We have a word for men who value women for only their looks. We call them shallow. And no one wants a shallow guy.
A relationship is more than money and looks. If you're a shallow man then you are valuing a woman for only her looks, which means that without her appearance she is nothing to you, which is extremely disrespectful to a person. Same way dear, you don't love men, you just love their money and God forbid if anything bad ever happens and they get broke you won't be there to provide them support that they need, you will simply leave them. And that is unfair to men.
We all deserve a partner that sticks with us for the rest of our lives. I'm gonna sleep with my man under one roof for the rest of my life and it can't be someone that I know will leave me when I don't look as pretty anymore or his personal preference change. Plus, my future kids deserve a better father, and so do they deserve a mother who can be better than just a gold digger. Kids deserve being raised in a healthy dynamic family, and not a fragile structure that can break from something like unemployment or weight gain.
Does it mean that one can't value things like good looks and wealth? Of course not, we all value then and desire them, but there problem arises when it's a priority over some more important things in life. One who doesn't understand the importance of things other than looks and money aren't qualified for a relationship. Looks and money are very temporary, you can lose them in a split second.
But hey, you never even been in a relationship, you have been dating ATM booths by the name of relationship that doesn't count to me, so I guess no use of telling you all this. 🤷
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As a woman it’s just as degrading to know men only like you for you looks and really could care less about the type of woman you are. I’m a pretty shitty woman I won’t sit up here and lie but I’ve seen men stick to me like some glue and I know it’s because I’m I guess pretty and now that I’m older I know I have a pretty big butt. I feel like I would have more to offer than my looks and body but guys typically don’t actually care they’ll stick around regardless of how you treat them or what you say. Men are shallow for the most part I rarely meet guys who actually get to know me on a personal level and who aren’t just kissing my ass trying to impress me all day and following me around like a lost puppy 🐶. You know what it’s sad asfk and dehumanizing it’s shallow asfk too if I choose to go after a man for his wallet and looks SO what it’s just as shallow as someone not even knowing me but still sticking to me for my looks nothing more. Fuck that I rather use men like that than love them I treat good men who get to know me fr good only period the rest you nothing but a man with some money 💰
You are so wrong. Valuing a man for financial success is not the same thing as a gold digger.
Ok I'm very well off. And i think of girls in 3 categories when i date them:
1. Independent. Wants to have her own money and would never let me provide much of anything for her. This is not fun. I worked hard to be where I am and i want to share it with you. I also want to be acknowledged and respected for my success. I dont date these girls.
2. Gold digger. This girl feels entitled to money. Its not that she's attracted to me for my success but she literally just sees me as a wallet and that she deserves it. Undateable again.
3. Ideal girl. She is attracted to successful men and does not date bums because she is worth more than that. But she respects me for being successful and does not feel or act entitled but she is instead appreciative. She doesn't reqiure i spend money on her. Simply having the money is good. Im stable. But she's down to earth and knows i am not a wallet. A walk in the park or a simple low key dinner is all she ever expects because she knows IT IS NOT HER MONEY. She also intends to compliment me by providing equal value but in other ways, typically she's someone who reciprocates value by being a excellent home maker and mom because that is very valuable to a man. Unlike a gold digger who thinks just sex or her company is value which it is not.
There is a difference between your two examples. No one expects anyone to want to be in a relationship with someone they find unnatractive. Men valuing women for being attractive isn’t bad, same goes for women valuing men for being attractive. And valuing a partner for financial stability isn’t the same as being a gold digger. A good digger doesn’t value their partners financial stability. They want their partners money. And traditionally the only reason a gold digger is involved with a man is for his money. That’s what makes it bad. They’re not valuing the man for what they are, they’re valuing them by what they have. And don’t give me that crap about men not being attacked for only valuing a woman’s appearance, that literally happens all the time. Yes there are men who only value women for their looks, but that’s not seen as a good thing. And it shouldn’t be seen as a good thing for women to only value men for their money. Why can’t we all just agree that we should value each other as people.
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"and if men are allowed to value something as shallow as the size of our butts," You think that ALL men prefer big butts?
What's wrong with pretending to care about someone and sobbing your pussy on a cock in exchange for someone to pay for the fact that you don't want to have a real job and contribute to society?
... Do you, but I'm gonna judge you.I prefer love relationships, but you raise a very good point
I agree! Women want security and men want to sow their seed! That’s natural!
However falling in love is what matters and whilst money can be attractive the relationship won’t last and you’re hear just once! So I choose love!
What is a shame is when a girl is in love with a multi millionaire yet no one believes them! Swings and roundaboutsUsually rich men go for younger glamorous looking goldiggers. She's using him for financial gain, and he's using her as a trophy on his arm and for her body. So they're both using each other . I don't know what the issue is about people hating goldiggers. He's just as bad as her really.
Everything you said is completely true. Dating for both looks and money is shallow. However, one is seen as acceptable where the other is not. Makes no sense right? Welcome to the world where whatever a man does is seen as acceptable yet what women do is shamed and condemned and all hell breaks loose. What a double standard.
I disagree with desiring someone only to please some selfish motivation, be it sexual or financial.
Men however - have a habit of WANTING TO GIVE US SHIT.
It's like they automatically have to brag about their job (or hide it if they dont feel it's good enough,) get the bill, buy you gifts, pay your bills, fix your stuff... or outright give you money.
Dude dropped 1200.00 at me during vacation, because he wanted to "see me happy."
No.
He was completely flexing on the other men interested in me, to prove he was the better provider.
I gave it back of course lol - I am waaaaay to proud to be bought.
And I'm sure 1200.00 is kinda cheap for a human 🤣🤣🤣No, it's degenerative and just a pathetic excuse to manipulate others. I don't like gold diggers because they exploit a man only for his pay check and maybe she might like the guy, but that woman in the relationship would only be there for the money really in the end if she's a gold digger, not him.
You're practically just arguing here "He finds me attractive so that means I can only use him for his money!" It's a bullshit excuse to just use someone for your personal gain. Even if the guy is an asshole and shallow you're no worse than him and even worse because he's at least honest about himself being one. Also, not all wealthy men are shallow or assholes, so you could just be using someone that loves you and is a decent person.
Valueing money on some level in a relationship is okay as having an income due to a job usually shows you're not lazy and you're willing to work. That's attractive, but to have your relationship only based on money is just selfish and superficial.Here’s the thing. If it’s fair for you to drop a guy because you find another guy who makes more money then it’s fair for us to dump you because we find a woman who stays in better shape than you, right? See you’re saying that your value is literally in your azzz & his value is in his bank account. When I deal with a woman who thinks like this I keep what I just said in mind. With a woman who values more then I will value more in her.
If you want to be a digger you better never get lazy. Eventually you’ll be old and competing with women leas than half your age. That ain’t easy. Only a few women can pull it off.
The reason men aren’t called gold diggers is because it’s rare and/or deeply shameful for a man to live off of a woman. But women brag about fleecing men and celebrated the movie Pretty Women which was about a hooker getting paid lots of cash.Let me be frank.
I find many girls described as hottie as stuck up ladies who can't appreciate people who can't benefit them. While not all hotties are bitchy and not all hotties are gold diggers, I find myself hard to find hotties who knows how to respect themselves while maintaining wide social circle with various types of friends and relations as well as positive attitude.
I had never wanted beautiful women more than I want understanding women with good head on their brains and generous heart.I work my whole life to build a solid foundation to stand on. One girl comes along and starts leaching off my kingdom. I divorce said girl and she takes HALF of everything I've ever worked for.
A girl goes to the gym a few times a week and stays healthy. She makes herself look nice. What do I have to gain from her other than she's pretty?
The double standard is girls get to live a life of luxury for doing nothing and complain about how hard they worked to get there. Unless you're working a 9-5 making 50%+ of the household income, I don't wanna hear it. Girls who do nothing and get everything have no reason to point fingers about who abuses a double standard.I'm honestly having a hard time agreeing.
Money isn't that important for me. I don't know maybe because seeing my parents still together and working together when we were homeless seeing their love grow stronger by working together to own a home while we had food and staying in hotels made me realise that if you truly love someone money isn't that important. So many people told my dad how lucky he is. People has told my mom ( especially from family and even his ) to leave my dad because they blame him for what happened but my mom still stayed by his side. So for a girl to be with someone just because of his money seems wrong to me.
But yes some Men will date women because of how our body is shaped and how we look but it doesn't mean we have drop down to their level.I always thought the idea of someone considering financial value in a person as much more shallow than someone considering aesthetic value in a person. Obviously there's importance in considering financial stability for a relationship, however it's such a terrible thing to use as a lone judgement on a person.
Now obviously, I don't feel either are a good way to judge whether you're interested in a long term relationship with a person. However, I would definitely have to say that considering physical attraction is most certainly less "shallow" than considering someone's worldly possessions. In one, there's at least interest for the person, while the other is just interest in their stuff and it wouldn't have mattered if the person was actually there or not as long as the possessions remained.
Physical attraction is just an initial interest, and unless the stars align, you will not see a successful and fulfilling long term relationship without other important aspects in said person.I don't think anything is wrong with these relationships as long as they're consensual and both understand what's going on. I will say though, in these relationships you also can't be upset by the dark side of them.
Such as the woman (or Male gold diggers) being treated like an object because, no offense, but if someone spends a shit ton of money on you. Unless they specifically asked for certain things, they most likely want you to shut up and be their possession to do with as they please. After all, they're paying for that type of power.
So sometimes that means a 10k necklace costs you anal at 3am because they're horny and can't go to sleep. That means you have to get them food and take care of them like your master almost. Or sugar daddy or whatever the hell they are to you because thsts what they're paying you for. As long as you understand you'll be sacrificing parts of your time and self for money. As well as how people view you, I think it's fine.Both genders have Gold Diggers but for men they are called Gigolos and because of a Richard Gere movie in the 80s Gigolos are considered a sexy thing. As always double standard, rich dude is high fived for getting hot Gold Digger where rich woman is ostracized for getting a Hot Gigolo aka Male Gold Digger. Both sides go into it knowing the deal so if they don't mind others shouldn't care but society likes to shame women or everything!!!
For all the guys saying she is generalizing all guys, how many guys on this site do this in every question, opinion, post? Many of the guys and gals on here and in life generalize based on what they see and usually the people they choose to date and unless you wake-up look in the mirror fix yourself you are still going to be a loser in the Romance Dept because you have a Broken Mate Picker!!!What's so wrong with pimping hos? There's nothing wrong with renting them out by the hour to other men and smacking the shit out of them when they don't have your money right? Women want money and men want money. There's no problem using them for money, women want it too... Bitch better have my money!
Awwww yes. It is the feminist movement, or what it has become. Shaming women for doing what is natural: finding a wealthy/productive man that can provide both for her, and her children.
It is no longer acceptable to have that view, and women that do it, and gold diggers. Simple as that. Bullshit. The feminist movement today attacks all sexes, degrading the necessary gender roles that have been in place for eons in all western civilizations, and it's worked out damn well all that time.
And now look at us. The average individual is getting lazier, and less productive as social movement progress.
Got political, that's my opinion though.Well, the thing is about deception. When you go on sites that specifically match you with sugar daddies and so on, both people understand what kind of arrangement we are talking about. When a guy wants a girl only for her looks it is easily seen as well but gold diggers are pretenders and liars, they manipulate and use other people and then leave them with nothing.
Nothing I suppose.
Remember, men pursue mates driven by beauty and fertility; women pursue mates driven by social-economic.
Based on this hypothesis, a very young exceedingly beautiful woman has many options to choose the mate with the highest social-economic status.
This is why it's stereotypical to see a super hot young women on the arm of an older very rich man. He's pursing is ability to aquire youth beauty and fertility, while she's pursuing her ability to achieve greater social-economic status. This kind of arrangement is frequently common.men wants beauty women but they don't want to spend anything for them after marriage. they want something like before marriage. the pretty girl always pretty everytime they met. so the men expect the women be like in old time. always pretty. in fact she depend on him financially after marriage. without money after marriage, she can't be pretty. because no money, we can't buy pretty clothes and we can't buy makeup and skin care products. guys thinks pretty women are like an angel. stay pretty till they die. they didn't realize their girlfriend are pretty Because the girls' parents. guys are idiot.
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