Should I be mad if my boyfriend goes to the movies with another girl?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend an I have been going out for months. However, he has never asked me to go anywhere with him. Now he is going to the movies with another girl who he claims is his best friend.

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Asked Boyfriend about it. He said he won't go if I don't want him to, Should I say don't go? Or should I let him decide and not make his choices for him?

[pumbaboo]

I would flip! It is not right that he goes with another girl. Who knows what this girl means to him. This little movie date can escalate to something more...not good at all. I would be mad for sure, and you have the right to confront him about this situation. Don't assume anything yet but if this continues I would really look into what is going on. Be honest with your boyfriend and tell him that it really bothers you. If he cares for you, he won't do it again.

Best Wishes.

[Anonymous]

omg you should be p*ssed that he even opened your mouth to even ASK you this. it doesn't sound like he respects you a whole lot.

are you sure you're even his real girlfriend? you've never gone anywhere with him but he can take this other girl out...yeah I think you should dump him. you shouldnt even waste your time dating a guy who can't take you out on a decent date in the first place. he has NEVER asked you to go anywhere with him? that's a problem in itself

[queenb2000]

RED FLAG. I have a few good guy friends but I'd never even go to a movie alone with them knowing that I have a great bf. Any guy would be suspicious of his girl going to a movie with another guy alone. So it's the same situation for you. I wouldn't necessarily tell him not to go, but I'd let him know that I wasn't happy with that situation AT ALL and if he really cares about you, he'd just say no to that whole thing.

[Jonny_]

Sounds suspicious, you should ask him questions about her and see how quick he can answer... How did you guys meet? How long have you known each other? and so on, if he is honest it shouldn't be difficult for him to answer, if not or if you are curious about his answers dig deeper.

[Asker]

Thanks ill try it

[Trihill]

this is a problem. if you went out with him to a movie, is that considered a date? the only time it is okay is if you are there. this is a slippery slope to cheating.

[Asker]

I would consider it a date.

[Trihill]

Then be angry..you might want to break up with him.

[Anonymous]

I can see where you would be mad, but if you're only been together for a month it's not that big of a deal. If you have a problem with it, you need to tell him instead of bottling the feeling out because one day you're going to get mad at him and explored and he's going to be mostly likely hurt and wanting to break up.

[Asker]

The problem is we've been goingg out for 8 monthss

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh I misread it. Than that changes everything. You need to tell him that you have a problem with it. If you don't, the relationship will fail. Obv. it seems that he doesn't care. You either need to tell him how you feel or you need to leave him. If he's been going out with this girl a lot lately, I would be very concerned. He may be cheating on you because as awful as it sounds, it seems like that's the most likely reason why he won't go out with you and with her instead

[Asker]

Hasent been alot. this is the first time. he says she asked him and he didn't want to be rude. But he also said he wouldn't go if it made me uncomfortable.

[Opinion Owner]

Than why didn't you tell him that it made you uncomfortable? you shouldn't be mad if he gave you the option of him not going. You may have felt like you were controlling him, but you shouldn't be mad at all

[Asker]

No, I did tell him. and that's when he said he wouldn't go.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm confused. You told him that you didn't want him going, but he went?

[Asker]

I told him I didn't want him to go and that it made me uncomfortable. Then, he gave me the option of him not going. So, I told him I didn't want him to go and now he's not going. Thanks very much for the advice.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome

[iceequeen]

are you sure he is your bf? if he doesn't go out to the movies with you after 8 months.. but will do so with this "best friend"... something is... off...

[Trihill]

tell him not to go or you go with him. what you need to do is establish yourself to the other girl that he's your man.