My partner doesn't notice me anymore? What should I do?

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My boyfriend doesn't really seem to look at me in that way, other guys notice me but I feel like he doesn't? What should I do? I have put a few kilos on but so has he? I try my best every time I see him but he doesn't notice me much, any tips?

Barrabus_the_Free · Accepted Answer

Based on my experience I'm betting its not just a matter of a few kilos, though that doesn't help. There's probably more to it.

My ex wife tried pulling this chit before I showed her the door. "When was the last time you told me I'm pretty?" Bitch when was the last time you got your ads of the couch, wore something other than sweatpants, and ran a brush through your hair, other than when you were taking off to go party with your party buddies (and, I would later find out, the drug dealer she was fucking).

If you're putting on weight, that's a sign of disrespect. You're basically saying that you don't care what he thinks of your appearance, he'd better just suck it up and "love" you anyway.

By now I'd have told you that you're putting on weight and it needs to come off. If you didn't make a visible attempt and show results, I'd have dumped you. I won't be with someone that thinks they can disrespect me.

Lose the weight, do the things you did to initially attract him, get some alone time, and tell him what you've noticed and that you're working on getting things back to the way they were, but he has to meet you halfway. If he doesn't do that, then ending things is the best solution. You don't want to waste a decade of your lives with someone only to end it after that long. Believe you me.

Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

I think you're at that point of the relationship where the hormones have passed. You can still continues your relationship it will just take more effort. youhave to talk to him and say you want to keep beeing together but you're not happy the way things are. I can't really give you great advice on the sex side because I've never been in a relationship that long. Ut from what I've heard you just have to try and spice it up more try new things explore fantasies etc. And also both of you have to put more effort into the relationship again I'd think. If people start getting lazy and take each other for granted that's when it's over. It may seem like he's the lazy one but it's better if you don't berate him or whatever. Just talk about things objectively and you can make the first step and put more into the relationship and your sex life and I hope he will respond as well. If he doesn't then at least you tried but you should probably break up then.

DoubleTakeEyeCandi · Accepted Answer

Start looking for his replacement. If he's not undressing you with his eyes then he's no longer interested.

zeee4real · Answer

honestly i hate it when a girl who I'm dating starts ignoring, like for example she's online and I'm online but she responds to my texts a little late than usual... makes me think too much.. u do the same and see whether u can get his attention back...

uknaked · Answer

Does he still want you for sex? If not, he is either getting it elsewhere, or he is bi and feeling more interested in guys.
Ask him what his problem is, it can be stress, money worries, problems at work, drugs, smoking. any of these can reduce libido and lead to erection difficulties!

TheGoodGuy1337 · Answer

Be spontaneous, you're 22 y. o, young, wild :p
Start going to the gym and focus on squats, buy some sexy underwear like thongs or something like that, if he doesn't want u when u re showing in sexy underwears, he must be changing to gay

ghosttownshutin · Answer

Put thumbtacks in his underwear. 😂 No but really, just talk to him about it, let him know how you feel, and ask him how he feels about it too. Don't be afraid to open up.

Anonymous · Answer

Act and dress sexy for him and maybe start doing squats?
Maybe watch adult movies with him.
Both work out it increases blood flow and from that sex drive , try things to make sex easier and if he will let you incorporate toys.
Thats all I can think of but they might be worth a try.

singlebee · Answer

You actually look very beautiful! You look like Karlee steel !

Anyways if you want him to notice you then just lose some weight!
I am doing the same right now! But for health and girls to notice me.. :-P

SuitAndTie · Answer

Talk to him about it. Maybe your relationship has become dull and routine. If he still feels the same after you've spoken to him and not made an effort then think about breaking up. Maybe go for one of the guys who does notice you 😉

Sevlight · Answer

It's a conversation to have, maybe he's got something bothering him and isn't open about it. Maybe he's losing interest in the relationship, either way you need to go to the source.

Tezzy69 · Answer

Looks like relationship is a bit on the edge. Try to compromise, if not Time to leave. x

chrisbigman · Answer

You should talk to a counselor. Find out if there's something going on with him or at least find out why he doesn't notice you. Or before you do that, try being sexy around him every now and then.

Anonymous · Answer

You want him to notice... You make him notice. Get a nice outfit and some time alone with him. Let him have a moment with u and no interruptions from the world.

Justinaveragedude · Answer

Try doing something different, maybe try tackling him. it is hard not to notice someone tackling you.

Browneye57 · Answer

Dump him. Invest your emotion and effort into someone that really appreciates you.

MAGICcucumber · Answer

just have talk with him, it might clear some things out

eddietickler · Answer

learn the art of shoe dangling. Dangle Your Shoe off the very end of your foot, when sitting.

Anonymous · Answer

break up. he deserves someone confident.

Anonymous · Answer

earn his respect. Control your emotions. Behave like morgan freeman :p . That actually works.

issie2212 · Answer

SEX!

playdplaya · Answer

be vocal.. make it known

MrSelfless · Answer

Have some more Romance.

Glen68 · Answer

how long have you been together

willhelm · Answer

be single focus on yourself

Anonymous · Answer

say senpai notice me.

Anonymous · Answer

notice? what do you mean, notice?

Anonymous · Answer

Break up with him for a black guy.

NajemEddine · Answer

did u get fat

balkanac81 · Answer

he must be blind.

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