Overly controlling and jealous, and lack of empathy are definitely the biggest ones. I can't and won't be with someone who refuses to treat me like a human being.
Honestly there's tons of things. One unique one is I can't stand people who treat animals like they're human. You never want to be that guy who loves her dog as much as you. They'll always talk about them. Fuck that.
The number of people who I see every night of the week on my local news cast is frightening who lack & don't give a fuck about how another dude can just kill this dude and people saying he deserved it, his mom holding his head out of the gutter.
I don't like smokers, liers, comparing me to other guys especially your ex, laziness, argumentative, selfish, no manners or respect. Don't put words in my mouth or think for me.
No empathy would definitely be a dealbreaker for me. But I don't think anyone has just one dealbreaker. There are also other things that would make me unable to pursue a relationship with someone.
No empathy. Somebody who refuses to try and understand your problems and can't empathize with you occasionally or when you really need is not a caring person. People with loads of ex partners can be very good people, if someone can't always handle your bad day it may be a one off thing and we all try to make other people jealous to impress others. Its natural, we just have to try not to do it.
If you think logically, you would notice that such characteristics USUALLY have barely or even nothing to do with personality it self, but instead, to a consciousness/inconsciousness response of past/future experiences (also reffered as "gut feeling"/"voice in the head"/"instinct"). If some one is controlling/jealous/insecure towards his partner, he must has multiple good strong reasons to back it up. All you have to do is prove him wrong (if he is...), its so easy to give someone trust and security. Maybe you have done something to him (or someone), that made him think you are not loyal. Maybe he thinks you are too influenceable and easily capable of cheating. Maybe you lied, not once, but dozen times and he lost the trust? Maybe he thinks you are using him while cheating on his back so he trys to "control" you. Maybe you have done all those things i refered above (thats usually what happens)... I would say (especially when they come all at once) that the main reason is only YOU.
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I can deal with no empathy but a partner destroying my self worth (cheating, talking you down, etc) is a big no go.
No empathy and not being able to handle my bad days are tied. They meant the same thing to me.
Overly controlling and jealous, and lack of empathy are definitely the biggest ones. I can't and won't be with someone who refuses to treat me like a human being.
Honestly there's tons of things. One unique one is I can't stand people who treat animals like they're human. You never want to be that guy who loves her dog as much as you. They'll always talk about them. Fuck that.
The number of people who I see every night of the week on my local news cast is frightening who lack & don't give a fuck about how another dude can just kill this dude and people saying he deserved it, his mom holding his head out of the gutter.
I don't like smokers, liers, comparing me to other guys especially your ex, laziness, argumentative, selfish, no manners or respect. Don't put words in my mouth or think for me.
Someone who abuses or neglects animals... I know that wasn't an option but it is big to me.
Disloyalty issues, cheating, selfish acts, not pulling your weight in the relationship. I could go on and on
I choose no empathy. If you can't feel for someone else, what does that say about how you feel about me. Or our relationship.
A girl who isn't at least a little geeky or one who won't support my geeky hobbies.
No empathy would definitely be a dealbreaker for me. But I don't think anyone has just one dealbreaker. There are also other things that would make me unable to pursue a relationship with someone.
No empathy. Somebody who refuses to try and understand your problems and can't empathize with you occasionally or when you really need is not a caring person. People with loads of ex partners can be very good people, if someone can't always handle your bad day it may be a one off thing and we all try to make other people jealous to impress others. Its natural, we just have to try not to do it.
All of the above, along with BEING ABUSIVE, which is the most important no-go, yet is somehow not an answer choice.
Controlling, jealous and insecure. Usually these characteristics come all at once. That's never good.
On that list I voted lack of empathy. I like my man to have feelings and to be kind to other people.
If you think logically, you would notice that such characteristics USUALLY have barely or even nothing to do with personality it self, but instead, to a consciousness/inconsciousness response of past/future experiences (also reffered as "gut feeling"/"voice in the head"/"instinct").
If some one is controlling/jealous/insecure towards his partner, he must has multiple good strong reasons to back it up.
All you have to do is prove him wrong (if he is...), its so easy to give someone trust and security.
Maybe you have done something to him (or someone), that made him think you are not loyal.
Maybe he thinks you are too influenceable and easily capable of cheating.
Maybe you lied, not once, but dozen times and he lost the trust?
Maybe he thinks you are using him while cheating on his back so he trys to "control" you.
Maybe you have done all those things i refered above (thats usually what happens)...
I would say (especially when they come all at once) that the main reason is only YOU.
Puta, porca, traidora. Usually these characteristics come all at once. That's never good.
My opinion is... the first three options + selfishness, the total lack of kindness, willingness to compromise
All of those, but most empathy is the worst one.
I don't want to date a sociopath, after all. I don't think anyone in their right mind would.
Wants kids, wants to get married, doesn't get along with my bros, has a problem with my lifestyle, etc
seems like you've experienced this lol
I have :(
it would be racist, unintelligent, no empathy, narcissistic would be an automatic no for me. I value personality and intelligence more than anything.
Selfish, rude, not emotional, hateful, cheap, doesn't want a family, disrespectful, non hygienic, lacks common sense
trying to work it out when they refuse to change but just wants to keep you around when your not happy.