Girls, what would you do if your boyfriend was crying?

[Anonymous]

Would you feel alward, embarrassed or concerned?
What would you do?
And would it change your opinion of him?

[pyramid_princess]

I'd be concerned at seeing him so discouraged.. I would cuddle and comfort him
I would love him even more. It shows he is only human, with emotions. I would encourage him to open up and talk to me about why he was upset, so i could help and support him.
If he didn't want to tell me, i'd just hold him until he felt better.
If he wanted to be left alone, i would respect that and allow him his space.

[pyramid_princess]

Thanks for MHO

[Asker]

You're welcome, Princess. ;)

[SammyGurl]

I'd be concerned, I'd go sit beside him put my arm around his shoulder kiss him on the cheek and ask him what's wrong? Depending on what it was I'd probably cry right along with him. I'd certainly try to talk it out with him, we have known each other for so long there's not much if anything we can't talk about.

[Mustachekitteh]

Honestly i would just give him the biggest hug i could and hold him and kiss him all over till he felt better. Then I would humiliate myself to make him laugh. :D Now if when I ask him whats wrong and he says he doesn't want to talk about it or want me to comfort him then i'll give him space.

[just_legit1998]

I'm a man who is not afraid to show his emotions. I cry when I want to because it shows we are human and we understand how we feel. What society is telling us is to bottle our emotions/feelings in which is unhealthy. Humans should know how to feel something. Only an insecure person would think that crying is a sign of weakness!

[gapminder]

Bust out the strap on and really make him feel like a woman? ?

[musicbrain5]

This has happened to me a few times, most recently last week. I always go to him and hug him or cuddle him, and let him talk if he needs to. He does the same for me. It doesn't change my opinion him at all, unless the crying is like a daily occurrence.

[Myusernaem]

lol why wouldn't you just chew him up and spit him out, ie, make him feel like shit?

[musicbrain5]

@Myusernaem: Why the hell would I do that?

[Myusernaem]

Because you wanna show him he's not a man?

[musicbrain5]

@Myusernaem: Oh yeah, that's exactly what I want to do. Seriously, why do you think that I think my guy is some kind of weakling or something?

[Myusernaem]

you may not think it, but you should still make him think that he is. Because he's a man

[musicbrain5]

@Myusernaem: I don't believe in all that "man up" shit.

[Myusernaem]

but just do it to make him feel like shit, no?

[musicbrain5]

@Myusernaem: NO! I'm not going to make him feel more like shit when he already feels like shit. Is that hard for you to understand or something? I'm not an evil bitch.

[Myusernaem]

sorry... I was raised by an evil bitch who always made me feel like shit on some level

[kebab97]

Concerned, yes i would love him more, because i know its hard for people to cry infront of people and i would want to protect him

[Asker]

What do you think of the guys answers below?

[kebab97]

Well as i said bbefore, crying infront of someone is the ultimate you can give them. those are your feelings. by the way i dont know why man shouldn't cry we all are humana, we all cry and laugh. We are supossed to ve equal so i dont mind a guy crying infront of me, it just shows me he trusts me enough, and is brave enough to do that

[aloniara]

Just hug him for a very very long time. I never know what to say to someone who's crying, but I find hugs are the best way of silently communicating that I love them and I'm there for them.

It wouldn't change my opinion of him in the slightest.

[MargaritaPeach]

This.

[khodgie101]

I would go give him a hug and maybe kiss him on the cheek. Ask him what's up if he doesn't want to say I'd leave it at that's and continue to cuddle him. I would be concerned about him and it wouldn't change my opinion at all of him coz I prefer a guy who can trust me enough to share his emotions not pretend to always be tough around me

[MissMarvelous]

Men are expected to be tough, but they are humans like us. They get emotional too. Id feel appreciative of all he does to hold it in, and that he can trust me not judging him. I would hold him tight, because he does it for me.:)

[Anonymous]

Curse the fact he's so far away from me right now :'( . If he was crying and I was there I would put my arms around him, rub his back, stroke his hair; let him know he could cry as much as he needed to and I'm here for him.
It wouldn't change my opinion of him at all no. Maybe I'd feel closer to him if he trusted me enough to do that because I know he doesn't let people see him cry

[Myusernaem]

Why wouldn't you just make him feel ashamed?

[Opinion Owner]

Because I love him? What kind of a question is that? He hates letting anybody see him cry and feels ashamed anyway but I don't think he should feel ashamed to cry in front of me; I mean he's a human, if he hurts he's allowed to cry! Especially with me because I'm always going to want to comfort and support him.

Did someone do this to you, is that why you're asking? Because if they did then that sucks :'(

[lumos]

I'd comfort him. Wouldn't change anything, unless it like, happened every single day.

[kittykatg]

I usually just try to hold him and tell him that everything will be ok and that we'll make it through it.

[kiera77]

i would cuddle him and make sure he was okay. If he wanted to talk then we would talk, if not then we would just lie and cuddle. No my opinion of him would not change. X

[kopperheadroad]

Concerned unless it was during a click flic in which case hé would never hear the end of it

[TheArticOrange]

I would get mad at him. Why would he ruin our time together by crying?
I would think he's too sensitive for me.

[Asker]

What would you do if he got mad at you when you cried?

[TheArticOrange]

Say sorry? I don't know why I would ever cry in front of him though. I can control my emotions. I wouldn't burden him like that -__-

[Anonymous]

I've seen my bf cry many times. We've been together a long time, we've been through some shit times. Just makes him human.

[Anonymous]

I saw my boyfriend cry once when his childhood dog died. I just comforted him. There really is just so much you can do.

[HollywoodGlam]

I would kiss his forhead and give him a hug.

[Myusernaem]

Why wouldn't you just make him feel pathetic?>

[SexyTaylor]

I think that he did something wrong and didn't want me to know

[Starsite]

I'd console him and ask him what's wrong.

[DoraLikesSugar]

Real men don't cry. They work out and shoot guns.

[Illusive_Man]

What man would let his woman see him cry?

[Asker]

Are you serious or just trolling?

[Illusive_Man]

Would you want to trouble or panic someone you love?
I wouldn't.

[Asker]

I think it's called support but ok.

Why would gender matter?

[Illusive_Man]

Maybe I'm just conservative in that. More of a lonely walk kinda guy.

[lumos]

A man who isn't afraid of showing that he, too, is vulnerable and human. If anything, I'd respect my guy even more if he was brave enough to cry in front of me, since I'm aware of the social pressure men receive when it comes to showing/not showing their feelings.
If a guy is brave enough to cry in front of me, I'd take it as a huge compliment. Since it shows that he's 100% comfortable around me and that he isn't scared of being vulnerable.

[Illusive_Man]

@lumos
Eh... Guess i have much to learn

[lumos]

If you don't want to cry in front of your partner, then that's fine. Not everyone is going to be comfortable with crying in front of other people. Just don't make it seem like men who cry are less manly, because that's not the case here at all.

[Myusernaem]

A bitch-man lol.

[Anonymous]

Never cry in front of a girl. It's pathetic.