What are your "No Go's" in a relationship?

Question

Every human being has several criteria. I would like to know, which the most common one is.

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

The list of what i'm looking for in a girl is far shorter lol. The "No Go" list just grows as the years go by xD.

Girls that actively try to make you jealous.
Girls that regularly put themselves in situations that can look bad. Basically leaving the opportunity for something bad to happen such as cheating.
Girls who have cheated for any reason other than "Revenge" cheating and only if their ex told them the cheating happened. If the girl just thinks the guy cheated and cheats to get him back, then she's one to chase phantoms.
Overly political one way or the other. I can date girls with different politics, but if she's an obsessive activist it won't work.
Overly religious.
Girls who flirt with my friends lol. It's never happened, but i've witnessed it with other guys. So so bad lol.
Girls who don't at the very least try to stay in shape.
Girls who are perpetually victims in their own life.
Girls who have severe daddy issues. Most women have daddy issues on some small level, but there's a line when it's clear damage.
Girls who are bitches to other people and only nice to me. Because i'm going to piss her off at some point. When that time comes the bitch is going to come out at me.
Girls who don't show common courtesy to waiters, janitors and just people in subservient positions in general.
Girls who have nothing positive to say about ANY of their exes.
Girls who aren't up for physical activities.

The list goes on.
That's why I just stick to the list of positive criteria.

1. Genuine
2. Kind to her core
3. Caring
4. A bit kinky
5. Playful/Adventurous

I want a girl who is kind and caring, because that is who she is deep down. Not because she likes me and she's just acting nice, because i'm that guy for her. I want a girl who enjoys going out to have fun adventures, rather than always staying inside and the idea of going out to DO anything actually exhausts her. Kinkiness is obvious. I like to experiment in the bedroom and I want a girl who is enthusiastic about doing the same.

OPBinYYC · Accepted Answer

Ahhhh I love these lists... hmmm let me see now (purple crayon selected tada):

No Go List:

1) No Go to mall for 8 hrs on a Saturday & Sunday to look at purses, shoes and sunglasses (no go Apple Store either grrrr)
2) No go to organic food store, I don't wanna be healthy and eat, wait wtf is that stuff alfalfa what... get it away from me woman!
3) No Go doctor... why are you poking me, stop poking me, I wanna go home
4) No Go to your families house... yes future dad in law, wtf, sure I will fix your car and mow your lawn, what no bear or pizza, I hate this shit, I'm going home (xbox one and ps4 in waiting... standby)
5) No Go to the therapist for couples counselling... but you threw the tablet at my head, wtf why is this happening and why am I hear, I can't understand you're screaming in my ear baby... stop hitting me, wtf... home time xbox one and ps4 (I miss you, bring pizza & beer on autodial 1)

Cheers... mgtow

aicarg · Accepted Answer

From the options listed, "no empathy" would be a huge deal breaker for me as a loving relationship needs the ablity of both partners being able to share, communicate and understand each others feelings. A person who is empathetic would be capable of handling my bad days, as well as wouldn't be a person who intentionally makes me jealous.

A person's dating history doesn't affect the way I view them as much as the other 3.

Aside from the options listed, a person who is arrogant (so full of themselves and constantly talking about how better they are then everyone else), isn't driven (has no goals and aspirations in life to better themselves), is self-centered (thinks and focuses on mainly just themselves, without serving the interest of anyone else), is selfish (unwilling to do better and make a positive impact for those around them) are major turn offs for me.

Evelynrosee · Accepted Answer

That list, someone who can't handle your bad days. If they couldn't handle me at my worst then I don't know why we would be together.

I also get how no empathy would be high on people's list because you need a emotional connection to make a relationship work, other wise what built the relationship in the first place?

Something else that I would have to say would be a deal breaker would be someone who couldn't tolerate animals. My love for animals is endless and if they couldn't even think about having any or being around them it wouldn't work out. That is a no go.

Analinda1999 · Accepted Answer

someone who does not care for or respect me.

its a choice to be jealous or not. no one 'makes' you.

empathy is good but caring is more important. i dont need a person to relate , but i want them to care about why i am as i am. you can relate and use it against a person. empathy on its own does not mean decent behavior.

ex partners. eh the more experience the more you know who you should or should not be with.

the bad day would be part of caring/ respect. they dont have to handle it as in do anything but accepting people have them is important.

ragequeen · Accepted Answer

I really can't stand smoking. Aldo if he has no drive in life, that could bring me down. I have a lot of energy and ambition. Having a lot of ex partners don't really matter all to me, everyone has had a past and he could change. No one is perfect though that's my point

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Deal breakers: drug or alcohol abuse smoker loud and obnoxious arrogant and condescending refuses to admit faults not a feminine girl not intelligent not gentle and kindhearted

PrincessPie · Answer

No empathy would be worst for me of that list.

April10 · Answer

Someone who doesn't know how to communicate. I've been in a relationship where I felt like nothing I said mattered and I couldn't get him to understand my point of view. That was miserable and I don't ever go through that again.

It's pretty reasonsable and normal to have different opinions but it's so important to be able to listen and hear what the other person is saying

Belgie · Answer

I would have said no empathy, but I've never dated someone like that so I really don't know what it would be like.

However, I have dated a girl who didn't seem to believe me when I told her I don't get jealous. She went out of her way to try and make me jealous. It was like jealousy was the only way she knew for people to express love.

I called her on it, told her to stop. Not because I was getting jealous, but because she was going to escalate until she cheated on me and when she found out I didn't care about that either, she'd dump me. So let's cut to the chase, stop or get dumped. She didn't believe that either. So she was dumped the next time she tried it.

She left that relationship having learned nothing. I am simple and mean what I say. She left thinking I was a crazy person who dumped her for no reason because I couldn't handle my non-existent jealousy which she insisted I must be feeling on some level.

Bleh-___- · Answer

Trying to make me jealous. That includes trying to make me feel sad, mad, etc. I never understood intentionally wanting to hurt the person you love the most. It's such a backwards concept that I've had done to me so many times. I immediately lose all interest when someone starts these games with me, huge turnoff.

JosyJosy · Answer

Let me give some examples that make me run away from someone

" I am always right, and even if I'm wrong, say sorry to ME "
"You can't have guy friends anymore. Get rid of them all"
"Let's keep our relationship secret, how's that?"
"We're in a relationship, but I ensure you. It's okay to sleep with other people"
"My mom is like my second girlfriend!"

SidIsAwesome18 · Answer

For me, it's when I can't communicate with someone where the conversation is constant and comfortable. It's also when a guy doesn't respect my boundaries and when he lacks empathy. A guy needs to have a sense of humour so that by bad day becomes a good one.

Anonymous · Answer

1. Domestic violence.
2. Trying to instigate domestic violence.
3. Calling the police to report domestic violence.
4. Withdrawing consent for sex after we've had sex and claiming rape.
5. Any form of cheating.
6. Taking my credit card and spending my money after having me locked up in jail.
7. Starting a fight because you expect me to fight for you.
8 Expecting me to support you financially like your parents while you blow your money partying.
I've had a few rotten exes lol

What are your "No Go's" in a relationship?

trisarahtops94 · Answer

On that list, no empathy would be the worst. Or someone who refuses to be empathetic. That said I could never date someone who is very self destructive (smoker, heavy drinker, etc.). I've seen too much of that in my family life/ childhood). I just can't do it.

iwannalicku · Answer

out of what you have on your list no empathy would be the one but my real one is that I don't share your pussy with anyone and your the only one that gets my cock I don't want to be licking your pussy and eating some other guy's cum yeah pretty gross huh,, anyways I don't like to share my woman with anyone else

LovelyFlower · Answer

Few Deal breaks for me = I wouldn't date a cheater nor someone who can't keep a conversation going & has a mental illness.

Prof_Don · Answer

Out of the choices here, 'no empathy' is a major character flaw that I can't deal with.

Any woman who isn't in tune with expressing emotions, or acknowledging emotions, is an instant #DealBreaker. I'm a very emotional guy. I express my emotions.

In fact I have known girls throughout my life, that I found attractive physically/sexually but lacked that emotional attentiveness. So I befriended them and are still good friends to this day.

mooky06 · Answer

No empathy is pretty bad for me. It most definitely wouldn't work out.

BaileyisDarcy · Answer

You have to be able to handle me on my bad days. I dont care how you do it, just make sure i know you aren't being flippant about whatever it is im feeling shit about.

IAmRedThunder · Answer

Jealousy, lack of empathy, dog hater, doesn't want to have kids, and doesn't want to get married.

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

If you don't show even a shred of the effort that I put forth, become manipulative or controlling, jealous and demanding - I will disappear as if I was never there to begin with.

Carley99 · Answer

No empathy that person is more likely to be a psychopath and I'm too emotional and have too huge of s heart for that.

heemang · Answer

If you're heartless and a robot then how are you human? I need someone to understand how I feel and be able to relate or comfort me.

w_brown · Answer

Cheating, smacking, no future goals, way too many partners, selfish, racist, drunkard, smokes too much, cussing too much, these are things I won't tolerate.

HenriJamesJr · Answer

First three. Jealousy is just controlling someone else to make up for lack of self-control. Empathy is absolutely necessary in a relationship. And dealing through the bad days will make it last. Partners doesn't mean much inherently, everyone wants closeness and/or sex.

lolace · Answer

I can deal with no empathy but a partner destroying my self worth (cheating, talking you down, etc) is a big no go.

notallthere98 · Answer

No empathy and not being able to handle my bad days are tied. They meant the same thing to me.

Sunburst223 · Answer

Overly controlling and jealous, and lack of empathy are definitely the biggest ones. I can't and won't be with someone who refuses to treat me like a human being.

Caaarl · Answer

Honestly there's tons of things. One unique one is I can't stand people who treat animals like they're human. You never want to be that guy who loves her dog as much as you. They'll always talk about them. Fuck that.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

The number of people who I see every night of the week on my local news cast is frightening who lack & don't give a fuck about how another dude can just kill this dude and people saying he deserved it, his mom holding his head out of the gutter.

wysiwyg2525 · Answer

I don't like smokers, liers, comparing me to other guys especially your ex, laziness, argumentative, selfish, no manners or respect. Don't put words in my mouth or think for me.

Rissyanne · Answer

Someone who abuses or neglects animals... I know that wasn't an option but it is big to me.

Iron_Man · Answer

Disloyalty issues, cheating, selfish acts, not pulling your weight in the relationship. I could go on and on

Justacatlady · Answer

I choose no empathy. If you can't feel for someone else, what does that say about how you feel about me. Or our relationship.

BioticGod · Answer

A girl who isn't at least a little geeky or one who won't support my geeky hobbies.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

No empathy would definitely be a dealbreaker for me. But I don't think anyone has just one dealbreaker. There are also other things that would make me unable to pursue a relationship with someone.

lumalost · Answer

No empathy. Somebody who refuses to try and understand your problems and can't empathize with you occasionally or when you really need is not a caring person. People with loads of ex partners can be very good people, if someone can't always handle your bad day it may be a one off thing and we all try to make other people jealous to impress others. Its natural, we just have to try not to do it.

SmartiePantsSanchez · Answer

All of the above, along with BEING ABUSIVE, which is the most important no-go, yet is somehow not an answer choice.

MidnightThoughts · Answer

Controlling, jealous and insecure. Usually these characteristics come all at once. That's never good.

Kacik · Answer

My opinion is... the first three options + selfishness, the total lack of kindness, willingness to compromise

missgatsby · Answer

All of those, but most empathy is the worst one.  I don't want to date a sociopath, after all. I don't think anyone in their right mind would.

IAmBlueThunder · Answer

Wants kids, wants to get married, doesn't get along with my bros, has a problem with my lifestyle, etc

Tkwizard · Answer

it would be racist, unintelligent, no empathy, narcissistic would be an automatic no for me. I value personality and intelligence more than anything.

sadgirl2002 · Answer

Selfish, rude, not emotional, hateful, cheap, doesn't want a family, disrespectful, non hygienic, lacks common sense

NatashaJ · Answer

trying to work it out when they refuse to change but just wants to keep you around when your not happy.

mryoungbuck · Answer

If she wear Anything Except Thongs! That applies with swimsuits. My woman wears only thong one piece and thong bikinis. Also eating like a barbarian at a formal restaurant is a no go.

mattmanyah · Answer

is a non Christian has no heart for kids (i'm going to run an orphanage) dosnt care for hurting people and someone that only points out the bad.

Ashleynicole1006 · Answer

Cheating, Lying, Flirting, Hiding Things, Making Eachother Jealous,

Anonymous · Answer

I will not date a cheater. I also will not date an Aquarius.

energyencounters · Answer

the worst is a lying bastard - who's just a scared little baby to admit they aren't perfect and make mistakes that hurt and they either lie or say I don't know or it wasn't me - please with that shit

Gemmyy · Answer

Pretty much all of the above. Apart from D, that one doesn't matter.

fabulouspancakes · Answer

No empathy is a big one for me, since it is the cause behind so many problems in a relationship.

Rangers · Answer

Selfishness, immaturity, feminist, drug user, or no sense of logic are huge deal breakers for me. My ex hit almost all of those which is why I dumped her.

DatRandomGuy · Answer

Fake person, dumb, load of ex-partners (especially when she is the one dumping them). I can go on.

Sakura99 · Answer

No empathy and can't handle me when I'm at my worst

IwanderIwonder · Answer

Someone who lies (say what you mean, mean what you say). And  Someone who wants kids

Uyouko · Answer

Deal breaker... I can take a lot... but if I find someone worth the anger, pain and all that... and she is down to fight for what we have if she isn't then that's the deal breaker

Nahid1234 · Answer

She can't have A Lot of sex experience and prefer her to be a virgin as me 😅

coszie · Answer

none of those. someone who is unintelligent or never on time.

Anonymous · Answer

Top 3 + lying and forgetting almost everything/ignoring me for weeks or months without a good excuse. I give up on a relationship after about half a month of no contact without a good reason.

SuhDudez · Answer

cheating, lack of empathy, narcissistic, selfish, no sense of humor. Are my deal breakers.

dnbfilmmaker94 · Answer

Egotistical, narcissistic , a cheater , a liar , basically any person who has no sense of right and wrong.

Summer90 · Answer

Ignorance and no insight on themselves  From your list - no empathy

spicypepe · Answer

I really hate clingy guys. like, even mildly clingy. I can't be with someone who expects me to want to spend all of my free time with them - sometimes I want to just be with friends, or be alone. if a guy can't accept that I can't be with them.

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