Do you feel bad for people who fall for Gold Diggers?

[ElissaDido]

I have been watching this show 90 Days Fiance in which an American person and their foreign fiance have to marry within 90 days before the Visa expires. I'm really astonished at how some people could be so gullible. A part of me wants to feel sorry for them but another part believe that they MUST be aware and they still allow it to happen, because you can't be that stupid. You're getting engaged to people from poor countries who are like either 20+ younger and or better looking and you are just so naive smh...
For example:

Russian girl, 20 and American guy ,26

Him: " Can't wait to grow old with you, my love".
Her: *Rolls eyes*
Calls his sister a bitch, calls him stupid, says he needs to work really hard to make her happy, scratches his car and writes "Idiot" on it.
Wants him to give her 10 000$ Dollars a month.
" I don't care if people think I only want him for his money or green card"

[CyberToothTiger]

I watched this and i do agree he is so gullible and she does have
this big thing for being so materialistic and she is a gold-digger
wow the money he spent on her even before she came to America
this does make you wonder how dumb can someone be that is like
me bringing a girl from one of them countries no way shape or form
would i stoop so low i know when I'm being taking plus i do background
checks on ones name, emails, usernames i always make sure to do
my homework before stooping so low.. Yes this guy on 90 day fiance
was hard up for sure to bring a girl from another country let alone
she was already using him for his money just makes no sense at all.

[Unit1]

Can't feel bad about it at all.
I mean, they literally PERMIT themselves to be used like that.

I just have to watch my back, so I do not fall prey into one.

Other than that, the gold diggers do what they do, which is using rich men for their money and provide sex until the next wealthier man comes around, so that she can jump from one to another due to the nature and instincts of hypergamy.

So in short: They are asking for it, they are having it coming at them. I see no issues with that, so long I am not the victim.

[fauchelevent]

Yes, I do feel a little bad but at the same time, it's not like the girl here is exactly hiding what she's looking for or pretending she loves him, y'know? So I feel a little bad for him but mostly I just think like... He knows what she wants and he's unhappy but he's agreeing to it anyway so it's kinda his own fault?

[rgb008]

I watch that show too! hahah
Soooo cringe. I can't feel bad for them.
He knows how he deserves to be treated and his family kept telling him to dump her, but ultimately he decided to marry her even after all the bad shit she did to him.
He's just stupid.

[rose004b]

I see those relationships like a transaction, so no.

[Unit1]

Haha, true!

It's like an invisible check after shopping.

Product: Pussy
Quantity: 1x
Price: Marriage

XD :D :>

[flypaper]

Agreed.

[Elkindtg]

I don't feel bad, it's actually kind of a fair trade (unless the rich person is really naive). I mean, think about it, it's an honest relation, the rish person know that the gold digger is with him/her only for the money and the gold digger know the other person is with him/her only for his body, it's more honest than a lot of relatioships you see around.
Other than that, you always date someone for some reason. You date because the person is funny, inteligente, polite, charming and a lot of other reasons. I know money is a shallow reason, but it's still a reason, so I think that as long as they are honest there's no problem.

[Phoenix98]

Well not all of them are gold diggers quite a few them are with American folks who are not at all rich not of American people even moved to th forigners home countries like this guy moved to south Korea.

And for people like George no I don't feel sorry for him as he is fully aware he is being used and his woman is to its like a symbiotic relationship where both parties get something out of the deal.

And I wouldn't be to hard on them you did say earlier that you would marry a refugee and you'd basically be doing the same thing these people were giving a foreigner/refugee who is not a legal citizen access to your families wealth and legal citizenship into your country.

[ElissaDido]

You're aware that refugees used to have jobs and education back home too? Not all of them are poor? The refugee I knew back in Med school was an educated dentists, and the one who studies with me right now is doing very well despite the fact that he knew no French upon arriving here, now not only does he speak it well, but he's succeeding in law school... They would be getting Tunisian citizenship? Probably one of the least valuable/ important passports in the world xD

[Phoenix98]

Used to is the key word, and all of the from that show have degree's and jobs to you know lol. My point being is that the refugee's don't have that anymore and desperate people do desperate things like the refugee's in Europe who break national law and country hop to Germany in order to live off of their welfare and never work.

True but you'll still have more work and school opportunities with one then without one plus it looks a little suspicious if you don't have one after so long.

The fact is that you'd be doing pretty much what the people above are doing plus most of the people on that show are not like Anfisa keep watching it you'll find that out pretty quickly if you haven't already. so it makes you a bit of a hypocrite to bash them to hard.

Though like I said above I have no sympathy for George when it comes to Anfisa as he knows exactly what is going on and still is involved with her.

[ElissaDido]

Ugh. Many of these men are more educated than you and I and education is timeless and goes beyond borders so even if they lost every material thing because of the war, they still have what's most valuable and beneficial.

Syrian people are some of the most honorable and hard working people I have met. As a matter of fact every single Syrian man I grew up with and went to school with is actually studying for a hard degree like engineering or Medicine. And I will take an educated Syrian refugee over a next-door man of my own country anytime of the day. Not to mention that in their culture it's a shame for a Man to financially rely on his woman.

Evan, you've never met a Syrian in your life and you have no clue how our culture works, so comparing a Syrian refugee to Anfisa and saying I'm a hypocrite is beyond shallow and ignorant.

[Phoenix98]

Uh huh.

Desperate people do desperate things when it comes to economic trouble and struggle I know far better then you as that is what I grew up in. And in that all humans are the same when crap hits the fan they do things they normally wouldn't and they look at things differently, hence why most of the immigrants either did or are nation skipping and leaving the nations that the UN assigned them breaking the law and heading to Germany for the infinite and free welfare. Which will eventually lead to a economic collapse because it won't be able to sustain them all.

Your right that I've never met one but wrong on the second part, but one thing I do know is the common people and people in general and I know poverty and I know financial struggle and the struggles of a life in the real world unlike you.

Never did I once compare of refugee to Anfisa what I compared was the situations and what they were doing. And what you would do and what they are doing is the exact same thing.

[Phoenix98]

So yes it does make you a hypocrite regardless of who we're talking about because I'm not comparing the people but what you would do and what they are doing and it is the same thing.

[Maypai]

love 90 day fiance, but to answer your question I don't. George know how this woman was, I can't remember her name, and yet he stills chooses to be with her because he thinks she's beautiful and he loves her. A lot of men do the same exact thing even after just about everyone they know tells them their "hot" girlfriend is a gold digging ho.

[TheRebel69]

My girlfriend watches that show. I always find it hilarious but I do feel bad for them. That guy in the picture is incredibly nice and is being taken advantage of, but he's wealthy and desperate so it's kind of like a symbiotic relationship. One person wants something from the other and vice versa.

[JRICHARDS1996]

A little bit. Many of those men are genuinely saddened and struggling with their own insecurities, so it is not surprising that they would jump the gun with something like a mail order bride. On the other hand, they have nobody to blame for what happens to them than themselves. They chose such a woman.

[TripleAce]

Money for a hot girl, seems more common than not. Either way this is a trade off. He wants a hot women that's young and he's knows exactly where he is going to get that - not at the local coffee shop randomly bumping into a cutie - because to him that would never happen but rather ship some bimbo from overseas in a box

It's like shopping on amazon

[PiuBravoRagazzo]

I would only give a woman a green card and marriage if she is you ❤️❤️❤️

Or she pays me $50,000

[ElissaDido]

I would only move to the US for you ❤️☺️

[PiuBravoRagazzo]

I know baby ❤️❤️❤️

[FýrdracaDócincel]

"Or she pays me $50,000"

Still a better love story than Twilight.

[capturemyheartnow]

People who fall for gold diggers are not bad. But gold diggers are actually bed. Everyone is vulnerable. And if you are vulnerable when you want love , you can do nothing about it. Some people are strict enough to dump these type of gold diggers on the very first opportunity. But all people are not the same.

[blondfrog]

Yeah I do then again if it wasn't for their looks which most gold diggers are then those guys wouldn't fall for them. If you think about its us men's faults too for going for women who only have looks. We both need to play our part when we are both at fault.

[FakeName123]

It depends. There are plenty who are fully aware of being used for money and in return they get pussy.

That being said, I also think there are quite a few who are so lonely and desperate for affection that they kinda get tunnelvision.

[yucel_eden]

I think sometimes the guy knows that the girl is a gold digger. But he knows that he's so ugly that he won't be able to get a girl above a 4 with just he's looks, therefore he goes for a gold digger that's an 8.

He knows what he's getting into. He gets sex she gets money.

When the guy doesn't know though, well that's another topic.

[cheeseNwine]

i think most women who rate above 7 to 8 using higher general standards are gold diggers or sluts.

its not that theyre worse than others but how society treats and what human nature is

most people who aren't this selfish and corrupt never tasted power to that level that exotic beauty (riches) gives them so they cannot judge

[BubbleBoy69]

Not really. The signs are all there. If they stil walk through the fire then it's their fault.

[Luci92]

In this case, I feel bad for him even though it's incredibly obvious she's using him.
Some gold diggers operate very stealthily though, so yes, I do feel bad for some men.

[Avery18]

i dnt knw why i don't believe these? i mean no one can be that selfish like her and stupid like him. if this is true then god help them both. and she should work to get her own money and educate herself. this is so bad.

[wankiam]

there is an answer to this... pretend to be a rich guy, fuck the gorgeous girl as often as possible then dump her penniless. or just go outside and meet a nice genuine girl in the real world

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

[Luci92]

DAMNIT
You beat me too it :(

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@Luci92 sucks, don't it? Happens to me a lot on this site

[Luci92]

It does, I understand your pain

[FýrdracaDócincel]

No, I don't. Grow a pair and have some self-respect, so I say.

On the other hand... Russian women.

Doesn't justify him staying with her but still... Russian women.

[mutedaisy]

Her lips make it hard for her to speak. It's so painful seeing this :/ He wants someone that is high maintenance, he has to be willing to pay for her.

[bedroomdweller]

It really irks me how those whores get away with it. It irritates me to see these women have their way, but at the same time I don't feel sorry for idiots like that guy. If he ever gets divorced-rape he deserves that.