Girls, how would you handle your man crying?

[Aizou]

[HaveQuestions]

"It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you've touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals, or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you tell is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day. If you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of a sea and say to the silver moon 'yes.'

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you make. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else fades away."

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend doesn't cry easily, but I can tell when something is bothering him or when he is about to cry. It breaks my heart to see him upset and I would do anything to make him feel better, but I also don't want to pressure him into telling me why if he really doesn't want to. When my boyfriend is upset I make sure he knows that I'm always there for him, and that I will always support him no matter what. I never make him talk about what's bothering him in public, and instead will ask him what's bothering him when we are alone and he can tell me things in secret if he so pleases.

[Aizou]

You're acting as his pillar of support. That's good. :)

[Schrodingerscat]

I'm all for men being emotional at times. But still, it is soo unusual and just... different to see men cry.
I don't have a boyfriend now but if I had one and if he cried, I guess I would try to comfort him, hug him and tell everything is going to be alright. Also help him with the situation. It'd make me feel really really sad to see him cry.

[fauchelevent]

Him crying isn't that big a deal. It's never really been over a big thing, he's just cried a few times watching something and then once during a game :P I just hug him til he stops and then we move on.

[Aizou]

A simple hug is often the best comfort.

[erfandaraby]

i think a tight hug and show the presence is the best way

[ElissaDido]

Comfort him, hug him, make him feel better.

[WaterRat]

I would hold him tight, stroke his hair, kiss his face, kiss his tears and tell him I love him.

[Aizou]

Good choices, simple is often better. :)

[WaterRat]

Simple like just a hug?

[Aizou]

Also the things you mentioned. Simple as in not making a big deal of it. :)

[WaterRat]

Ok, so when his mom dies... haha. I don't see a guy crying that often so when they do it might be a big one.

[LadyCourtessa]

i will just hold his hand tightly and listen to what he gonna say (if he wanna say smthng) if not then i will just hold his hand and hug him... and he can share with me if he want if he dont want then its okay./.. I won't pressure him on telling me what happened.

[natured]

I love when my man cries in certain situations, I absolutely love when he tries to hide it, and it melts my heart, it actually brings us close together, sometimes we do cry or at least he tries to hide it but I can still see <3

[billar]

good answer.

[hrlalal]

my boyfriend rarely cries so when he does it breaks my heart

[Aizou]

Telling him that when he cries sounds like a good line.

[TiffyPuff]

I'd dump his ass cuz I don't date weak cucks 😑

;)

If my boyfriend was crying like obviously I'd comfort him and see what was wrong, lol. Like, who wouldn't? :)

[alice55]

Depend for why he cry, if it's stupid reasons I wouldn't do anything if it's serious reasons then I ll try to make him not think about it (make him smile, talking about what he like, making food, etc...)

[ArabianPwincess197]

I'd go sit next to him quietly, look at him, hold his hand, if he still is crying, I'd hug him and wait for him to tell me what's wrong. Maybe give him a kiss too if that makes him better lol

[vishna]

If he feels strongly enough about something to cry, it must mean a lot to him. I would try to make him feel better.

[Maypai]

Well, it depends on what he's crying about. If it's something serious or really personal to him, I would hold him and let him get everything out that he needs to.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

I don't know I figure I'll just post a question on GaG if this ever happened. :I

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

I don't know. Get him a beer. I don't know what to do with crying people.

[spencify96]

Good enough.

[lostgirl_searching]

Hold him, making sure his head is on my chest. Telling him to let it out. Listening and also giving advice.

[CrystalChild]

The only time my s/o cried in front of me I also was crying, and i kept stroking his cheeks and giving him kisses

[deraz24]

I would ask him what's going on whats wrong and console him the best I can

[lareina05]

When I see a man cry I have to cry myself. They are portrayed as being tougher and just something about seeing them cry just hurts.

[Anonymous]

Im not good at dealing with feelings.. I guess I'd hug him and ask him to tell me what's wrong so I can try and fix it somehow or at ñeast try to make it better

[SunnyCaliGirl]

I would ask what the problem was and do my best to comfort him

[Izumiblu]

I guess it depends on why he's crying...

[Aizou]

I'll give you the same two variables as I gave another then. Could be that you took the last pancake in front of him that made him cry.. or he's crying about his dying relative. Would the cause change how you handled it? And how would you handle it if you didn't know the cause, but he was a complete mess?

[Izumiblu]

If i took his pancake and he cried id think he was fucking with me or something and id probably laugh at him. If it was a dying relative then id try to be supportive. If i didn't know id just ask what's going on.

[gemini98]

I would comfort him similar to @WaterRat's response, just like he would me if I were crying. Men are human too, they have emotions just like us.

[soulbabe]

It depends what he's crying about

[soulbabe]

Thanks for the like. Can you tell me what you mean by if he is crying what is he crying about

[Aizou]

You don't necessarily know what he's crying about. It could be that you took the last pancake, or perhaps his dying relative.

[soulbabe]

I don't normally take the last anything in case someone else wants it unless it's with my cousin then I'm going to

[bang678]

Just be there for him.

[mooky06]

I would just hold him. Very tightly.

[xDocilexFaeriex]

Hug him, tell him it will be okay.

[writing_essays]

I would comfort them and help them feel better

[Zendrya]

I would ask him what he needs from me and do it.

[Nessa6687]

Hold him, let him know I'm there for him

[pinkanon]

I would confront him.

[Laa7430]

Hug him and say less