My boyfriend keeps asking if I love him?

Question

Whenever we are together, he would ask me "do you love me?" or "how much do you love me 1-10?"
He has said 'i love you' to me a lot of times but I have never said it back to him. We have been together for around 7 months and I do have strong feelings for him but I dont know if its love yet. Im still quite confused so thats why I haven't said it back. And yes we have been sexually intimate.
And when I dont answer him or I would respond "100/10" as a joke, he would keep asking the same question and he would add "are u not answering because you still have doubts?"
Why does he keep asking me?
Would a guy keep asking if he isn't in love with you?

mistyrose23 · Accepted Answer

i been dating my boyfriend for 3 months almost now. I am now in love with him but haven't said anything yet. Just to avoid situations like this. Also i find it better when it comes from the guy first. As its more genuine and you know they not saying they love you to avoid it being awkward when a women says it first.
But its not fair for him to keep asking o rushing you to feel the same. That only makes it more awkward. But for you after 7 months you should try to think how you would feel if it was all over. And you wouldn't see him again. If you feel like you would then dont let him go yet. But tell him that you need your own time to fall in love and that him asking all the time is making you feel too much pressure. make sure to say what you do like and appreciate about him and hopefully that be enough in the meatime.

LittleLila · Accepted Answer

I didn't vote, because I don't think either option actually matches your situation. It doesn't sound like you've explained your feelings for him, to him. That would be why he keeps asking. And if you just joke about it and dance around the question every time he asks it, he will keep asking until he just decides you aren't worth his time, and he'll pack up and leave. You have to let him know where you are with him emotionally, and give him some closure. Even if it isn't what he wants to hear, at least he'll know how you're feeling. He deserves that much.

Devora · Accepted Answer

Its called insecurity and nervousness. You two have spent 7 months of your lives courting and mating, and you still arnt entirely sure you love him.

It would make me start to wonder if perhaps i was just being used. If your really that unsure spend an entire night. Or at least till you figure it out, why your unsure. Is it cause he's your first? Is it because you've never felt love before? Is it perhaps because your scared of being in love? So many questions! So few answers...

Loulouchuchu · Accepted Answer

Run.. he's insecure and projecting his insecurities onto you.
In the long run no matter how much reassurance you give him he will always seek it.
Run.. it's not worth it.. Wish I knew this when I was younger.
A secure guy will not ask or need you to verbally confirm it. Trust me... He will seek it from somewhere else.

EvanR · Accepted Answer

He's asking you because you may not be showing signs that you love him. Simply standing beside him only lasts for so long. I was in a relationship like this myself kind of. I would show interest in the relationship by going out places and such, but she never cared to talk to me or anything but claimed she was still interested, but never showed it. Since she never showed I gave up because I felt that I was being used. Don't be like that. The same ideas that he is thinking were the same things I was thinking when I was with the girl I was going after.

1988fido · Accepted Answer

Look you need to assure him, Vurbually and mentally and physically

Vurbually by having a talk, tell him he like him a lot and u r so much into him just give u time to figure out yourself and feelings etc..
:) be open in conversation and Frank z
Tell him not to rush u and be patient u won't me already, I am ur girlfriend etc.. Just I am not there yet to reply the same. I want to just give me time.

Mentally by ur gestures and moves.

physically by doing the bed room stuff and be more kinky ;)

Matti_Jr · Answer

He's INSECURE. If it bothers you a lot, you need to have a discussion with him about it and tell him it bothers you when he continuously asks you if you love him.

He may or may not be in love with you, but you need to make a decision on the insecurity issue. If you can tolerate it, good for you. If it's a deal-breaker for you, you need to think about cutting your losses then.

Tdieseler · Answer

Yea... y'all both need to figure some shit out... i mean, its like you are confused because you can sense his insecurity...7 months and you haven't even expressed nothing...
now its just getting worse to the point where you have to ask a question? stop wasting your time... this guy ain't for you and you know it.

Tileguy0723 · Answer

He shouldn't be putting that kind of pressure on you, when someone tries to extract those words from someone else there's no sincerity or love there, its all business. I hate to say it but he's sounds insecure and it's an immature way to act

vishna · Answer

He needs to stop pressuring you :) love comes when it will, your heart is different than his. I don't think it's because he's in love or not in love with you, I think he's a bit pestering with not a lot of tact (for being so blatant)

JSmuve · Answer

7 months and you've never said it back? Jesus woman, figure your shit out quick. I can't imagine this guy's feeling all that good about himself right now.

the_bright_one · Answer

He's a man child. Insecure and desperate for your validation. I'm not even sure how you've been 7 moths with a guy you don't even "love" in what is supposed to be (I assume) a long term relationship.

Feel bad for the kid. Has much to learn.

EmHenz · Answer

he's insecure, dont leave him hanging and make your decision soon. do you love him or not? dont lie to him and get his hopes high. give him a truthful answer soon.

Anonymous · Answer

I had a boyfriend like that, I really really like him but it hurts to see him question me often about if I like him or not, it makes me feel like there isn't a strong trust and relationship. Usually when he asks that, it's for reassurance because he's insecure, but sometimes it to see if you really like him and is it worth it to like you back.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He says it cause he's in love with you but maybe your not sure  that you love him as much as he does you or maybe your confused about things.

Unit1 · Answer

He really has no self respect and is a doormat. He will have it coming at him.

belbxisi · Answer

Obviously he loves you over 1000000. I'm afraid he does not feel secure and he is afraid he will lose you. So that's why he tells you he loves you a lot. That's what I would do a least ;D

JensonStatement · Answer

He is but he's also insecure or you do something wrong. I think he's insecure.

sp33d · Answer

Do you love me? How about now? Still? Wow!! It wasn't meant to rhyme, but it did :(

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Anonymous · Answer

How can you not even love a guy after 7 months, you've been sexually intimate as well. Women are really confusing and hard to please. He is asking you because he can tell you don't feel the same way.

Bready · Answer

you are a couple since 7 months and you're still not sure if you're in love? what kind of max level bs is that?

Anonymous · Answer

He's insecure. I've been that guy. Tread carefully.

Anonymous · Answer

you make him insecure. perhaps you should consider your love for him altogether.. maybe its not enough for him

ubilockon · Answer

he's trying to gauge where he is in your life

anthers · Answer

Pretty in need for validation.

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