I have no problem with men having standards as long as they are in line with what they have to offer. The more they have to offer, the higher their standards can get, similar with women. Of course I'm talking about serious relationships and not just sex because that usually requires 2 people to be horny at the same time, especially at the desperate hour.
From what i see women tend to want good looking tall guys who are strong physically and mentally, have a good job or have money ( you have no idea how many girls have admitted to me that they want a rich boyfriend, even though most of them aren't even a 5/10 ) and are confident and friends with the entire town but at the same time romantic like in the movies.
As for men they want a good looking girl, with a caring nice personality, low maintanance and doesn't have an attitude or cause them any issues.
so you see we have two different standards here which some people usually dont take into consideration.
I don't mean just money but rather a combination of factors, which may or may not include money. So as an example, a guy who is attractive, intelligent, non-addict, is more likely to find someone up to his standards than a bum living off the streets.
The standards you listed kind of suck. But yes you can have them, just don't expect women to want to conform to them because they really do suck. That's like me saying I want a guy who makes a lot of money and buys me everything I want, because otherwise he's a cheap ass jerk.
1- i never said i want a full time 24/7 housewife i said i wanted a woman who can do that but not all the time. 2- my mother did it, yours and everyone elses did it, are you saying that our mothers are losers? 3- how did you even compare money to personality, money can come and go personality is who you are, if you're a shitty wife no amount of money can change that, and good luck finding any decent man with that kind of attitude cause iam sure as hell not dating you.
Your post sounds like you want a woman to do the cooking and cleaning for you, which is extremely sexist. You're not looking for a woman with personality, you want her to do bitch work for you. And I am not looking for 22 year olds anyway, sorry.
well femininity means doing things that women do and usually are better at and cleaning and cooking are some of those things, if you can't or you are no willing to do any or both of them then iam just marrying another dude with a job, it means you're not different from me were the same, actually if iam a good cook and can clean well why marry in the first place, women these days dont even want children anymore.
I think the problem may be that your "Standards" are not high enough regarding your choice of "Friends".*
* If it's family its time to get pissed off. They don't have your best interest at heart. Shoot, get pissed off no matter who this crap is coming from.
as long as i have been around man whores always end up broke and alone once they get over age 25 unless they have a good personality and really know how to treat a lady. all these standards people have are only good to a certain age limit then you have to go by other things.
trust me on that sex has nothing to do with standards after a certain age thats just a young persons game lol
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Men can have stanards just like women do but they will most likely also get comments and critizms just like women do. It's just part of the territory. Once you have an opinion people generally have an opinion on your opinion... just the way it works. Don't let it bother you.
yeah thats kinda how it works but i think some people find a need to bash others for their onw standards, for example i know that women want men with good jobs and stable life who have confidence and iam cool with that, some things make sense.
You can have whatever standards you want but other people don't have to agree with them and can feel and which way they want about them. Just because someone fits your standards doesn't mean you'll fit there's... just how it goes.
I've only been with one guy and I married him but if a guy was asking my number or saying they don't date sluts I would have lost interest immediately. Nothing wrong with that, just finding something like that so important goes against my standards. Everyone is different is looking or looked for something different and that's okay. Hopefully you find someone that works for you.
I meant "for example i know that women want men with good jobs and stable life who have confidence and iam cool with that, some things make sense."
Some guys will complain and criticize and try to tear women down for even just this. Lik I said once you have an opinion expect an opinion on your opinion just how it works. I'd never sweat it.
Everyone has standards, that's just one of those unavoidable facts of life. If someone calls you out on your standards, either stand confidant and say that you have good reason for feeling the way you do. Or, if it turns out you can't give any reasons why you have a certain standard, just take a moment to think about it.
Women still get judged by men the same way as you portay how men get judged. Women that want money? Golddiggers. Women that want good looking men? "Shes out of my league" Women that want tall men? Shallow.
I wouldn't really generalize women like that. Yes, there are stuck-up bitches out there that don't deserve anything more than what they are worth but it sounds like to me that you had a very bad day or something.
lol no i didn't have a bad day just a normal day, but way too many opinions insulting any man who dares to have standards which sounds rather weird to me, iam not allowed to have standards? Where did that come from? so what if women like man whores, i dont like whores why should i like sluts because the love men who fuck around doesn't seem to have any connection.
I can't think of a self respecting woman, who wants to enter into a relationship with a drug junkie, who beats the crap out of her and abuses her in every possible form.
Likewise I will not date a gold digging whore or a controlling bytch.
Of course they are. Both sexes have standards and it's up to each individual to discern what those are... hopefully find someone who fits them - at least 50%.
Yes and women are allowed to judge boys based on those standards. You don't like sluts then I'll use that to assume that we're not compatible, I don't usually like people with warped senses of sexuality.
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Standards? Yes.
Double standards? Well, that makes him a hypocrite and no one likes that.
Unreasonable standards? He's just not going to find many people to date.
Shaming other people who just aren't to his liking? THAT is the real asshole move. And that's usually what people are actually complaining about.
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I absolutely don't have a problem with other people's standards but if you want to have a chance, you have to be realistic. I know a lot of people who are pretty average and they have really high standards. Finding someone at that level with a "lower standard" is just unlikely. My point is, if you want to have romantic success, you only should apply standards to others that you can actually meet yourself. And this applies to both guys and girls.
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People judge people all the time. It's human nature. People may not feel comfortable about the fact that they are being judged, as no person wants to feel incompetent, so it is best to not judge people so openly. I think a healthy mindset is to search actively for judgments and criticisms and use them as opportunity instead of attacks. Then, there are people who just belittle people unreasonably; you can safely ignore those individuals. :)
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Well yes just like you are allowed to have freedom of speech in society. However, even though you are allowed to speak out, you will be shamed heavily for it in society and potentially lose ability to provide for yourself if a co-worker or person in question does not like what you are saying.
In short, you have freedom of expression but there are heavy consequences which restrict you from expressing/applying it.
No. Women feel entitled to a handsome, charming, funny, 6ft, can protect her, financially secure guy while men just have to accept a woman no matter how fat or low class she is.
@KnickKnack which is why men have turned into pussy whipped and weak af , when was the last time you seen a hot girl go for the nerdy dude who tells her " you can do what ever you want it is you life " ? never it never happens.
instead she chooses the good looking dude who tells her he doest tolerate BS and if she doesn't want to do this and that its over.
just read the anonymous opinions female write on here, and you wil lsee how many of them despise men who act like SJW or feel a need to protect a girls pride or tell her she can do whatever she wants, they want leaders, they dont want men to follow them.
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I have no problem with men having standards as long as they are in line with what they have to offer. The more they have to offer, the higher their standards can get, similar with women. Of course I'm talking about serious relationships and not just sex because that usually requires 2 people to be horny at the same time, especially at the desperate hour.
More to offer? Sounds shallow why not just say money.
Depends on what you mean by saying have to offer.
From what i see women tend to want good looking tall guys who are strong physically and mentally, have a good job or have money ( you have no idea how many girls have admitted to me that they want a rich boyfriend, even though most of them aren't even a 5/10 ) and are confident and friends with the entire town but at the same time romantic like in the movies.
As for men they want a good looking girl, with a caring nice personality, low maintanance and doesn't have an attitude or cause them any issues.
so you see we have two different standards here which some people usually dont take into consideration.
I don't mean just money but rather a combination of factors, which may or may not include money. So as an example, a guy who is attractive, intelligent, non-addict, is more likely to find someone up to his standards than a bum living off the streets.
The standards you listed kind of suck. But yes you can have them, just don't expect women to want to conform to them because they really do suck.
That's like me saying I want a guy who makes a lot of money and buys me everything I want, because otherwise he's a cheap ass jerk.
That comparison does not work at all. A fair comparison to your statement is I want a woman to do all the dishes, cooking, be a stay at home mom.
1- i never said i want a full time 24/7 housewife i said i wanted a woman who can do that but not all the time.
2- my mother did it, yours and everyone elses did it, are you saying that our mothers are losers?
3- how did you even compare money to personality, money can come and go personality is who you are, if you're a shitty wife no amount of money can change that, and good luck finding any decent man with that kind of attitude cause iam sure as hell not dating you.
Your post sounds like you want a woman to do the cooking and cleaning for you, which is extremely sexist. You're not looking for a woman with personality, you want her to do bitch work for you.
And I am not looking for 22 year olds anyway, sorry.
well femininity means doing things that women do and usually are better at and cleaning and cooking are some of those things, if you can't or you are no willing to do any or both of them then iam just marrying another dude with a job, it means you're not different from me were the same, actually if iam a good cook and can clean well why marry in the first place, women these days dont even want children anymore.
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Forget what everyone says. Men have standards.
Watch what the fuck people do, not what they fucking say.
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*Men are allowed to have standards.
Who is telling you you need to have no standards?
I think the problem may be that your "Standards" are not high enough regarding your choice of "Friends".*
* If it's family its time to get pissed off. They don't have your best interest at heart. Shoot, get pissed off no matter who this crap is coming from.
as long as i have been around man whores always end up broke and alone once they get over age 25 unless they have a good personality and really know how to treat a lady. all these standards people have are only good to a certain age limit then you have to go by other things.
trust me on that sex has nothing to do with standards after a certain age thats just a young persons game lol
Men can have stanards just like women do but they will most likely also get comments and critizms just like women do. It's just part of the territory. Once you have an opinion people generally have an opinion on your opinion... just the way it works. Don't let it bother you.
yeah thats kinda how it works but i think some people find a need to bash others for their onw standards, for example i know that women want men with good jobs and stable life who have confidence and iam cool with that, some things make sense.
You can have whatever standards you want but other people don't have to agree with them and can feel and which way they want about them. Just because someone fits your standards doesn't mean you'll fit there's... just how it goes.
I've only been with one guy and I married him but if a guy was asking my number or saying they don't date sluts I would have lost interest immediately. Nothing wrong with that, just finding something like that so important goes against my standards. Everyone is different is looking or looked for something different and that's okay. Hopefully you find someone that works for you.
Yeah but some guys will complain about that. Different things make sense to different people.
"Yeah but some guys will complain about that. Different things make sense to different "
Yeah but some guys will complain about that. Different things make sense to different people.
I meant "for example i know that women want men with good jobs and stable life who have confidence and iam cool with that, some things make sense."
Some guys will complain and criticize and try to tear women down for even just this. Lik I said once you have an opinion expect an opinion on your opinion just how it works. I'd never sweat it.
standards are fundamental for any healthy relationship to thrive. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a35302-the-ultimate-guide-for-smart-men-to-choose-a-woman-from-a-woman
Everyone has standards, that's just one of those unavoidable facts of life. If someone calls you out on your standards, either stand confidant and say that you have good reason for feeling the way you do. Or, if it turns out you can't give any reasons why you have a certain standard, just take a moment to think about it.
Women still get judged by men the same way as you portay how men get judged. Women that want money? Golddiggers. Women that want good looking men? "Shes out of my league" Women that want tall men? Shallow.
I wouldn't really generalize women like that. Yes, there are stuck-up bitches out there that don't deserve anything more than what they are worth but it sounds like to me that you had a very bad day or something.
lol no i didn't have a bad day just a normal day, but way too many opinions insulting any man who dares to have standards which sounds rather weird to me, iam not allowed to have standards? Where did that come from? so what if women like man whores, i dont like whores why should i like sluts because the love men who fuck around doesn't seem to have any connection.
Having standards goes both ways!
I can't think of a self respecting woman, who wants to enter into a relationship with a drug junkie, who beats the crap out of her and abuses her in every possible form.
Likewise I will not date a gold digging whore or a controlling bytch.
Of course they are. Both sexes have standards and it's up to each individual to discern what those are... hopefully find someone who fits them - at least 50%.
Yes and women are allowed to judge boys based on those standards. You don't like sluts then I'll use that to assume that we're not compatible, I don't usually like people with warped senses of sexuality.
Standards? Yes.
Double standards? Well, that makes him a hypocrite and no one likes that.
Unreasonable standards? He's just not going to find many people to date.
Shaming other people who just aren't to his liking? THAT is the real asshole move. And that's usually what people are actually complaining about.
I absolutely don't have a problem with other people's standards but if you want to have a chance, you have to be realistic. I know a lot of people who are pretty average and they have really high standards. Finding someone at that level with a "lower standard" is just unlikely.
My point is, if you want to have romantic success, you only should apply standards to others that you can actually meet yourself. And this applies to both guys and girls.
People judge people all the time. It's human nature. People may not feel comfortable about the fact that they are being judged, as no person wants to feel incompetent, so it is best to not judge people so openly. I think a healthy mindset is to search actively for judgments and criticisms and use them as opportunity instead of attacks. Then, there are people who just belittle people unreasonably; you can safely ignore those individuals. :)
Well yes just like you are allowed to have freedom of speech in society. However, even though you are allowed to speak out, you will be shamed heavily for it in society and potentially lose ability to provide for yourself if a co-worker or person in question does not like what you are saying.
In short, you have freedom of expression but there are heavy consequences which restrict you from expressing/applying it.
Of course. Women that tell you you shouldn't have standards are women with lack of confidence in being able to be fulfill men's standards.
No. Women feel entitled to a handsome, charming, funny, 6ft, can protect her, financially secure guy while men just have to accept a woman no matter how fat or low class she is.
Everyone should have standards. It is how you choose to be with someone.
For the good mother part, you're more likely to be called a sexist
which is what i dont understand really , why call me sexiest when i want the best for my family
We are not in the 50's anymore. Women prefer to do what they want in life.
@KnickKnack which is why men have turned into pussy whipped and weak af , when was the last time you seen a hot girl go for the nerdy dude who tells her " you can do what ever you want it is you life " ? never it never happens.
instead she chooses the good looking dude who tells her he doest tolerate BS and if she doesn't want to do this and that its over.
just read the anonymous opinions female write on here, and you wil lsee how many of them despise men who act like SJW or feel a need to protect a girls pride or tell her she can do whatever she wants, they want leaders, they dont want men to follow them.