Dubious relationship?

[Anonymous]

I'm married, mostly happy, I love my wife and I certainly don't want to hurt her. But I'm not very happy with it, we used to be pretty good, but not the past few years. We don't share a lot in life and that's put quite some distance between us.

Back in the day, we were the best when there was tension between us, I used to have these tense/intense almost relationships with others, almost only online, only emotional. That raw tension made our relationship stronger. This other woman would become my muse.

These days I don't have a muse. I don't want to hurt and disappoint my wife, but I'm not happy with the current state of our relationship either. So far that I'm considering a divorce, which would hurt her even more. This is killing me and I don't know what it do. She understands the problem but is overall not happy with it, even slightly hurt by my thoughts. How could I make this better, any suggestions?

[elly91]

trying talking about it face to face even if just for closure... the fact that your even just contemplating divorce means in my opinion that subconsciously for you its over unfortunately... there is no nice way to break up especially if youve already tried to keep things together and it hasn't worked.. dont linger too much on your decision... the more you wait the worse it will be for the other person involved..😊

[PatternedPatron]

Id also recommend talking to a therapist about this too. There's so much about yourself and life story that would make it difficult for us to give a clear and specific answer.

[Anonymous]

Talk to her

[Asker]

I talk about it, surely, but she's hurt that I feel that way. There's no compromise for her