honestly was worried I was over reacting

[KingDio]

No you are not over reacting... the guy is a piece of shit

[blutwolfe]

sounds like you got yourself someone who is just using you to settle or just fwbing in his mind

[Asker]

I think ur right. He’s just possessive over me and that’s why he won’t let me leave him but he doesn’t really love me for me

[blutwolfe]

what you mean let you leave him? You can't just walk away?

[Asker]

He just gets weird and starts threatening me and blackmailing me if I say I want to break up.

[blutwolfe]

What does he threaten you with or blackmail with? Sounds like he's psycho, might have to get cops involved or a restraining order

[Asker]

Text my nudes to people I know, says he’s gonna “ruin my life”, stalk me, etc but yeah I think I will tbh honestly I thought I was just being dramatic before I saw the replies to this I thought everyone was gonna say oh he’s just a guy this is how they act but now I know it’s not normal for him to talk to me like this

[StephenCF]

I know many girls who have rightfully left their boyfriends for less. I dunno why you’re asking the public, it should be instinctual for you to have made your own decision to leave him over just a few of those problems, let alone all of them

[Hermes-Paris]

Hey! Coffee is brewed and breakfast is on the table so wake your ass up! Why are you still with him. Dump and get on with the rest of your life.

[Anonymous]

Call him on his bs, tell him that isn't cool

being friends with girls is one thing, but to actively seek the attention of girls who he finds attractive solely because they're attractive (and for whatever other means he may have) isn't cool.

[MyLastRemnant]

You legit wasted time typing all this out. Just leave him.

[Liam_Hayden]

What do you do when you are unhappy with someone? You break up.

[Thatsamazing]

"Am I being dramatic and insecure?" Yes?

"What do I do?" Whatever you want. Why are you asking us? "Everytime I leave him he begs for me back." Sounds like a problem of your own making then-- either leave him or don't. He doesn't have to change just because you want him to. If you don't like who he is, then don't stay with him. If you do, then do. This isn't complicated.

[Asker]

Yeah but that’s how I see it but flipped. Like the way I’m thinking is if he doesn’t like me the way I am, and is constantly comparing me to girls, or saying he wants other girls why doesn’t HE leave? I haven’t tried to stop him from leaving me. He can’t change who I am so he should leave me or at least let me leave him? It isn’t complicated for him to do that but he makes things hard for me when I try to leave by black mailing me, threatening me, telling me he will ruin my life, etc

[Thatsamazing]

Sounds like you two aren't compatible. And sounds like he's being an asshole.

[MzAsh]

Asker, it’s because you’re putting up with it. He’s a dirt bag and he’s not leaving you because no other girl will have him. You’re the one putting up with it. So stop. YOU are in total control here. Not him.

[Twalli]

Break up with him. He's not good for you. Don't go back even if he begs.

[IlyaTheImpaler]

Does he know about this list of 10 items lmao

[Asker]

Yeah I told him it makes me upset and he said I’m being insecure and dramatic. But these comments confirmed to me that he’s just an ass

[MzAsh]

Why haven’t you dumped him?

[Harmseygrace]

Wow you should leave him. That’s bad.

[Drumlin2001]

Why are you with him? Leave and don't look back.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Dump his loser ass.

[Asker]

Ur right lol

[coffeewithcream]

Dump him.
Walk away.